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Re: Memory care
It is one of the hardest things I have ever done, too. And the sadness is there every time I visit and then leave him, and the guilt is almost overwhelming at times. But, I know he is doing better th…8 -
Re: Memory care
I’m sorry, Buggytoo. Each step in this long journey is painful.3 -
Re: Memory care
Buggytoo, I am so sorry for you and your LO. There is no bright side to this thing, is there?2 -
Re: Three Years in Memory Care
Just letting you know that, I, too, feel that "coming home to an empty house" sadness. No matter how terrible our last days before MC were, it's still a shock to the system.3 -
Re: Advice request
Thanks, Quilting. I appreciate your input. I've decided to not have a funeral. He will be cremated. We have a plot already, but his ashes will be saved until I pass, and then we'll be buried together…3 -
Re: Angry at optimists
The “he’s still in there” trope is so tough. Yeah, maybe parts of him are there, but I’m sorry, that’s not good enough for me. I want all of him. Not the phantom glimmer of something that could be re…1 -
Memory care
These last few days may have been the saddest of my life. Our kids and I moved my DH to memory care on Tuesday. DH has been mostly calm but with anxiety and confusion in the mix. I am grateful he was…19 -
Re: Angry at optimists
I’m sorry for the grief you are feeling. This long good bye sucks big time. I think it’s important that we don’t let our anger extinguish all the brightness of life, no matter how small a flicker it …1 -
Re: Angry at optimists
I can relate with you Brez. Both of my parents are in AL and on the dementia bus. My Dad is farther on journey but by mom is catching up quickly. It sucks. Hospice calls me with updates and all I hea…1 -
Re: Angry at optimists
I hear you, Brez. I experience this anger not so much with my mom's caregivers as with family and friends who try to explain away her deficits and convince me that she's "still in there". T…3
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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