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Legal Planning

Social security disability claim denied
UPDATE 2/20/25: the local office was closed because of a snow storm (no more working from home I guess) so we called the national line and waited on hold for 2 hours (yes that’s right, can’t wait to s…
Early Stage (Mild)
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Started by allit
Most recent by [Deleted User]
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
207
Feb 14, 2025
-1
22
Rapid Mental Decline in My 65-Year-Old Mother: Desperate for Diagnosis and Long-Term Care Solutions
Hello, I’m looking for guidance about how to get help for my mother, who has experienced rapid mental deterioration over the past year with a cycle of repeated hospitalizations and psychiatric decompe…
Dementia
Care Options
Depression
Started by mymomneedshelp
Most recent by [Deleted User]
Caring for a Parent
135
Jan 11, 2025
2
4
For Older Unmarried Couples, Caregiving Obligations Can Be Murky
Gifted link from the NYT. An article about caregiving issues specific to older unmarried couples. https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/10/health/elderly-unmarried-couples-caregiving.html?unlocked_article_c…
Caregiving
Changes in Relationships
Legal Planning
Started by harshedbuzz
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
94
Nov 11, 2024
1
New here, are there any books aimed at the person who has dementia?
Hello, I had the slum test and was found to me on the border of mci and dementia. Thyroid test and b12 test came back normal range. Waiting on diabetes and will have an MRI on Friday. I am wondering i…
Grief
Dementia
Legal Planning
Started by GGS3
Most recent by Watson1
I Am Living With Alzheimer's or Other Dementia
120
Nov 3, 2024
2
2
How to Get Legal Affairs in Order When You're Broke
Hi everyone! As the title says, I'm broke lol (it's not actually funny but I have to laugh or I'll fall apart.) My mom (60) is definitely progressing, and I don't have any of her legal affairs in orde…
Asking for Help
Grief
Care Options
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by mabelgirl
Caring for a Parent
181
Oct 31, 2024
1
8
Fair Hearing
Hello everybody! I have a fair hearing coming up on November 7th for myself to be enrolled in the CDPAP program, and I am quite anxious about it. I applied for the CDPAP program last year as I can't w…
Asking for Help
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
85
Oct 24, 2024
0
6
Legal and Financial Transition
MY DH is in early stages of dementia, but I can see it accelerating. We need to shift responsibilities to me and also to our adult son. Though we own our assets and make decisions jointly, and it was …
Early Stage (Mild)
Mild Cognitive Impairment
Legal Planning
Started by Sallymander
Most recent by sandwichone123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
411
Oct 20, 2024
2
11
Special needs trust
We’re meeting with a lawyer to go over our wills. There’s going to be a discussion about “self settled special needs trust” vs “third party trust”. My wife is turning 65 on October 12. She was just di…
Asking for Help
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Started by allit
Most recent by allit
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
125
Oct 2, 2024
0
5
Power of Attorney
My wife has early-mid stage Alzheimer’s and anosognosia. I’ve been told I need power of attorney, but I have questions about that. Do I really need this, given that all our assets are held jointly? Is…
Asking for Help
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Started by welden
Most recent by Jazzma
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
634
Sep 13, 2024
1
19
If you are not convienced, let me share this...
Most caregivers know that you should plan as early as you can. And plan for contingencies. Murphy follows Alzheimer's around like a puppy dog. (Murphy's law that says if anything can go wrong, it will…
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Planning for the Future
Started by FredW
Most recent by sandwichone123
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
799
Aug 23, 2024
11
12
My DH was just diagnosed with Alz
My Dh was just diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer’s. He’s doing well now but we are both overwhelmed with making decision s for the future. Do we stay in our home of 45 years or downsize to an a…
Early Stage (Mild)
Asking for Help
Cost of Care
Started by joannefn
Most recent by Crkddy
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
272
Aug 12, 2024
3
7
Resident Financial Application
is this a normal request to fill out? mom is in AL and the MC unit is full. Looking to move her to the sister location. Been negotiating pricing and today was asked to fill out a form about her financ…
Cost of Care
Memory Care
Legal Planning
Started by kblau
Most recent by kblau
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
143
Aug 2, 2024
0
8
Advance Directive for Dementia
I saw some brief mention in this forum of an Advance Directive for Dementia but not a detailed discussion on how frequently people use it. It is used as a supplement to a standard advance directive. I…
Legal Planning
Started by dancsfo
Most recent by dancsfo
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
241
Jul 29, 2024
1
4
What rights do other siblings have that aren’t in charge of guardianship
Dementia
Depression
Legal Planning
Started by Zoey Chigi
Most recent by terei
Caring for a Parent
101
Jun 8, 2024
0
1
Literally the Last Thing I Needed
Hi everybody, hope you’re all doing well. Bit of backstory to this predicament; my mom (60 diagnosed with ALZ) was a single parent to me (25) and my younger sibling (20). My sibling and I have separat…
Asking for Help
Stress
Legal Planning
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by Anonymousjpl123
Caring for a Parent
159
Jun 1, 2024
0
1
Decisions have to be made…
I finally got the official paperwork with the diagnosis with my father’s dementia being official. He has signed Medical POA, and Durable POA. He probably won’t remember any of it, despite it being not…
Stress
Legal Planning
Living with Dementia
Started by jaethai06
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
146
May 24, 2024
2
6
Last will and testament
My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers about 5 years ago. It has been a challenging 5 years. She is now in Memory Care and seems to have lost most of her memory. She is clearly not able to make any l…
Legal Planning
Started by wewva
Most recent by Quilting brings calm
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
114
May 16, 2024
0
2
Family Giving Me Conflicting Advice
Hi everyone! I (25) am the main caretaker for my mother (59) who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's back in 2022. Recently we've noticed some progression, she recently forgot my name for the first time so…
Stress
Support
Legal Planning
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by mabelgirl
Caring for a Parent
185
Feb 28, 2024
1
9
the first steps in the journey
Hi there, I'm caring for my MIL and while our family is aware and in agreement about our concerns with her possible diagnosis, I'm feeling stuck with how to put in place the necessary things like POA …
Asking for Help
Dementia
Legal Planning
Started by conniesens
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
77
Feb 25, 2024
1
1
I'm new here and I want out...: (
DH diagnosed one month ago and our lives are out of control. I am the caregiver, now only driver, home caretaker, as well as the target of his anger, rage, distrust, you name it. Not sure what to do, …
Caregiving
Burnout
Changes in Relationships
Started by miaR
Most recent by Dogsaremylife
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
1396
Feb 20, 2024
8
21
Early onset
Hello, this is my second post. My DW has been dx with alzheimer's at the age of 53. Her mom died of this at 59. She is a candidate for Leqembi and we are waiting on insurance approval. I have DPA and …
Support
Legal Planning
Planning for the Future
Started by mlandis
Most recent by JDancer
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
128
Feb 8, 2024
0
8
Obtaining POA in NYS
Hello everybody! I am stuck on how to obtain POA over my mother in NYS. There is so much info on all the different types of POA's my head is spinning. I know the easiest way would be to hire a lawyer,…
Caregiving
Stress
Legal Planning
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
52
Jan 9, 2024
0
2
CELA vs Specialist Attorney
Hello - it's my first post! My wife is newly-diagnosed. Probably stage 2 sometimes 3. Most of our financial and legal things are in order (DPoA's, wills, etc.), but I do have some things I need legal …
Legal Planning
Started by MrBurns
Most recent by SDianeL
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
282
Nov 12, 2023
1
8
Mom Was Served
Good evening/morning/afternoon everyone! Yesterday was kind of a shock and I'm looking for some guidance. My mother got served court papers for a dental procedure she had never paid for. Long story sh…
Asking for Help
Stress
Legal Planning
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by [Deleted User]
Caring for a Parent
205
Oct 28, 2023
0
6
changed poa
Hi, I'm new here. I believe my mom just changed her poa and took me completely off. Her husband is covering for her and in complete denial about her diagnosis. She was diagnosed with mci 10 years ago …
Delusions
Legal Planning
Started by SCulver-Evans
Most recent by [Deleted User]
Caring for a Parent
103
Oct 8, 2023
0
2
Recos for Certified Elder Care Attorney (CELA) in New York State?
We'd like to find a good CELA in New York State. Some questions: Do you know one you can recommend, or a good resource for finding one? What should we do to prep for our appointment once we find someo…
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Planning for the Future
Started by Anonymous10003
Most recent by FAHNJL
Caring for a Parent
73
Sep 22, 2023
0
7
Is my situation crazy? Need advice
Hi everyone, I am very new to this group. Just joined 5 mins ago lol. I am 23 years old and I live with my father, 56, who was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. He was diagnosed through a PET sc…
Early Stage (Mild)
Asking for Help
Legal Planning
Started by saraho4
Most recent by [Deleted User]
Caring for a Parent
277
Aug 28, 2023
0
4
legal documents
my mom was recently diagnosed with alz. My sister and I are wondering what legal documents we need to make sure that as things progress we will be able to make decisions for her? Please leave any help…
Caregiving
Legal Planning
Started by smosby17
Most recent by ButterflyWings
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
414
Jun 20, 2023
0
10
How to find Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree
As part of the Medicaid application according to the Elder Law attorney we need a copy of Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree. I can't find them in the house. She does not remember exactly wher…
Legal Planning
Started by ICalE
Most recent by jfkoc
Caring for a Parent
60
Jun 15, 2023
0
1

Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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Legal Planning

Social security disability claim denied

Rapid Mental Decline in My 65-Year-Old Mother: Desperate for Diagnosis and Long-Term Care Solutions

For Older Unmarried Couples, Caregiving Obligations Can Be Murky

New here, are there any books aimed at the person who has dementia?

How to Get Legal Affairs in Order When You're Broke

Fair Hearing

Legal and Financial Transition

Special needs trust

Power of Attorney

If you are not convienced, let me share this...

My DH was just diagnosed with Alz

Resident Financial Application

Advance Directive for Dementia

What rights do other siblings have that aren’t in charge of guardianship

Literally the Last Thing I Needed

Decisions have to be made…

Last will and testament

Family Giving Me Conflicting Advice

the first steps in the journey

I'm new here and I want out...: (

Early onset

Obtaining POA in NYS

CELA vs Specialist Attorney

Mom Was Served

changed poa

Recos for Certified Elder Care Attorney (CELA) in New York State?

Is my situation crazy? Need advice

legal documents

How to find Mom's birth certificate and divorce decree

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