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Suggestions about what to ask of a home health aid?
We've qualified for 24 hours of help from a home health aid paid by our insurance but I don't know what to ask of this person (if we can find one!). We are both ambulatory, ride bikes together and I manage household chores. My DH is easy going, polite, charming but needs to ask questions all the time and repeats himself…
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Navigating Long Distance
Good evening. I am new to this site; just searched for Alzheimer's support groups and this showed up. A little (moderately long) background: My mother is in a memory care facility in Washington state. My sister holds ALL of my mother's powers of attorney. My sister and I have been estranged for more than 15 years. For…
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Any gay caregiver caring for their spouse or partner in Vegas?
My husband was diagnosed with Alzhemiers in 2022, and after a fall, he has progressed rapidly. Currently he is in a memory care facility in Vegas. It seems that there arent any body in a similar situation as me, and it feels very isolating. Any one in Vegas in a similar situation?
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Conservatorship Process
Father is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and is prone to shopping sprees, scams, and donating money, but doesn’t pay his taxes, bills, and maxes out credit cards. He’s in debt $500k, but denies any problem with his actions or Alzheimer’s diagnosis from his neurologist. Would like first hand experience with establishing a…
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What can I expect for my Mom
Hello All, My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a few years back and has been getting worse. She was just diagnosed with lung cancer and we are looking into treatments/options to take. So my dilemma is, what is quality of life in the up coming few years? Any thoughts on how long till she is unable to care for herself, or…
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Aricept Medication
My mom with Alzheimer's was prescribed Aricept 5mg. She was doing fine on that. She is progressing more as expected, so nuero upped it to 10 mg. She said to look out for side effects like stomach issues and dizziness. She hasn't had any of those. What I did notice was it seems she has progressed even more in a short time.…
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How to manage putting a pet down
Over the past several months our beloved cat’s nasal tumor has grown larger and her quality of life and weight have deteriorated. DW is middle-stage dementia and can’t seem to remember our discussions of when to let the cat go. Last week we agreed that it was time and scheduled it with the vet for tomorrow. We’ve talked…
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Vascular Dementia
I would like to hear from anyone who is dealing with a spouse or LO who has this dx. My husband has been diagnosed with cerebral amyloid angiopathy—which seems to be the cause of this vascular dementia. We have been married since 1994. He is 79. This dx has turned him into basically a different person. He is 6'10" and has…
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shaky departure on a low staff day for dad's memory care plus recent "unwitnessed" injuries
Hello all, Dad really wanted to come with me today as I was leaving. He hasn't done that for a while, so I was out of practice. It was also a very low staff day today. For instance, I had to ring the doorbell three times (with long wait periods in between) for someone to come let me in. So I know there's a pretty good…
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2 years in since crisis mode
Dear Community, Thinking of you all this morning and the support you've so graciously given here. Today I am reflecting and processing. Some days are for surviving. Some days are for crying. Some days are blurs of exhaustion and overwhelm and confusion and grasping for hope and help. Today is not those days for me. Today I…
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My mom has EOAD… need advice/support
Hi People, I have never had the courage to ask this question of the health professionals, I feel disloyal even asking it, and every time I have to verbalise my family’s situation, I burst into tears, but here goes. My mom was diagnosed almost 4 years ago at 46 years old during my freshman year of college, she still lives…
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I needed an outlet to rant sorry I rambled
I am 25 and I quit my job about a year ago to help my parents take care of my grandmother with Alzheimer's. She lives with my parents but I do not live with them. I take care of my grandmother during the day and anytime my parents need help on the weekends, which isn't too much. Lately she's become very combative and…
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Leqembi infusion/ personality Change
My dad had to stop the Leqembi infusions because of brain swelling and bleeding about a month ago. I have noticed his personality changed towards me negatively and not at my mom. His next doctor's appointment is in June. I will contact his doctors then. Is this a normal occurrence from leqembi or this the progression of…
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I need advice - My husband with dementia keeps scissors for 'protection'
My husband has dementia and has become very focused on keeping a pair of scissors with him because he believes he may need them if an intruder comes into the house. He keeps them close at all times, carries them in his back pocket, and even sleeps with them. I have thought about taking them away while he is in the shower,…
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Caring for my mom from afar
It was suggested that I post over here as the "Caring Long Distance" forum doesn't get as many views. I edited this from the original post with some more detail ... My mom has Alzheimer's which appears to be at stage 4. She lives with my Dad out of state and I'm about an hour away while my brother is closer to 2 hours. My…
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Nursing facility. Does anyone have advice on mom’s boyfriend who constantly stirs the pot.
I am my mom’s HPOA/DPOA. She has a boyfriend she lived with for 28 years. Since she was placed in a nursing facility 6 months ago after a fall he is constantly stirring the pot. Today she told me she’s getting a petition signed to say she doesn’t have dementia and “it’s a secret”. She has Parkinson’s and related dementia.…
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Looking for ways to help mom whose in denial and thinks I steal from her
Mom is not diagnosed, in denial she has any problems, accuses only me of stealing from her- things I didn’t even know she had, and I live 5 hours away, verbally and emotionally abuses me, I am the only person in her life willing and wanting to help her. What have others done in this situation?
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Having a hard time about my dads diagnosis.
Preface: (DAD WAS VERY RECENTLY DIAGNOSED & PUT IN A HOME ABRUPTLY SO IM STILL IN SHOCK) Hey! My name is Blair and I’m 28, I have 4 beautiful boys, ages 1,3,5&7. My dad can’t remember their names or how many I have. I’m having a hard time. He was just out into a home in September. He hates it but it’s for his safety. We…
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Loved one spouse just passed
Spouse of the loved one with dementia just passed last week. They are good with day to day activities of course have moments of grief but they keep asking when the funeral is although the funeral Was last week. Then get upset to re-live that and to then upset because they cannot remember the funeral happened. How can we…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/28/26
Psalm 5:3 WAITING EXPECTANTLY New Living Translation Listen to my voice in the morning, Lord. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly. HOLY SPIRIT, please continue to help me think Your thoughts so I remain strong on the inside, so I am able to serve and glorify Jesus as a loving caregiver. In His name…
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How to move forward?
Hi there. My mom was formally diagnosed 2 years ago, though we as a family have noticed she has been progressing more quickly than before for the past few months. Unfortunately, her dad, who also has Alzheimer's and lives in a memory home, needed to be set up with hospice care last week. This has caused an even further…
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When a long-term friendship is impacted
I’m concerned that a dear friend of mine may be experiencing early cognitive decline. They are in their mid-60s and recently lost a spouse. For the past two years, I’ve attributed their behavioral changes—especially increased frustration and verbal outbursts—to grief and the challenge of navigating life alone. However,…
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Help With Checking for Dementia
Needing help with the beginning process of figuring out how to check for dementia. My mil just had a CT scan and is going to have an apt to check the results tomorrow. She has a lot of signs already, but more recently it's been forgetfulness more so plus incontinence (she doesn't try to go to the toilet anymore) and won't…
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My mother
My mom has dementia and extreme aphasia (trouble with speaking/words). I have a tough time dealing with active grief around certain things like forgetting it’s my birthday and other life events. Wha suggestions do you have?
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New Here
Hi, my mom has been having cognitive decline for a few years but hasn't been diagnosed. She turned 70 last year and Ive been trying to help but have little help or resources. She can still mostly take care of herself, has my father.. so power of attorney is not in the cards yet. My father has his own problems and won't be…
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Facing a Diagnosis this Week
I am meeting with our neurologist this Thursday along with my husband. I have already heard from this doctor that my husband's recent scan is positive and is consistent with Alzheimers. It indicates frequent amyloid neuritic plaques. I am alternating between depression, fright and a will to rise up and be strong. Can any…
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Constantly saying Help Me please
I am a daughter with autism age 50 and live with my elderly father age 85. He keeps repeating the phrase Help ME please, very insistently, and then switches to Help me Jesus or praying the Hail Mary. He has a caregiver in the morning and my brother comes in the evening for a small amount of time. I’m left alone to hear him…
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How to handle my frustrations
My husband has lost his short term memory. I get frustrated with being asked the same questions and topics. Need advice or tips. Thank you