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Cataract surgery
Mom is probably to the end of stage 4. She was diagnosed with vascular dementia 2 years ago. I was told average life expectancy is 5 years. I know that’s just a rough number. She has diabetes with edema in her legs. I don’t think she could follow a storyline to read a book. She is able to choose her meals off the menu at…
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Just need to talk to my friends (205) May 2025
Thanks, CaroLynn, I kept meaning to do this yesterday and never got around to it. Chilly and c!oudy here this morning. I checked and WM will deliver something so had to go out and open the gate so they can come through and turn around without backing all the way to the road. Then. fixed my cereal and hot tea, got back in…
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Re: Respite
Everyone tells me I need to take advantage of the respite being offered by friends - I have complied several times, however the fact that nothing is going to change with regard to caring for my spouse, especially at night. It’s only going to get more difficult and having an afternoon to do whatever for myself is like…
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Very Young Onset – No Answers Yet, Just Holding On
Hi everyone, My name is Cole, I’m 36, and my husband is 37 (turning 38 in July). I’m Autistic, and I’m very good at recognizing patterns — which is how I started putting pieces together that something was very wrong. Looking back, my brain started tracking the weirdness 2–3 years ago, but honestly, most of our marriage has…
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I feel myself withdrawing emotionally
I still love my husband but I feel myself withdrawing emotionally. We've been together 39 yrs but our relationship is very different now. I see my husband declining cognitively and physically. He is 76 but acts more like 86. I am 68 and i on a good day feel more like 48. I know this disease is a one way street, there is no…
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Should we move our loved one
My ex has no diagnosis but has many symptoms of memory decline. She wants to move several states over to live close to hers and my son. But she can only afford an apartment 30 minutes away from my son. Does anyone know of similar situations and how they turned out? Thanks
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Friend
I met him after he was diagnosed. It took me a while to realize how much he needed. He has moved in with me and I have a 4 year old daughter. At first I thought we would like eachother. Now that he's been in my home for two years, my feelings have changed. He needed my help and he helped me a lot. But I have changed our…
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Medicaid and Nursing Homes: Not Political: Just Necessary to Speak Our
I depend on this site for emotional support. It also has made me aware how lucky I am that my husband and I had good jobs and were super savers. I just finished a meeting with a money guy who went over my finances. He walked me through how I can afford good private memory care for my DH without complete exhausting the…
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Excessive Sleeping
Of course I am taking him to the doctor and consulting them about this. Still, I have found other people's experiences helpful on this dementia journey we are on. My dad recently fell, luckily he didn't hit the floor hard, I was able to slowly lower him to the ground. His legs became noodles and he couldn't hold himself up…
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Selling Mom's Home Using POA When She Seems Lucid
I have three siblings and one lives fifteen minutes away from my mom. I live in another state but manage all her finances and anything else I can to take the load off our sibling who lives locally. When I agreed to be my mom's power of attorney, I naively thought it would only come into play for her finances. However, this…
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How to get right in my head...
I struggle with my own emotions dealing with this. I am luckier than many. We are not as far down the road as some. DH can still do all his ADLS but is so emotionally needy. He is safe at home by himself but prefers I sit with him 24/7 and watch reruns of the same TV show we've watched so many times before. I know many of…
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How to stop DH from getting up at night to pee
DH had a partial amputation of his foot due to gangrene (caused by peripheral artery disease). He is not yet supposed to walk on his foot and I have someone with him 24/7 at sub-acute rehab. He will be going back to MC next week. How do I prevent him from getting up in the middle of the night to pee, forgetting about the…
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I'm new to this group
My mom is 91 and has had Dementia for almost 5 yrs. She moved in with me 1 1/2 yrs ago. She fell 2 mos ago and didn't break any bones but was badly bruised, in pain and had to be in a wheelchair. From the ER she was admitted into a PT Rehab. That was awful because they were not for memory care patients and mom couldn't…
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Recent Diagnosis for my wife. Seeking local support groups. Seattle
I am 68, my wife is 72. We are in Seattle. She was recently diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment, though I would place her at the upper end of that diagnosis. I tried to call to get pre-screened for caregiver support group. After waiting a while, the line went dead, then dropped. This year, our son had a brain tumor, a…
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New
My husband is in the process of being diagnosed. He has no short term memory at all. He has lost his desire to play the guitar which he used to do all the time. He is wanting me home all the time and to be with me all the time. He gets upset. He is now having this anger outbursts usually at night. He thinks I want to leave…
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This Cruel, Cruel disease
Today I took my husband to Respite Care for 2 days. Just a few months ago I would have never thought I would do that but things have changed so much. My DH is not a husband anymore and I am truly just his caregiver. I needed the break. Never would I have thought it would come to this as he was the man I loved more than I…
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Geriatrician vs. Neurologist
My DH's PCP referred him to a geriatrician, but I wondered if a neurologist would be better. The geriatrician (we had first visit in January and will see her May 20th) is 30 miles from our house. We could see a neurologist locally. Does anyone have an opinion on who is better to treat Alzheimer's/vascular dementia?
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Adult daycare
I need to get DH out among people and looking into adult daycare . Very few in my area but some 20-30 min away . Thinking of taking him with me is this a good idea or should I check them out in my own first?
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Life after diagnosis
I’d be interested to hear how you’re dealing with life after dx- like your personality has changed. I feel super sensitive and just different.
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From NPR: A piece on "Caregiver Identity Theory"
An interesting read-
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Husband newly diagnosed (55yo) - treatment?
First post! We're waiting for an appt with a neurologist to pursue next steps (blood, MRI showed no issues, mental tests showed decline). I wanted to ask here how long it took for your loved one to start any sort of treatment. So far we've gotten the "see you in 6 months" talk, but no talk of starting any treatment, other…
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Another Newbie
Hi, I'm 66 and new to the group. I was diagnosed with AD in Jan. 2025 (MCI stage). Taking Lequmbi infusions every 2 weeks. AD is really a shock to the system. Overwhelmed wth stress & planning for the future (when should I start memory care?).Living with a partner in Florida whose done the caretaker thing twce before and…
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Alzheimer’s research comments by RFKJr
RFK Jr says corruption at NIH is the SOLE REASON there isn’t a cure for Alzheimer’s: “For 20 years, because of utter corruption and fraud, we were directing Alzheimer’s research to one hypothesis, and any other hypothesis was shut down. We should have the cure for Alzheimer’s today. We don’t have it PURELY because of…
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Father driving me CRAZY
My father has early dementia with no short term memory. He is constantly asking me over and over to help him with the computer. He is driving me batshit crazy. It is so annoying and I can't take it anymore. He doesn't know what he is doing on the computer and every time I suggest a way to make it better he just keeps going…
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Long term meds and medical screening
My husband is seven years into this dementia journey. He has zero short term memory and confabulations constantly about places we’ve never been, ads he sees on TV etc. He can’t find anything in the kitchen. He’s 73 years old and obese but pretty healthy. The doctor wants him to have a colonoscopy and to start cholesterol…
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Moved mom to AL on Monday and now (Wednesday) she's in a psych ward
I'm horrified and don't know what to do (or what's even possible.) Sorry this is long, I need someone somewhere to understand the history of this since no one has asked us before (or after) committing her. My mom started having memory issues around 2020 but wasn't officially diagnosed with AD until this past January.…
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Dental Decision
Does anyone have experience with a late to mid stage Alzheimer's patient with 1 tooth abscess and 3 pulp exposures. Oral surgeon wants to put my dad under general anesthesia and extract all teeth. What will a 2-3 hour surgery like that do to a person in this stage? will there be much recovery or do we just let nature take…
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Falling issues
So, my grandfather continues to prove that he is the most stubborn person in the world. I and my father are currently full time caregivers of my grandfather who has Parkinson's and Alzheimer's. He is currently a medium fall risk as diagnosed by his doc and physical therapist. He is still very independent, being able to do…
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Sun downing
So this just started for my husband. Pulled two all nighters over the weekend. Around 4pm each day he starts getting very agitated. If I can manage to stay disconnected until 7pm and then distract him with a movie he might settle down, but does not want to get into bed. He packs, paces, usually with boots on and often goes…
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Alzheimer’s Poem