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  • Re: Keeping a loved one at home vs nursing care

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  • Re: Quick question

    Kind of same as Scooterr. She would rather be with me than anyone else but if the stars are aligned we can get her to be ok with someone she knows for a bit. Sometimes she’ll just sleep. Might be her…
  • Re: Quick question

    My DW shadowing comes and goes. On her bad days she could care less about being around me. On her good days she is shadowing me. Her bad days are rough all around, so I'm happy to have the shado…
  • Re: Quick question

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  • Re: $300 speaker

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  • Well Meaning Friends

    My husband is losing memories. It’s funny, how we’ll be at a dinner party, or run into old friends at the supermarket, and he tells them he is getting forgetful. In most cases, they immediately respo…

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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