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• Re: The Cavalry Is Not Coming

  Ed1937

  September 2022
  Bill_2001 wroteRather than post another hopeless, angry rant filled with strife, I want to share with you how one of my greatest fears has come to pass, and how it is actually a relief. Bill, I'…
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• Re: endgame

  clenno

  November 2025
  So, when my mother notices that she's declining (forgetting words, having difficulty physically or mentally) I usually find some topic to distract her until she's off the topic. With my hus…
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• Re: endgame

  terei

  November 2025
  The answer is to tell her whatever comforts her. ‘ I’m sure you will feel better soon. ‘. If she asks what’s wrong, say that she is just having normal memory/aging issues…’nothing to worry about’. Tr…
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• Re: endgame

  jfkoc

  November 2025
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• Re: endgame

  GothicGremlin

  November 2025
  I'm with the others - never bring this up.
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• Re: endgame

  tonyac2

  November 2025
  I never bring up my DH decline, I love him too much to do something so painful. I love what @Metta said, essentially build up, don’t tear down.
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• Re: Scared of the clarity

  Cat K

  November 2025
  I had heard of this "surge" happening, and then I experienced it with my father-in-law. He didn't have dementia, but after he fell and broke his hip, he wasn't the same. It change…
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• Re: Scared of the clarity

  SDianeL

  November 2025
  my husband hadn’t spoken for a couple of weeks before he passed except yes or no answers. One day I patted his arm and said I love you honey, and he turned to me, looked me in the eyes and said “I lo…
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• Re: endgame

  Metta

  November 2025
  I tell DH that he is “getting stronger everyday” and when we measure his arm for weight loss because he can’t stand on a scale to weigh him, I tell him that he has such big muscles that we are trying…
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• Re: endgame

  Quilting brings calm

  November 2025
  why would you want to do this repeatedly. It’s creating drama and serves no purpose. She can’t understand it, can’t process it and won’t remember it. This is when a fiblet is needed.
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