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Re: Seeing the worst in me
ButterflyWings is so right. I am so sorry you are in this situation. I had to learn it too - you cannot have discussions nor reason with DW about what needs to happen. Just use your best judgment and…4 -
Re: Seeing the worst in me
Don't ask, don't tell. Alz has taken her independence and judgement away, not you. As my DH's neuropsych said on diagnosis "you are in charge now". You are discussing things that her brain …8 -
Re: Hospitalization for agitation-round 3
I think you did the right thing to come home after 3 hours. You need some rest and a little distance and I believe you are right that they need to see what may unfold without you there to mediate his…5 -
Re: Need immediate support
You are doing exactly the right thing. You must continue to stress that he is a danger to himself and others (you) if discharged and that you cannot safely care for him at home. Keep saying that, ove…4 -
Re: Missing my life
my DH is in memory care the last 6 months. I miss him so much it hurts. I miss us. Thankful for almost 39 years together, but I feel I’ve lost myself and my purpose in life. Struggling with creating …5 -
Re: Hospitalization for agitation-round 3
I’m really sorry you’re having to endure this (as is your DH). I might be in the minority with this opinion, but what harm would temporarily over sedating him do? The alternative is him being a dange…8 -
Re: Is there any early warning system for dementia?
The estate planning and POAs should be in place anyway whether there's a diagnosis or not. And the POA/executor/spouse should be looped in in on spending and investments in case there's an accident o…1 -
Re: So very weary...
That is very normal. If we were all honest with ourselves, we would admit that we want our suffering to end as well. It has been nearly a decade for me and I just want it to be over - for my DW and f…9 -
Re: So very weary...
@Judy.T. Thank you. I have long believed that as a society we treat our pets much better than we do the most vulnerable of our population.6 -
Re: So very weary...
I am so sorry! Wanting your DH's suffering to end does not make you a bad person. Obviously, you love your DH and want the best for him. I think it is reasonable to forgo treatment of UTI (and pneumo…4
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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