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  • Re: Am I being unreasonable?

    Ah, shit. My primary caregiver helper resigned today. WTF? Just about the time I get back on track, life smacks you up the side of your head and says: “Take that!”
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    Following a violent outburst (mom attacked her in home caregiver) when she had a UTI, I made the difficult decision to place mom in MC. Tomorrow will be 2 weeks. She is more lucid than the other resi…
  • don't know what to say to DW

    I visited DW yesterday at her MCF, and it was pretty disheartening. I managed to record a bunch of our conversation and transcribe it. The key points: * She asks why she is there, what changed betwee…
  • Slowing progression of disease

    I keep hearing that there are meds that can slow the progression of this disease but I wonder if that's only for those who are diagnosed early? At this point, I wouldn't want to have my DH stuck in t…
  • Day 10

    Day 10. Doing laundry. I tried to sort the clothes and came to the black sweater I wore to the visitation and funeral. I can still smell the scents of the people who hugged me and showed me such love…
  • Re: The Caregiver’s Brain

    ThankyouBill for this poignantly written insight into a decade with dementia. I have The Cavalry is Not Coming pinned on my wall, I have passed it on to a friend (I hope you don't mind) and to my Phs…
  • Re: The Caregiver’s Brain

    I’m still struggling with the things I can no longer do because I cannot leave my DH alone. If I’m out and about, it means I’m paying someone to be at home with him. I used to love taking our pup on …
  • Re: Just need to talk to my friends (205) May 2025

    Good morning! I'm having a tough time this week! Yesterday being the 26th of May is when I lost Lou last year, and Wednesday the 28th would have been her 87th birthday. My home monitor has been showi…
  • Re: Worried

    Thank you everyone for your replies. On the drive there he was showing anxiety. Didn't know where we were ect. (Has been there multiple times) . Once there and after all the hellos and so fort and he…
  • Re: The lack of help is wearing me out

    I am going to say the hard thing —- that your DH will be hurt and won't accept you getting a week alone isn't as important as you getting that week of respite. You need it. He will survive you being …

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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