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Hi all, I'm new here. I have a much older sister in her mid-70s (one who I hardly knew growing up) who lives in another county, about an hour away—still in her own apartment. The only other family member is our brother, closer in age to her, who lives a bit closer to her, but is rarely involved. As I agreed years ago to be…
We moved my dad (89) to memory care two weeks ago. They have been the most challenging two weeks of my life. He had memory issues in the past, but something happened earlier this summer that brought on much stronger symptoms (he has vascular dementia). He was living with a family member, but the nights became incredibly…
My father is bed-bound with late-stage Alzheimer’s in MC. He needs complete assistance with diaper changes, repositioning, eating and drinking. He sometimes resists care and screams and scratches during diaper changes, especially when being moved, so changing him really requires two people. My concern is that he sometimes…
My DH is transitioning between stage 7 and stage 8. He has mixed dementia and is receiving hospice care. He is now in a memory care facility. There are at least two other people in his section who are also dying. I have been with my DH for 6 to 8 hours each day for a week now. So far I haven't seen anyone in his section…
Please help. We moved our mom from assisted living to memory care (within the same facility) a little over 2 weeks ago. She wasn't functioning great in AL in terms of her ability to engage in activities, go on the errand trips, etc. But she was happy. She would walk around the building, say hello and chat with people and…
Hi- I feel like I am in a situation with multiple circumstances and need advice. My mom is in middle to late stage dementia. She currently lives at home with her husband but needs more care. I am in the final stages of signing her up for memory care. Most days mom does not see that she needs to move and says she won’t do…
I am sure there is no routine or common visiting schedule. Someone recently asked me how often I visit my mom, and I told them about once a week. In reality, it is less than that. I guess I thought if I told them the honest truth, I would sound like a horrible person. Truth be told, I could visit my mom every single day…
Tonight my spouse and I went to visit my 92-year-old dad in MC and had dinner with him. All was fine until it wasn’t. After the meal he grew increasingly agitated and wanted me to call his mother and see if we could stop by and visit her for a while tonight. What was surprising is that despite all efforts at redirection,…
I am trying to understand what is expected in a memory care facility regarding personal hygiene, dietary needs and housekeeping. We just moved my dad (just turned 86) from on memory care place to a new one, mostly to get him closer to mom so she can see him every day. THe old place had a TERRIBLE menu. Supposed to have…
I have never understood why memory care is always in an assisted living setting but it is what it is. This week is national assisted living week to celebrate residents and care givers. Those of us who are spending our life savings and 401ks on our spouses assisted living are not being celebrated or recognized. Typical of…
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