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Re: “Fiblets”
Here is my take on fibs/lies. We can tell the truth to do the right thing and have a clear conscience. We will no longer feel bad that we have been dishonest. We would be telling the truth to make yo…3 -
Re: “Fiblets”
Rachel Wonderlin, one of the best dementia care experts I've seen, trademarked the term "Embracing Their Reality". I find this technique much more successful with my mom than fiblets, …4 -
Re: “Fiblets”
It’s such a sad, difficult and uncomfortable position to be in, especially when we have always prided ourselves on being truthful with each other, now you are dealing with somebody whose brain is no …3 -
Re: “Fiblets”
it would make it worse. It would increase his anxiety and agitation. You are doing it for him. To keep him calm. Don’t feel guilty. We learn to fib and blame the doctors, the objects, etc. If he has …4 -
Re: “Fiblets”
I know this is difficult and most of us can relate in a heartfelt way …. You might ask yourself if you have shared any other unpleasant truths and what his reaction was. Then I would multiple that re…3 -
Re: Problems with aides because DH is a difficult patient
So there were three employees- SNF, hospice and the MAINTENANCE worker in the room? That they hire staff who views "care giving" as a spectator sport is beyond the pale. Hospice should have…1 -
Re: My beloved is declining
I've found that down the road your LO may not longer remember the today you and may think that you are someone from their past but if that is someone they cared about and felt comfortable with b…1 -
Re: Asking for tips on how to get LO to drink lots of water for radiation
What are the goals of radiation therapy? For example, will it shrink his prostate so he can avoid the need for a catheter? If there is not some clear goal other than "treating cancer", then…3 -
Re: What do I do?
I get the frustration. DH began complaining to our PCP about having issues with his memory in 2019. I didn’t notice anything and thought it was stress related from a super busy work life. We went to …2 -
Re: What do I do?
First off, so sorry you are walking this road with us here. I hope your experience with neurologists is different than ours but we had a completely wrong diagnosis of normal pressure hydrocephaly fro…6
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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