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New here.
Hello! I’m new here, but unfortunately not new to dementia. My mom was diagnosed about 3 years ago, and this past March we decided that things were getting to the point we were unable to handle her care. We found a great MC facility. And she is doing the best she can. The hardest thing I’m having to deal with is my dad. My…
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I Want To Live With Someone Else
My spouse with nearly complete aphasia has managed to pull out that full sentence for a couple of weeks now. She is soooooo sick of me being her caregiver. I now represent the person controlling her life and keeping her from driving to go see friends, etc. Which I am, though I'm providing her a safe, loving and comfortable…
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Do I let go or keep going?
My SO who is 46yo EOA is on hospice but thus far it has been more of palliative care. This last week has taken a HUGE turn. The week prior he was up and walking around during the day and would be resting/sleeping when I got home after work from about 5pm till bedtime (8pm/9pm). This last Thursday he lost balance and fell…
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Memory Care + Aide - Make it make sense
I'm trying so hard not to vent, not to be angry. But my mom's MC is asking me to pay for a person to be with her 12 hours a day because of the falling. We literally can't afford this full time, so I'll be doing it on weekends. I get that they can't be with her 1:1 all day, but it's just incredible. The cost seems…
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Just need to talk to my friends (212)
Time to go to bed and watch tv a while. It's been a long day. Hope all of you have a good nights sleep. Thought I would start 212 while I thought about it. Good night.
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Approved for hospice
DH has had palliative care since early this year. At the last visit 10/29/25, the nurse told me he is at 6e on the FAST scale. She called me the following day and said he now qualifies for hospice. I told her I would call her back to let her know if I want to sign him up. I know it's my decision, but I wanted to know what…
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general anxiety
hello-I am new to this group and discussion forum as my husband is now in a group home/assisted living facility and I am on my own. The more time away from each other, the more memories pop up that now seem 'weird' and signs of the dementia beginning, but I had no idea and just shrugged it off. Over and over agin, doctors…
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Antipsychotic drugs affecting Alzheimer patient my mom
my mom is in stage 4 1/2 of the seven stages of Alzheimer’s. She was normal forgetful didn’t really have major sundowning, but we’ll just hang ou, eight fine and sometimes and sometimes slept a lot. Her blood pressure went low. We sent her to the hospital. They sent her to rehab for three weeks, but went home eventually my…
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What next?
My wife is somewhere in stage 7 and still at home with me. I tried her in a memory care facility 6 months ago for a short time. She suffered a bad fall so I brought her home. Her condition continues to deteriorate. She is able to walk with me assisting, but she cannot get out of bed or a chair. She is barely staying awake…
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Dentist appointment
Have an upcoming dental cleaning appt scheduled for this Tuesday and not looking forward to it. The last appt, 6 months ago, was uneventful. However, in the last 6 months, my DHs patience level has disappeared and his agitation levels have increased. I will be bringing his new sitter with us, but any insight as to managing…
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Agitation emotional swings
My DW is in the moderate stages. She had been sleeping well through the night. But lately she has been waking in the middle of the night or very early in the morning with wet depends. She is then very emotional, often crying uncontrollably, and refusing to let me help her get changed. Her mood swings have become frequent…
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ARIA - Do most medical professionals / EMTs know what this is???
I will soo start Leqembi and want to get a medical Id bracelet. I was thinking of putting "at risk for ARIA" but am not sure this is a well known term? Any insight?
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Drained
It has drained our pockets dry. Pray for us.
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Guilt lingers where love was poured without measure...
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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Hospice and new strategies
Good morning. Some off you know me. Briefly DW diagnosed in 2019. Clearly in later stages. I tend not to use the stage number because it gets confusing but she's clearly in stage 6 area. Non verbal except jabbers all the time in a sort of distressed manner. I think it would be classified as global aphasia. Not totally…
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Travel With Alzheimer’s
My wife has Alzheimer’s, and she really wants to move back to her hometown, which is 2500 miles from where we live now. We can either fly or drive (money is not a concern), but I can see potential problems for either. Driving will mean many hours in the car each day, and she doesn’t like that idea. Flying presents other…
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Book: The 36 Hr Day
Greetings all. If you have read this book, what things seemed to stand out or "jump off the page" to you? I have been cherry picking my way through the book and know I have so much to learn. Thank you. Take care.
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Tired and Sad
I thought I was handling things quite well. But short of sleep for the last couple of nights then this morning started at 5.30 with DH saying come on get up, I mumble back, 6 o’clock is get up time and then we’ll have a cup of tea. DH was agitated thinking we had a doctors appointment and we had to get ready. It’s Saturday…
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I am living with a mild form of Alzheimers
The mild form of Alzheimers I've been diagnosed with is not very noticable. I am able to answer questions which are readily posed to me
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Hired companions to supplement MC.
I’m new here. I started writing a long backstory and decided to cut it down to the immediate situation. Mom has been in MC for about a year after being diagnosed with dementia. She went from living independently and walking regularly to MC in a matter of weeks. She has been unhappy depressed and angry about her situation.…
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What do you to talk about with your LOs?
My DH with Alz is in late stage 4, perhaps early stage 5. Most days he's still quite independent in caring for himself and doing household chores. The problem I'm having is that chatting with him has become such a mentally exhausting task. I find myself thinking "oh, I'll just tell him about this" and then I realize I…
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Transitioning to senior living facility
Hello everyone - I am currently caregiving for my 87 year old mom since February of this year (I am her daughter and POA). We are going to move her to senior living in December and I need advice on making the transition happen. She thinks she can live on her own and doesn't think she needs to move. Does anyone have…
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If missing them didn't have to hurt...
I've been hurting mentally & physically since my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The hurting became worse after he passed in August 2024. I recently saw an article about "Thought Stopping" to cope with grief. You can search for the Thought Stopping techniques online. It is helping but it takes practice. The…
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Anyone else taking care of otherwise healthy dementia patient?
Taking care of 85 year old with late stages but body is amazingly healthy, amazes the nurses and doctors each time,,,strong heart, good breathing, strong appetite, and can feed herself most of the time. One should be delighted right? But she is in late stages requires 24 care, is beyond any kind of converstation, but gets…
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Home care aggression
Hi! I’m looking for some advice - mom my was “approved” for 24/7 at home care but we’ve been struggling with her being aggressive to outside caregivers. She’s so sweet - until she’s not- which seems to take about a week then she wants them “out of her house”. She’s on all the typical Alzheimer’s medications & mood behavior…
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Just got the scan results - now what?
Hi — we just received the results of the PET‑CT amyloid, and they are not good. My mom is 76 and has some memory issues, but nothing severe. To be honest, we saw the neurologist mainly to check whether she had any problems; I had no idea she might really have Alzheimer’s disease. Now she has to take a psychoneurological…
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Keeping a loved one at home vs nursing care
My husband has early onset Alzheimer's, do many people going thru this same thing, keep there loved ones at home vs nursing home??
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Just as my DH is forgetting who I am, I am also forgetting who he is.
It is so hard to remember the old DH - the one who made me laugh, who took care of my car, the finances, and the heavy-to-lift things. He is quiet now, very suspicious of my "boyfriends" who seem to be everywhere, and rarely smiles. He has to be fed and has a hard time swallowing, and most meals have at least one incident…
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Anyone Using Tack GPS device?
Hi, Just got a Tack for my dad, pretty good, but it kicks my husband off if I'm on and vice versa. I also only want to see where he is, not share my location but it keep wanting my location and drains my phone battery. Any ideas?