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  • Re: Using AI

    Will it help me compose an obituary for my DH? I want to have it mostly finished before he passes away because I know I will be too emotional at the time to put anything together. Sounds very interes…
  • Re: Using AI

    i use ChatGPT and find it very helpful. For example, the social worker at the subacute rehab suggested not using all of my DH's 100 covered days and to "bank" some of them in case he h…
  • Re: Where do I start?

    We don’t know a lot about your situation like if you have siblings or if you live close to your mom, etc. H1235 gave you a lot of good advice. Get the book The 36hr Day so you can begin to understand…
  • Re: Where do I start?

    Welcome. Sorry you need to be here. There is so much to do in the beginning. One of the most important things is to see a lawyer. She should appoint a durable power of attorney, a medical poa, a livi…
  • Re: We can't persuade her to take a shower anymore.

    Due to my dad’s combativeness (verbal and fists) and resistance to hygiene measures esp with urine incontinence (one long 12-day streak of fighting the shower and efforts to care for his thin skin et…
  • Re: Dad won't let Mom sleep (or clean or be on the phone)

    You could just go visit your dad when your mom is gone. If he complains, tell him you planned on visiting them both, and mom just lost out on your visit.
  • Re: Frustration and Delay getting ID

    Fortunately, my DH (almost 75 & mid stage 5) doesn’t complain anymore about not driving so until his Driver’s License expires, I would use that as his ID. We had a change of address so went to th…
  • Re: Unprepared

    Thank you all for your kind comments and hugs. They are much needed and I am grateful! I wanted to share one great thing that happened yesterday. I have a CNA a few hours a week so that I can go to t…
  • Re: Using AI

    I just did to research getting rid of a corvette my husband refuses to believe he can no longer drive. It's been 6 months and I have a neighbor that wants to buy it. I researched would he recogn…
  • Re: Using AI

    I used ChatGPT when I put my wife on hospice to ask a lot of questions about how it would affect insurance and what I could and could not do. It also helped drive home the true underlying purpose of …

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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