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  • Re: I just had to ask how much time he has left

    I would discuss this information with your adult children. I keep mine in the loop about DH. Sometimes it feels like a doom and gloom conversation which I hate but I don’t want them to ever feel like…
  • Re: Trying to self stage DH

    I too thought understanding what "stage" my dear wife was in would be helpful. And then I learned that each person is different and fluctuates between stages often. To me the values of the …
  • Trying to self stage DH

    I have gotten some wonderful words of encouragement and great information on staging from you and I so appreciate it!!! I still have a question though. I read the stages and see some things in one ca…
  • Re: Just Sad

    “Made me feel like I was a terrible person because I got frustrated. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week is a LOT of time to act like a saint!” Boy does this resonate! Newsflash—I am not a saint. I promise…
  • Re: Just Sad

    I don't often share my poems outside my immediate family because I use poems as a way of opening up my feelings. I have done this for years for my dear wife and other family members but today, a…
  • Re: Just Sad

    One of the things that made my sadness worse was when I would watch videos or read books about caregiving and they would say things like, "stay calm (frustration makes them worse), don't ge…
  • Re: The Good , the Bad , and the Ugly of late stage 7

    @Vitruvius - when I saw this thread come up a couple of days ago, I thought about you and wondered about your DW. I'm so sorry this has gone on for so long for both of you. It was sobering when …
  • Now in stage 8

    My DH passed away at age 65 last Saturday, Sept. 27th. I was glad we all got to say our goodbyes before he passed. I now understand stage 8. My days feel like a roller coaster of emotions, but the ni…
  • Heartfelt Gratitude

    I’m overwhelmed at the kindness, concern, and helpful suggestions of books, online therapy, and other resources- especially the reminders of the importance of self-care. The latter is the one I have …
  • Re: Taking Away Driving Privileges

    this is a hot topic for me as well. DH is 61 and still working. I have had sidebar conversations with our primary, neurologist, psychiatric neurologist about his driving. The neurologist had the best…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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