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  • Re: Need to talk to someone

    it is a long long lonely road and doesn’t get any better, we just learn to cope better. I’m sitting at my sewing machine about to snatch some precious moments for myself, self preservation is upmost.…
  • Re: I just want more time.

    This horrible hideous illness my DH is so dreadfully ‘not there’ my daughter wishes he had an incurable cancer and I think our son is in denial. I have a great support team but I feel desperate, desp…
  • Re: My dear husband has left me

    my heart goes out to you at such a sad time. My tears fall for you, the courageous journey that we all share and the very sad ending. I cry for you knowing that we will all have to face this journey …
  • Re: Is a diagnosis of any benefit?

    One value of a doctor's diagnosis is it provides evidence that a successor caregiver can use to assert power of attorney and assume decision making authority over care and financial matters. My DW an…
  • Re: Short-term rehab facility vs. home care ?

    I think it depends on what you want. As another said, the rehab will delay the transition home and if he hasn't been up, might help. As far as home care, are they talking about private care that you …
  • Re: New here - Contemplating my future while grappling with current issues

    an elder attorney seems like a good place to start. Also read the 36 hour day if you haven’t. He’s incapable of functioning the way you want him to. His brain is broken and it will get worse. By what…
  • Re: When to move?

    I’m sorry you are having to make such a big decision. My husband was placed a few weeks ago and I need to move also. It’s all so overwhelming and any change in his world causes massive confusion and …
  • Re: When to move?

    Welcome to the forum Sally. I say do what you need to do with your own future in mind. He is going to decline, regardless, and whatever makes it easier on you. We didn't downsize when we should have …
  • Re: When to move?

    My mom moved in with me when she was in very early stages. We did it then so she could adjust more easily. It did not cause a decline and she did well. Everyone reacts differently. Hopefully, if you …
  • Re: When to move?

    Sorry you have to make these decisions on your own. We moved to FL and drove with a dog and cat in the car. We did not care for the heat and moved back to Ohio after 1 1/2 years. Then we moved for th…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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