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  • Re: Crashing

    I have been thinking about the sedation path for a few days now. It's a hard decision to make, but I swear sometimes I can feel my DW vibrating from the sheer amount of energy emanating from her…
  • Re: Crashing

    Thank you all so much. What started so hard, ended easier because of your support.
  • Re: Taking it away

    It has been so helpful reading your posts/comments about losing wallets and other items and your moms or loved ones developing anxiety over not being able to find the items. My sister-in-law has been…
  • Re: Resentful and guilty

    I agree with Sdianel I had some real issues with my wife's past and I was looking into MC before she probably needed it. I our case she had a stroke while I was looking into MC so that made it e…
  • Re: Crashing

    Cindy, you and so many others have endured more than I think I could handle and I am in awe of that. When I finally placed DH in MC I couldn’t believe the relief I felt, but I also felt like I gave u…
  • Re: Crashing

    Cindy I’m right there with you with my DW. I’ve posted about it. From the minute she wakes up until a few minutes after I give her a temazepam for sleep she is in constant motion. She literally spend…
  • Re: STAGE 8 - There is no other side of grief...

    my Dad passed away at 44 yrs old and left my Mom a young widow. Later I asked her how she got through it. She said by putting one foot in front of the other. That’s what I’m doing. I make a list ever…
  • Re: Crashing

    Hi @CindyBum, And hello to everyone - I'm a brand newbie. My DH is 78 and declining. I'm walking the path that you all are, dealing with unpredictable hostility and paranoia targeted at me.…
  • Re: Out of state “friends” hardly there and know everything

    Mom is in a nursing home, so I know it’s a much more difficult situation for you, but I still deal with some crazy family and friends. My brother visits mom fairly regularly, but has his head firmly …
  • Re: How to deal with denial

    I here you. My DW of 32 years is in total denial as well. She accuses me of thinking she is "stupid" whenever I offer a suggestion that she should follow an alternative course of action. Al…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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