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  • Re: You have to laugh sometimes

    My dh threw 3 sets of sheets away because he didn't like them. Also any food in the fridge he doesn't like.
  • Re: People just don’t understand

    One of the thoughts that causes me so much guilt and reflects how hard this is, is that I would not have chosen to be with the person my DH is now. I chose a different man. The one I live with now ca…
  • Re: Rehab to Memory Care

    Thanks. At my mom's MC you have to private pay for 2 years before going on Medicaid. My mom has enough to live there for a few years. She hasn't even lived there for one yet. I just hope th…
  • Re: When is a person considered incontinent?

    in my husband’s case he gets to the toilet in time, but doesn’t want to sit on it, so he does all his 1’s and 2’s standing up over it. Sometimes he’s off by an inch or two. He no longer wipes. Becaus…
  • Re: Bowel incontinence

    DH has once a week fecal incontinence, he wears depends, i have a two hour alarm on his iPhone. He is resistant to going to bathroom. I can never tell if he has a depend on or not. I hope it doesn’t …
  • Re: Bowel incontinence

    I stopped by my parents' house once after dad had had an accident and mom was doing clean up. Not only did her not know how it happened, he accused mom of "putting the sh*! in his pants&quo…
  • Re: Bowel incontinence

    Thank you all for your advice. Yes he wears adult diapers (has for quite awhile). And he’s on hospice so yes he has meds. Seroquel and Klonopin twice a day. Ativan when he’s agitated. If he’s resista…
  • Re: Bowel incontinence

    We are in stage 4. I will put her in memory care if we get to that point. I’m not built for that as I’m handicapped and it’s shoulders and arms. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with all this. Marr…
  • Re: A big Ouchy for New Year’s Eve

    Scrolling through and just found this @wose what a horrible nightmare I do hope the burns are mending. Described so well it sounded like a bad taste movie and like Bailey’s Mom I am a sucker for bad …
  • Re: People just don’t understand

    it's tragic, for sure, and while we deal with the ambiguous loss of our soul mate, family members don't really understand what our daily life is like. My DW thinks we live in her grandma�…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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