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Just need to talk to my friends (209)
We just had a nice shower, just before my groceries were delivered. Still sprinkling a little and it's nice and cool. Wonderful weather for the first day of August. Another six weeks and our hot summer will be getting cooler. I'm ready. Need to finish putting away the groceries but wanted to get 209 started. Back later.
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Respite care for a vacation
As I waffle about MC placement, I know that what I really want is to take a vacation, by myself, preferably for 2 weeks. I have no family who would be free to care for DH. MC facilities in Tucson advertise respite care but they will say "only if we have a bed available" which makes it hard to plan. Has anyone successfully…
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looking for hygiene video recommendations
The last couple of months it has gotten really hard to help DW with cleaning up after using toilet, and with bathing. I have tried different approaches, but they generally all end at the same place. At some point my patience ends. I just take over and do what needs to be done and she has her meltdown. I watched a few…
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Want to bring him home not nursing home
Husband probably need physical therapy to get his legs stronger after being hospitalized for falls and the rage of a dementia episode. and bed bound for a week so far. I am not sure of his cognition or aggression since he has been sedated to keep him calm and stay in bed for fear of falling. How can I request the hospital…
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How To Be More Empathetic Towards Mom's Dementia Flashbacks
So my older sister (long-distance caregiver who visits every 1-2 months) just took my Asian mom to her first therapy session to work out the grief from my Dad's death (He died 13 years ago) and other emotional issues that fuel my mom's dementia flashbacks. We are going to do more sessions (virtually since I don't drive)…
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Lessons learned Mom's stroke, husband's Alzheimer's & Step-Dad's stroke
WARNING!! LONG POST. I've been thinking about this lately. I remember being lost and overwhelmed after my Mom's stroke several years ago, my husband's diagnosis of Alzheimer's 4 years ago and my Step-Dad's stroke last November. Some I learned through the school of hard knocks & some I learned on this forum. I hope this…
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Suggestions about what to ask of a home health aid?
We've qualified for 24 hours of help from a home health aid paid by our insurance but I don't know what to ask of this person (if we can find one!). We are both ambulatory, ride bikes together and I manage household chores. My DH is easy going, polite, charming but needs to ask questions all the time and repeats himself…
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Now the hospital has him in a cage?
Because he is so combative and aggressive they said they needed to put him in a Cage ( nylon netting). This was also done so he wouldn't fall. I think this is elder abuse but they said it was for his protection and the staff. Has anyone heard of this and isn't it elder abuse?
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Gas stove knob locks
Looking for recommendations for gas stove knob locks. I have a GE Cafe gas stove with the knobs on the front. My DH has attempted to cook for years but I want to be safe. There are alot on Amazon but mostly geared toward children. Any recommendations?
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New way of life
Hi I am new to the group and had many questions and the alz community has been most helpful. The person I'm caring for has always been a very quiet reserved man now all of a sudden he's become so talkative he mumbles and talks all day I'm just wondering if anybody else goes through this? Thank you all for being there and…
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Looking into Memory Care and Very Sad
My DH is currently in the hospital after he got out of the car when I was at a stop sign, refused to get back in, and crossed a busy 4 lane street during rush hour. Cars had to stop and change lanes to avoid hitting him. I called 911 while he crossed back over again and still kept walking and wouldn't get in the car.…
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Having difficulty in getting mom help
My mother is experiencing episodes of paranoia, loss of memory and irrational behavior and was taken to the hospital on numerous occasions. How do I get help with the process of being diagnosed with Dementia/Alzheimers if she refuses to see her primary care physician?
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Looking for input on situation with my mom
Hi! My mom is 77 and has mid-stage Alzheimer's. She and I have always been super close. I wanted to share a bit about my situation to get some opinions on it. I live about 3 hours away from her, but since I work remotely, I go live with her every few weeks, for about a week or so. She is currently living alone in her…
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Dad’s posture is declining rapidly
My 78 year-old dad with LBD has begun leaning significantly to the left and forward. In just two months, he has gone from being only slightly stooped to hunched at almost a 90 degree angle when standing. This causes him to look at the floor instead of forward so his caregivers are becoming reluctant to walk him (he can…
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MC in Minnesota
Does anyone have experience with any of the SuiteLiving facilities in the Twin Cities?
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Leaning how to adapt.
Hi, My wife has been diagnosed with dementia for over five years. I been taking care of her the whole time. Now things seem to get worse and I’m not sure when I should contact professional help. She was enrolled in the memory center for seven years. Just reaching out for the first time to learn what’s next for me to do.…
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Starting with hospice
at the primary care doctor he suggested it might time to involve palliative care and/or hospice. DH is still ambulatory but needs 100% help and care. Doctor said he would qualify because of weight loss and skin breakdown ( he has pressure sores on his rear). I’m wondering how early others have involved, and what your…
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Overwhelmed at times
I am caring for my wife of 46 years. Her moderate Alzheimer's is progressing every month. Her 2 medications may be working, bit I can't really tell. My emotional and physical albitites are taxed at times. I can continue this hectic pace but feel the need to reach out for help. Any suggestions? My cousin did offer respite…
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Questions
I don't even know where to start. How this awful disease progresses? What to expect in each stage. Where to get information.My DH sometimes seems perfectly okay, an hour later he ask the same questions over and over. I am very patient, it is so hard to see him go through this, he was always kind, loving, helpful, now I see…
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Dealing with DH depression.
My DH seems to do well until about 3 p.m. or so when he gets very depressed and confused. Sometimes he gets restless but it is the depression that worries me the most. I can't get him to do any of the things that he used to enjoy doing.
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Feeds cat 4-8 times a day
My mother has one cat. Sometimes she thinks there are more that pop by. But when prompted, she catches herself and realizes there is only one cat. Regardless of the number of cats that she perceives, she overfeed them. She sets out 4-8 bowls filled with wet food per day. This creates a bad situation as most of it rots, or…
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Bathroom
hello! Recently my dad who has EO has been waking up in the middle of the nights to use the bathroom and he has been unable to find the toilet. Causing him to pee on the carpet and honestly anywhere except the toilet! Any advice? I’ve thought about the alarms to wake me up when he gets out of bed but I’m looking for…
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He Cried
My DH took me by surprise today. He cried one time in our marriage and thst was just for a second. He came in the bathroom and just burst into tears….. over the school shooting today in MN. Lips quivering and sobs. Never saw anything like this from him. Just shocked me. Another part of this dreaded disease, I guess.
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New here
Hi all, I'm new here. I'm my husbands part time care giver. He is moving in to what I think is late stage alzheimers. I have a caregiver here with him while I'm at work. He has trouble speaking, finishing a thought, dressing himself, he can eat alone, but can't make his own food. He can't be left alone anymore. His…
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Life after diagnosis
I’d be interested to hear how you’re dealing with life after dx- like your personality has changed. I feel super sensitive and just different.
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My husband is lucid much of the time
My husband is not so far gone that I could not leave him in memory care or nursing home but when he gets into a rage there is nothing I can do And he is still having trouble walking What should I do? Guilty ridden
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Am I out of line?
Hi, community. I'm currently unable to sleep. My Mom (75 years old) came to our house after an unidentified cognitive episode in February. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a few weeks later. As her identified POA, I, along with my brother, got to asking our mom her wishes and taking action to find a place for her to…
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Treating NPH
Has anyone on this forum actually know, personally, if any one had a lumbar puncture to help diagnose NPH, and if so did it relieve some symptoms, such as cognitive and walking? And how did the person feel after the lumbar puncture? I've been reading that is a relatively rare condition
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Support groups
I'm not a caregiver, though I provide emotional support and conversation almost daily for my mom with Alzheimer's and my dad who is currently her caregiver and dealing with his own health issues. Is there a support group for family who are not caregivers?
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New here... starting to feel lost...
Hello, all my new friends :) … My husband was officially diagnosed almost two years ago, but it's been apparent to those close to him for quite a few years that there were some issues with his memory. He's 75 and I'm 62 and still working full time a job that I LOVE and the insurance at this point is invaluable since he…