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    My husband was diagnosed with Alz. a year ago, though I had been taking notes on things I had been noticing for at least 3 years prior to that. He's still quite capable of caring for himself and…
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    DW is early stage 6. For the past few months it has been a struggle / conflict to get her to change her clothes. I have found something that seems to work (for now) and would like to share. If I tell…
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  • Re: It’s finally happening. Placing hubby in MC

    @Katcat Mom packed up dad's stuff while he napped, and I took it over to the MCF for her and set the room up ahead of time. Since we used a similar fiblet— taking dad to a new doctor to "ma…
  • Re: I just had to ask how much time he has left

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  • Re: Trying to self stage DH

    I too thought understanding what "stage" my dear wife was in would be helpful. And then I learned that each person is different and fluctuates between stages often. To me the values of the …
  • Trying to self stage DH

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  • Re: Just Sad

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  • Re: Just Sad

    I don't often share my poems outside my immediate family because I use poems as a way of opening up my feelings. I have done this for years for my dear wife and other family members but today, a…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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