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Sibling Disagreement on Care
My 85-year-old mother was diagnosed with dementia 7 years ago. My older father insisted on caring for her and hiding how bad things were from my sister and me. We started 4 years ago to try to get him to consider in-home care or assisted living. He finally agreed and they moved into a lovely community in October. However,…
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Juggling changes (driving, moving) with grief
My 84-year-old Mom lost her husband of 60 years — my dad — just 2.5 months ago. She is really grieving hard. So we are hesitant to add more unwanted changes to her life just yet. The problem is, we believe she is around Stage 3 or 4…. (Doctor just did MMES and she scored 24 out of 30, which was just below normal but we…
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Help me, I really messed up
Ever since my mother's stupid eye doctor told her she was okay to drive, she has been RELENTLESS. She won't drive unless I give her my blessing (thankfully), but it is so bad. In our daily phone call today, she yelled and swore at me the whole time, wanted to know why I insisted on treating her like a baby, why I don't…
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The driving discussion
I know you are not supposed to rationalize and explain with someone who has anosognosia, but what kinds of things can I say to appease my mom, who has become OBSESSED with driving again, especially when she asks why her 3 friends who invite her to lunch can drive themselves but she can’t? Her eye doctor told her earlier…
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Ready to give up
Anyone who has been following my saga knows I’ve been staying with my recently widowed mom for over a week because I became alarmed about her confusion during my last visit. At the beginning of this week, I was determined to get her into AL right away. Now after seeing 2 doctors who both basically told her she is fine and…
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MMES test
Finally got my mom to her doctor, discussed with the doctor first our concerns about her confusion and memory loss, they gave her the MMES test — and she scored a 24 out of 30, which is just below "normal." Our experience with her is that she is much worse than this. She has been struggling for a long time with dates,…
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Caregiving from afar
Hi there, I am new to this group and new to the dementia journey with my mom. My father passed away right before Christmas, and now she is alone in their home. I live 2.5 hours away, and my only other sibling is 5 hours away from her. Mom has been showing signs of dementia for about 2 years, but has really declined over…
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Over medicating ? chemical restraint ?
I need some advice .. My step father who is only 61 years old has been battling frontal lobe dementia for 2 years now but recently his behaviors have increased to being up at night wandering from room to room , pacing and moderate confusing and anger, with possible treats of wanting to end his life , but he was not…
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Travel documents for parent with dementia?
(Apologies, but I feel like I have to redact this post and the follow-ups at this point to keep some details private. Thank you all, especially H1235 and Victoriaredux.)
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Dad newly diagnosed, lives alone 3 hours away & I don't know where to start
My 75yo father has been experiencing memory issues for years. We just received the alz diagnosis with a blood test confirmation. Living alone, no family other than me, driving, medications, food, safety, poa - all of it is a lot, but we are navigating. My biggest question and concern is where and how to navigate his…