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Hi- I feel like I am in a situation with multiple circumstances and need advice. My mom is in middle to late stage dementia. She currently lives at home with her husband but needs more care. I am in the final stages of signing her up for memory care. Most days mom does not see that she needs to move and says she won’t do…
I am sure there is no routine or common visiting schedule. Someone recently asked me how often I visit my mom, and I told them about once a week. In reality, it is less than that. I guess I thought if I told them the honest truth, I would sound like a horrible person. Truth be told, I could visit my mom every single day…
UGH. I'm so tired of dealing with this immaturity! My mom has been having lots of back pain, but she refuses any sort of medical help for it, aside from Tylenol. As is common with AL, medications, including OTC, are not allowed in her room and must be dispensed by the staff. She knows this, she understands this, and she…
I guess all we can do is take a deep breath and exhale, right? I visited my mom yesterday. She is in Memory Care. I put my game face on. I went through the locked doors she now lives behind. I walk through the community to my mom's apartment, and as I do I smile and wave at other residents I have come to know and say their…
I have never understood why memory care is always in an assisted living setting but it is what it is. This week is national assisted living week to celebrate residents and care givers. Those of us who are spending our life savings and 401ks on our spouses assisted living are not being celebrated or recognized. Typical of…
If I have to look for a facilities for my wife, where should I look? This is all new to me.
What do I do when my wife considers our bathroom her house. I can't take a shower in there cause she get's upset with me. That's her place and her mother don't want me there. When I did take a shower ,she would take all the bed spreads off and throw them on the floor in the bathroom. She will start banging on the walls…
I know that no one can answer this question but me, and I know there probably isn’t a “right” time, but it is so hard to decide when I feel selfish and guilty and all I can do is cry when I think about it. Mom is 96 and physically very healthy. She has dementia and she is legally blind. She has lived with me for over 2…
So my older sister (long-distance caregiver who visits every 1-2 months) just took my Asian mom to her first therapy session to work out the grief from my Dad's death (He died 13 years ago) and other emotional issues that fuel my mom's dementia flashbacks. We are going to do more sessions (virtually since I don't drive)…
She did not eat or take her medicine yesterday. I had the Dr. send a letter to us telling her to take her medicine. That did work before and now she doesn't want to take it. As far as eating, we always ate breakfast, lunch, and supper at the same time. I didn't want to change that. Then she didn't want breakfast and then…
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