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  • Dementia Conversation

    My DW, late stage 6, still speaks, but mostly it’s gibberish—word salad, invented words, impossible to follow. But yesterday, clear as a bell. Here’s the convo: DW (not looking at me): Honey? Me: Yes…
  • My DH called me a name today...

    This morning my DH called me a b**ch. I'm so angry & sad. Not at him but at the disease and disappointed in myself that I lost my temper with him. He was diagnosed 2 years ago with frontal memory…
  • Midwest Gal You just never know what's next

    I really thought that I could make it to the end of this journey with DH at home. I worked with mentally and intellectually disabled people for close to 40 years. I assumed i had more "tools&quo…
  • Re: I want to be finished

    Hi, Malka. You're not a horrible person. Anyone who has ever helped a loved one endure a horrible terminal illness wants it "to be over." You're not wishing for the demise of your loved one…
  • Re: How to make the decision

    My reason was probably a little different from most. My wife could not make me understand what she was asking/telling me, much of the time. "Three to eleven" took the place of any word she …
  • By Beachfan…..55 years

    Today DH and I would have celebrated 55 married years. I am at the ‘shore in the sweet little home that has been in my family since 1951. I am within walking distance to the beach where DH proposed t…
  • Re: Great reads and many tears

    Even on a good day, I have an overwhelming sense of doom. My brain is so fogged up with his dementia I don’t have a real life. I don’t think he is blind, but I know he can’t see, so I am his eyes. He…
  • I did it

    This will be a long post. Please forgive me ahead of time. Last Friday I called 911 and got my husband taken to emergency. His feet were really swollen and he was somewhat feverish. So off to the hos…
  • Re: Changing from Memory care to Home

    I am certain that most have "second thoughts" about having placed a loved one in a facility for any number of reasons. Perhaps it would help you to make a "pro/con" list for bring…
  • An interesting description of dementia by someone who has it.

    My DH is about 2 years into his diagnosis of moderate MCI and dementia of unspecified nature. He was having an especially difficult day and couldn't seem to remember anything or get himself oriented …

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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