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l-taymo

I am caring for my Mom with dementia… and I am frustrated, stressed, crying all of the time because we can’t communicate without an argument. Then she wants to know why I’m being “mean” to her. I try to tell her I’m not being mean, I’m frustrated that she doesn’t understand what I’m saying and I don’t know how to reason with her…then I find myself going to my room to get away from her for peace and to calm down. And there’s so many other things. Her PCP referred her to a neurologist but the earliest appointment available for her is early next year…Any help is appreciated

lac67

Hi! This isn’t much help, but I’m having a very similar experience, though my mom has been diagnosed for several years. Frustration, being accused of being “mean,” looking after her all day and then being the scapegoat for everything she gets upset about.

Can you look into finding another neurologist with earlier availability? The Alzheimer’s Association where I live in NJ had a list of doctors who could do evaluations when I was looking.

I’m not sure a diagnosis will change the situation you’re in much, but having information is better than not having it. 🫶🏻

april janelle

Hi, I’m new to this forum so hopefully I’m doing this right. I understand your frustration, my mom is in middle stage of dementia and has been living with me for four months. Every day is an emotional roller coaster. Some days she barely speaks 10 words, the next day all her comments are just mean and rude. I don’t have any advice, as I am at a loss most of the time. I pray I’m able to keep my sanity through this progression.

Liz3

I am experiencing the very thing with my mom 👵😌

amynolla

Oh my goodness, I feel exactly like you do! If I’m not excessively cheerful she thinks I’m mad at her. I’m always ‘mean’. I have watched so many videos and read so many things and am trying different techniques but her mood changes so often and her short term memory is so bad that I feel like I’m drowning half the time. Today I had a big cry about it. I don’t have any answers but you are not alone!

ashepherd

Hi everyone, I am new here also. I am in Brisbane, Australia and just trying to navigate life as a carer for my mum (she is 71) and has alzheimers (stage 3-4). I am 52, her only child and my husband and i have 3 teenagers and I run my own business - they call us the sandwich generation, and I totally get why. My sandwich filling is overflowing... It's nice to meet you all and feel less alone.