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Lazy Husband
My husband has alzheimers. He has always been a hard worker. Now everything has stopped. I know he is capable of mowing lawn, taking out trash, weedwaking, helping clean yard. Am I expecting too much…5 -
Re: Medication for Anxiety
My DH started chewing his pills, so I started crushing the ones I could and putting them in ice cream. The one I can’t crush, I put whole in with the crushed ones. Most often he takes them. Occasiona…5 -
Re: My Girlfriend
My wife had hallucinations and was helped by antipsychotic medications. Telling her the things she "saw" weren't there was of no benefit, because they were as real to her as daylight. …5 -
Re: Lazy Husband
Interesting timing of your post. My DH has a cognitive disorder, they won't call it VD yet. He's had 3 strokes, memory is fairly intact but slipping, still walking but mobility is declining…8 -
Re: Lazy Husband
I was thinking that too in the beginning. He was always lump on a log but dementia brought him to a full stop. I finally realized he is just incapable of doing things. The brain shrinks sometimes pre…7 -
Re: Memory Care and Home Visits
I’m trying to imagine a positive experience resulting from this primarily because of the reasons listed above. If the PWD is asking to go back, it will be better to try to reinforce the idea that whe…2 -
Re: Lazy Husband
I hired a lawn mower and a housekeeper, because my wife could no longer do the things she formerly did. FWIW, I would much prefer that a PWD not try to use any power tools. I have seen what a lawn mo…6 -
Re: Trying to keep him at home
I have my husband at home under hospice care and have for about 18 months. He is still mobile most of the time with my help or a walker and can still help enough that I can get him up out of bed. My …7 -
Re: Not Showering
Lots of good advice and tips here. I had similar issues with my DH - he HATED to be wet and absolutely would not get in the shower no matter what I tried. The tips about getting the water warm first,…3 -
Re: Not Showering
My humble suggestion is to change you goal from "getting her to shower more often", to instead be "maintaining good hygiene while minimizing anger and resistance". As diseased pro…6
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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