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Guilt Trips
I've always been susceptible to my mom's guilt trips, which is something I've been exploring with my therapist. But it's especially hard for me to brush them off now, because I feel responsible for moving her into AL near me, and boy does she like to complain about it! The bed is uncomfortable, the vent in the bathroom is…
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Bathroom accidents
Hi everyone. My mother is the primary caregiver for my father, who has Alzheimer’s that has been progressing quickly. We need some advice. Over the past few months, he has started having significant difficulties with toileting hygiene. He’ll use the bathroom but is no longer able to complete the wiping process — usually…
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Compound caregiving
Hello fellow caregivers. I'm curious if anyone else is on a similar journey to my own. Both my mother and husband were initially diagnosed with MCI two weeks apart, four years ago. At the time she was 78 and he was 63. I placed her in AL two years ago because there was no way I could care for two at home by myself. Now…
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"Survivor's" Guilt
I find that in addition to feeling guilty for the pain I am causing my mom by taking away her independence, I feel a form of "survivor's" guilt, in that it is very hard for me to allow myself to enjoy basically ANYTHING. I feel guilty feeling happy when I know she is struggling with so much (grief at the loss of her…
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Please help me keep my sanity
I wrote some of this in a reply to a comment, but thought I need some more support. I’ve been with my mom for the past week and she has done nothing but yell at me for the last 3 days. For context, I came to her house last week to take her to a doctor appointment, where she finally was given a memory test and did better on…
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Looking to connect in or near Houston Tx area
Hello friends- I am newly diagnosed Early Onset. I'm looking for support groups, counselors or therapists/social workers who can offer support in this stage. I am in my early 50s, still working, kids in college, mortgage, mom with Alz. I need help and a place to be able to talk about what this means for my life. Like,…
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Barely Surviving Everday…
Hi, I am new here. By a grace of God, I was given this website, believe it or not from a woman that was a customer service representative at the Treasury Department. My mom has Alzheimer’s, and I suspected it four years ago and sent the alarm to the family. Nobody believed me, and thought it was natural aging, and…
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What do you do for self-care?
My DH received his alz diagnosis 5 mo ago. He is no longer driving but manages most of his ADL’s & putters around our small farm. Most of my caregiving at this point is around appointments, finances, cooking, groceries, mostly typical household things. I can be away from home altho I try to spend as much time here as…
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Looking for Resources in Maryland
Hi there! I am seeking guidance to assit my MOL with my FOL's dementia diagnosis. He is going to adult day care three day per week, but still car tasks at home are getting overly challenging. Here are some of the main issues we are working with: -sundowning (lots of frustration throughout the day) -insomonia -inability to…
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We can't persuade her to take a shower anymore.
Hello, My 85-year-old mother-in-law with Alzheimer's lives with me and my husband. He works full-time and I am at home due to disability. We used to be able to remind her to take a shower every few days and she would grumble a little and do it. Then she started resisting more strongly. We tried asking her if there was…