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Re: Tired
Vent away! It lets the steam off the pressure cooker of caregiving. My husband was in memory care in a room with another patient who didn't know his name or his wife but could name every puppy t…3 -
Re: What's the one thing that gets to you the most
Diane, you are quite right. I do all of those things to try to determine if there’s pain if she is hungry, etc. and spend lots of time trying to soothe her. Keep things quiet. It pains me to think th…4 -
Re: What's the one thing that gets to you the most
Dad and I didn't share a very warm relationship, but watching him morph from an unusually attractive, articulate and well-groomed man into some sort of yeti with crumbs in his beard wearing a te…6 -
Re: What's the one thing that gets to you the most
at this point it is DH constantly asking me to find brain pills that will fix him. He thinks the doctors are not reliable because they haven’t given him anything that works. He sees the prevagen or n…5 -
Constantly saying Help Me please
I am a daughter with autism age 50 and live with my elderly father age 85. He keeps repeating the phrase Help ME please, very insistently, and then switches to Help me Jesus or praying the Hail Mary.…2 -
Re: 4.5 years in caregiving
It’s been three years for me. It’s so emotionally draining. Like you, I have fallen into a kind of rhythm. I visit mom once a week, but never know what to expect. I think I brace myself for the worst…2 -
Re: Tired
We are actually in a hotel right now. When we stayed here in the past, I was able to sleep in and DH would enjoy the free breakfast, and then bring me back a coffee and some bacon. Yum! Now, I need t…3 -
Re: Coping with loss
Anna,Ernie 123 pretty much summed up my journey. DH was diagnosed in May, 2010, and has faded away little by little every day since. Early on, I accepted our fate, but refused to give in to it. (I’ve…1 -
Re: Coping with loss
"There is no easy answer. It comes down to accepting the new reality you find yourself living." I think acceptance is critical. I accepted my wife's diagnosis early on, and I was able …1 -
Re: Coping with loss
Ernie 123 Boy you saved me a lot of typing My story is the same except DW is younger I was 19 when I met her 24 when we got married and We live in the house where I first kissed her in 1972 I see DW …1
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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