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  • Re: Hospice for Alzheimer's

    Hospice for those age 65 and over is covered by Medicare, for those people on Medicare or Medicare Advantage. No income limits. Though hospice is normally limited to someone with a six month life exp…
  • Re: What do I do?

    you have received great info already so I’ll just add a couple of things that will help while you wait for the Neurologist appt: make a detailed list of his behaviors. Get it to the Neurologist befor…
  • Re: FTD Any signals that the Mood is changing?

    it can happen so quickly. Anxiety causes it. The more routine and calm you can keep him the better. For example I got up before my DH and fixed breakfast. I then woke him up and said “your breakfast …
  • Re: Problems with aides because DH is a difficult patient

    so sorry. I would report it immediately. Be specific. SNF’s usually have 2 types of patients and MC facilities only have dementia patients. I believe the MC caregivers are better trained to handle de…
  • Re: “Fiblets”

    Here is my take on fibs/lies. We can tell the truth to do the right thing and have a clear conscience. We will no longer feel bad that we have been dishonest. We would be telling the truth to make yo…
  • Re: “Fiblets”

    Rachel Wonderlin, one of the best dementia care experts I've seen, trademarked the term "Embracing Their Reality". I find this technique much more successful with my mom than fiblets, …
  • Re: “Fiblets”

    It’s such a sad, difficult and uncomfortable position to be in, especially when we have always prided ourselves on being truthful with each other, now you are dealing with somebody whose brain is no …
  • Re: “Fiblets”

    it would make it worse. It would increase his anxiety and agitation. You are doing it for him. To keep him calm. Don’t feel guilty. We learn to fib and blame the doctors, the objects, etc. If he has …
  • Re: “Fiblets”

    I know this is difficult and most of us can relate in a heartfelt way …. You might ask yourself if you have shared any other unpleasant truths and what his reaction was. Then I would multiple that re…
  • Re: Problems with aides because DH is a difficult patient

    So there were three employees- SNF, hospice and the MAINTENANCE worker in the room? That they hire staff who views "care giving" as a spectator sport is beyond the pale. Hospice should have…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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