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Anosognosia, suggestions?
My mom moved into AL yesterday and is slowly realizing that most people around her have some kind of ailment. She is so annoyed by all the attention from the nursing staff and is saying things like “They’re acting like I am here for a medical reason” and “What have you got me into?” I know you can’t rationalize with…
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Day 1 at AL
We moved Mom in to AL today. It went a little better than I expected. She loves her room. But she is very angry that they took away her medication and have to administer it to her. She doesn’t understand why. She is also annoyed that people keep stopping by to take her vitals etc. She says “I didn’t think I was coming to a…
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Tomorrow’s the big day; wish us luck!
We are moving my mom into an AL near me tomorrow. (If you have not seen my previous posts, ever since my dad died in December she has been living alone 2.5 hours away.) She has been cooperative and somewhat willing to do this, which even one month ago I would never have dreamed possible. But still makes lots of comments…
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Young Adult Daughter of Dad with Dementia
Hi everyone! I'm 22, just came home from graduating college and sadly my Dad was recently diagnosed with Dementia after 2 years of agitation, aggression, and eventually psychosis symptoms. With the help of medication, we are so grateful to now get glimpses of the phenomenal superhero of a man/dad he was for me all my life.…
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Father in hospital, begging me to set him free
This is my first post here. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease 3 years ago, and I have been his caregiver ever since. I am his sole caregiver, and we have no family nearby. He had declined to the point recently where I began arranging a room in a nearby memory care facility for him. The weekend before his…
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Reassure me that I am doing the right thing
My dad passed away in December and my mom has been living alone ever since, 2.5 hours away from closest family (me). She has what my brother and I believe to be stage 4 dementia based on the DBAT assessment. Last month her PCP only diagnosed her with "memory loss," she scored a 24/30 on the MMSE, but he did take away her…
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The "Trial Period" approach
I posted yesterday about how we are putting my mom into an AL community in a couple weeks. She agreed to go there, thank god, mostly after we followed the facility's recommendation of telling her it's a 30-day trial period. This seems to be a common approach. However, I feel like this is going to backfire on us.…
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We can’t afford care for my mom
Hello, My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She’s only 63, so we are highly unprepared for this. To make matters worse, she has very little money saved and my family is not a position to help financially. She also lives in CA while I’m in WA state adding more hurdles to finding her adequate help. We’ve set up…
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Did you keep your LO home too long? Then what?
Fellow travelers: I recently learned that a PWD may have progressed beyond a point where Memory Care will take them. I've always assumed that at some point I might need to put my DH in Memory Care, but the idea was always to have him stay home as long as it was not too difficult and/or expensive to care for him. (I work…
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Over medicating ? chemical restraint ?
I need some advice .. My step father who is only 61 years old has been battling frontal lobe dementia for 2 years now but recently his behaviors have increased to being up at night wandering from room to room , pacing and moderate confusing and anger, with possible treats of wanting to end his life , but he was not…
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From NPR: Dementia Care without Locked Wards
https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2025/11/17/nx-s1-5600877/dementia-alzheimers-care-housing-senior-living-inclusion-segregation
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Early On-set sadness
My DH seems to be advancing rapidly in his disease; he is only 61. I feel guilty that it's because I can't provide the level of care he needs. We've made too many trips to the ER lately. Most recently, he fell out of bed, tripped on a metal step stool, broke it, and then snapped the stabilizing bar, and it stabbed him in…
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Placement/Agitiation/Aggression
My father has MS dementia. He acted out against my mother a few weeks ago and he is currently under a doctor's care at a local hospital. The issue now is that no facility will take him if he is agitated/aggressive. He is under restraints at the hospital because he keeps attempting to take IVs/feeding lines out (he refuses…
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What type of longterm facility/community takes LO with Suicidal Ideations & Alzheimer’s?
null Dad is 87 diagnosed with mild-moderate Alzheimer’s a year ago and has been taken twice (to two different) Geri-psych units, went willingly with paramedics, for suicide ideations but refuses medication. He even wrote a goodbye letter. He sees no future, no purpose in living, at times. The Geri-psych unit did not…
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home care vs assisted living
My mom has Alzheimers and my dad has dementia. I'm trying to decide whether to place them in an assisted living facility or hire 24/7 home health care in their home. They live in NY and I'm in MA. Does anyone have experience with either? I'm trying to think of a list of pros and cons. Thanks.
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Where to go if Long-Term Memory Care will not accept my sister's combative behavior?
My sister with EOAD has been in a Geriatric Psych unit for a month now. She was removed from her Assisted Living Memory Care facility after only a week for aggressive and combative behavior. During an incident she was sent to the ER where after that she was admitted to the Geriatric Psych unit to develop a medication and…
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Mom lives in Independent Living Fac, needs to move to AL, hard 'No!'
I am new to this forum. I have found many discussions relevant to my situation. I received a lot of good information from these discussions, but I figured I'd post my question on the off chance some more information may come to light. I currently care for my Mother with the help of my wife. My mom moved from out of state…
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Assisted living room changes
My mom has been at the assisted living facility since October 2023. She is in a 2-room apartment, which we originally selected due her having 2 senior male dogs. At this point, the dogs are no longer there, and my mom is transitioning from moderate to severe. I was asked by the staff at the facility today how I would feel…
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Long Distance Mom has Dementia, and I am the only Child
Hello, I live a plane flight or 1.5-days driving away from my mom and I am only son. She has dementia and lives alone with her dog and cat. I can see her deterioration and have taken over all of her bills, taxes, online shopping, ordering food deliveries, etc for her. I have three children (teenagers) living with me and…
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Does Memory Care actually help
I obviously have been obsessing about memory care for months. My husband is probably late stage 5, can't do any ADL's without help, very bad arthritis so walking is difficult. We go to twice weekly exercise classes and various musical events and will occasionally take a short walk in a nearby canyon. He will walk short…
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How to talk to Parent about moving to Independent Living when they don't want to leave their home
Any advice on how to talk to parent with mild dementia who does not want to move out of their house into a care facility? For reference, my mom got diagnosed last Fall and is now having issues with remembering to take her medicine and eat, also can't keep track of days and is forgetting how to use her oven. My sister and I…
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Feels Like a Lose-Lose
We moved my 82-year-old stage 3-4 Alzheimer’s mom from an independent living place near me to an urban assisted living place while she was on a trip last week. She is very angry and refuses to let us stay when we visit. She says she is being surveilled and kept prisoner (she can walk out anytime she wants, she just has to…
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Diagnosis for dementia?
My mother was recently discharged from the hospital after having an episode of some sort and falling. She stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks and she was experiencing dementia symptoms pretty bad. Her memory has been fading gradually over the past 6 years or so. The doctors were worried about it and tried to get an MRI but…
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Handling SS and Medicare addresses when moving into facility
Hi, What do you do with your LO's Social Security address when s/he moves to a facility? My "understanding" is that it's linked to Medicare, so using any address other than the residence of the recipient will cause problems with the Medicare supplement and Part D plans in place that rely on the residence zip code. (I tried…
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Caring for dad
Hello, I am at a loss for words as to how to handle my father with dementia. He was diagnosed over a year ago and was holding up ok for awhile but it has taken a turn for the worse. Recently, he has become very aggressive and has become physical with his family. I had to call 911 this week because we just couldn't handle…
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Moving LO to a condo
Both my parents have dementia/AD. They both are in the moderate stage and they can no longer live in their house far from any family. My siblings want to buy a condo with my parent’s funds, move them to it and get them 24/7 care. They think my parents will easily adjust. I’m not convinced this is the right solution. I’m…
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Struggling to get mother diagnosed
I have Medical POA thank goodness, but for last 6 weeks her dementia became worse very rapidly daily. I tried to get her to see her doctor, but she refused. I obtained mental health warrant and she was taken to a psychiatric hospital. My mom denied being suicidal, confused, and said I was trying to force her into a nursing…
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Caregiving for Parent when you have a full time job and a teenager
Good morning. I am new to this forum and located in Wichita, KS. My mother has some memory issues resulting from an unknown stroke about a year go but discovered after she had a fender bender last March. I am 55, work a full time job, have a 16yo at home and two dog :smile: . She has always lived independently (my dad…
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Mom is in Assisted Living now
After rehab we were able to get her directly into an Assisted Living in a new community. I was all set to go with the same community where she lived for simplicity, but they were unwilling to work with us to get her placed directly and wanted her to go back to her apartment for a week or two, even though they had a room in…
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Memory Care to Skilled nursing journey
My DH had a fall 3 weeks ago at his MCF and they transported him to the hospital. I didn't want him to go because I knew most likely he wouldn't be able to return to the memory care unit. I know how these things work. Well, they've said he is not going to be able to come back there. So I'm looking at skilled nursing now. I…