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Re: Nights are the worst...
My heart goes out to you. I had planned to take care of my husband at home until the end. But after 2 years of sleepless nights, I placed him in MC. My husband wandered around the house in middle of …1 -
Re: Showboating?
it’s frustrating but common. They can showtime for about 10-15 minutes at a time. Usually in front of doctors or family and friends. It’s mentally draining for them and usually after they are either …1 -
Re: First post
When our loved ones have unrealistic expectations, it can be helpful to go along with them, but "not right now." So instead of saying he can't go to his parents' house, you might say we can…5 -
Re: The dementia routine
I can relate to your comment about respite giving you an opportunity to see what you're missing and feeling like it makes your reality worse. The first time I got 3 hours to myself I didn't know what…4 -
Re: The dementia routine
The ability of us humans to "normalize" what we are constantly surrounded by on a daily basis is truly impressive. What I would describe as a normal, or even somewhat decent day would be vi…2 -
Re: Overwhelmed
Forget about the ADA accommodations and get him out on disability ASAP. Does he have short-term and long-term disability? Do the short-term first. If the employer is bad, they will end up firing him …2 -
Re: Overwhelmed
a04723, curious about how many years went and what stage you would estimate your husband to have been when you first agreed on conditions for MC, versus what stage he had progressed to by 2024. My DW…1 -
Re: Did I Over React?
I was/am in a similar situation with my hubby. I’m now thinking maybe it is vascular dementia. I’m having such a hard time accepting a dementia diagnosis because he “flip-flopped” so many times, I th…1 -
Re: From Spouse to Nurse
it’s not easy to do. It takes practice. We’re human and not perfect. Keep trying to do the best you can. For me, I just kept repeating to myself the quote someone on this forum posted “you can’t reas…2 -
Re: From Spouse to Nurse
I thought I had made the switch to caregiver and then advocate many times but then I would want to have a meaningful conversation, so I had to make the switch again. This time I think it is finally p…5
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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