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Re: Reached out to my state rep
I appreciate all that you wrote. I’m 13 years younger than my husband. We are both retired. We have social security and a small nest egg. We (meaning me) cannot afford the expense of placement or in …6 -
Re: Jo C, privacy and a good wishes thread
Boo - thank you dear old friend - one of the "originals" on this site. She is an awesome person and SO wise. Wish to see her here more. Grin - had to get that in there King Boo - you have b…10 -
My observations about MC
First of all, at least in my situation, an MC isn't like "committing" them to an "institution" where we imagine them in straight jackets banging their heads against the wall all d…7 -
On a lighter note……one year in
Last Sunday marked one year without DH. On Saturday, I felt the need to carry out a threat that I had made many times over many years. DH coached HS baseball for 43 years on the field that is now nam…15 -
Re: Memory Care, Early Retirement, or Keep Pushing On?
I just had to make this same decision. I chose to place DH and keep working. I took a month off with FMLA, and that allowed me the time and energy to focus 100% on DH, and also allowed me to see what…8 -
Re: Memory Care, Early Retirement, or Keep Pushing On?
Bill, in addition to the factors you mentioned I also realized that quitting to take on caregiving full-time would leave me at the end with no spouse, no recent work experience, and no current indust…7 -
Re: Memory Care, Early Retirement, or Keep Pushing On?
I suggest memory care and keep working. If you take early retirement, there’s still no guarantee that you won’t have to eventually put her in MC or a SNH anyway. You’ll be in even less great financia…7 -
Re: Memory Care, Early Retirement, or Keep Pushing On?
Bill I wish there were an easy or obvious answer for you. To be honest, your posts in the past have sometimes filled me with dread and anxiety because they have such a desperate tone, and many times …10 -
Re: A Little Introspection
How I can relate to what you are saying. I've always been the strong one, capable, manage it all. I do that every day but nights are so tough. My only alone time and my mind thinks of all the plans w…5 -
Re: Reached out to my state rep
Thanks for the motivation to contact our reps. I find it shocking that those of us who have worked and paid into this system all of our lives are faced with such bleak prospects all because our spous…7
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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