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Advice on Transition to MC
Hi. With reluctance and fear, we are going to move my Dad from independent living with my Mom into MC. I know this is a painful process for all families, My Mom and Dad have been together for 65+ years. My family is scared that my Dad will become very angry at us, especially my Mom (the dutiful wife). We don't know what…
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Mom (MS-LS, more LS) just broke her hip in Memory Care
Hello, Long time lurker, first time poster. Mom (88) was ambulatory with walker in MC with what is probably early Late Stage dementia (word salad, often incontinent, but still sometimes in on the conversation.) She fell and broke her hip early AM yesterday. We were told she is not a candidate for surgical repair - between…
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Where are we at here?
I have these questions, and no one can just give me a straight answer. My mom (66years old) was diagnosed with ALZ, in 2022. I guess we can call it EO because she was 63 years old at the time of diagnosis. She has type 1 Diabetes and last month she was put into hospice at home. She was hospitalized Oct 17 for her blood…
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Ways to be in touch in later stages
Hi all, new to these forums and am my mother's primary (long-distance) caregiver since she moved into a very good MC facility in 2023. My mother is in a good way, quite positive and at peace thankfully, if alot of tiredness and some moments of frustration. As I am based in Europe and she's in the Washington, DC area, I…
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Progressing too fast
It’s been awhile since I posted. My mom, 73, has been in MC for over a year. This past month she went from being okay to almost completely mute. No UTI. Her suite mate was her security/friend. But she started having bad mood swings and taking it out on my mom. My mom has since become withdrawn and just this past…
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clearing mucus from the chest in late dementia
Alzheimer's has taken my 83yo wife into its late stage, and she recently caught a cold or pneumonia. She improved in the hospital, appears not to have an infection now, but three weeks later at home she still has a wet cough, usually when lying in bed, which is most of her time. The cough interrupts her badly-needed sleep.…
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Assisted living room changes
My mom has been at the assisted living facility since October 2023. She is in a 2-room apartment, which we originally selected due her having 2 senior male dogs. At this point, the dogs are no longer there, and my mom is transitioning from moderate to severe. I was asked by the staff at the facility today how I would feel…
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Love and Loss in Alzheimer’s
My Journey with this horrible Alzheimer’s disease is coming to an end now that my sweet wife of 55 years, Linda, has died on May 31st, 2025. I have learned so much about how to navigate this process over these past few years and am grateful to each of you who has shared their thoughts, experiences and advice. My life will…
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Clarity VS deep sleep or unresponsiveness
My 91 year old mother has vascular dementia and shows a pattern of two days of clarity and sleeps for 3 days nonstop and back at clarity again. This has been a pattern since Jan 2025. She was diagnosed in 2020 and lives in a Care Center Facility. Is any of your love ones with vascular dementia going through this cycle?
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A Cautionary Tale: Details Emerging About Hackman's Death
I'll put a trigger warning here. This is difficult reading. It has been determined that Gene Hackman died from cardiovascular disease and Alzheimer's a full week after his wife succumbed to Hantavirus. She was among the oft quoted 1/3 of caregivers who died before their LO. Friends describe his wife as fit, healthy and 3…