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Religious Caregivers
I was wondering if anyone could suggest some pertinent Bible verses, psalms readings. I have so many Bibles from my Mom and Grandma and 10 years of Catholic School. Just trying to find comfort in written words. Thank You.
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GUIDE (Guiding an Improved Dementia Experience) Model
has anyone heard of this new program and can you explain exactly what it does.
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Alzheimer’s
My beautiful sweet wife (70) has just be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My heart is breaking. I feel numb, lost, disoriented, scared, anxious…etc. My mind races to far ahead and I think of what will be rather then what is for today. It’s early, we just found out last week. it’s raw. Any words of wisdom and/or next steps I can…
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Venting!
DH is doing everything he can to avoid accepting his dementia diagnosis. He’s still working and driving even though he has been told not to. I have reported him to the DMV and just waiting for them to do his evaluation. I am under so much stress. DH can’t do the financial stuff, I have to manage his medication, I handle…
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tax talk (USA)
2025 was the first year I used paid companion care for DW so that I could go into the office for work. In the USA, if you pay someone to watch spouse with dementia so that you can work or look for work, you are probably eligible for Child and Dependent Care Tax Credit. This is my first year using this tax credit so I am by…
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Driving my ADLO safely
when in the car on a busy local highway, suddenly he tried to move the gear shift while also attempting to open his door. I pulled into a parking lot as quickly as I could to stop, do what could, so we could return home. My son simply let me know about child locks that easily locked the back door of the car. It is now our…
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My Girlfriend
My wife has undiagnosed dementia that we have been dealing with for about a year now. Her next appointment is with a neuropsychologist in April, (if I can get her to go). Most of her symptoms now are hallucinations. Her memory is pretty much intact. The hallucinations she is dealing with the most recently are girlfriends…
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Medication for Anxiety
Our neurologist has prescribed Quetiapine for anxiety as a once per day med at bedtime. I crush and mix the pill into my DW evening food at she refuses to take a pill. Sometimes the 25MG dosage works well and we can get a good night's sleep. Our neurologist has now prescribed a 50MG dosage in an effort to improve the…
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Medication Inquiry
MY DW neurologist prescribed Memantine medication to slow dementia progression. I am asking our community what side effects they have experienced and have there been positive results of using this medication?
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Lazy Husband
My husband has alzheimers. He has always been a hard worker. Now everything has stopped. I know he is capable of mowing lawn, taking out trash, weedwaking, helping clean yard. Am I expecting too much. I have been paying to get lawn mowed etc. He always says, oh I will do it tommorow. And doesn't. I'm frustrated with him.
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Just need to talk to my friends (215)
Happy February! I'm glad January is over. Maybe February will be a better month for weather and everything else. Only six more weeks until Spring. Almost time to order caladiums. Hopefully, the daffodils are okay after the freezing weather we have had this past week.
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Gratitude
As I sit here with the love of my life in her last days, my heart continues to be overflowing with gratitude. I’m also the saddest I’ve ever been, but every walk I’ve taken the last few months I’ve been hit by the beauty of this world, the joy I had in meeting and getting loved the way I’ve been loved and loved my DW. I am…
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The next stage
my DW rather suddenly has started dissociating and sundowning. She drinks a lot and isn’t open to stopping. This doesn’t help. I’m not sure how to handle it.
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Tenho uma menina com down e alzaimer mais alguém com essa experiência?
Gostaria de saber se alguém está fazendo tratamento com cannabis
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Trying to understand…
I know DH brain is deteriorating VD is taking it away. His short term memory is declining He is able to do many things - ADL’s are pretty good. This winter has been cold! He is cold I layer him up. At night blinds drapes drawn. The issue is I like to open the drapes in the morning and he doesn’t! Says it’s cold. The house…
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Follow up on “what you took from me”
I wrote a follow up of my own from @Bill_2001 . I often hesitate to post cause our relationship doesn’t carry the wonderful long love story that many of you do. But then I realized maybe my post will resonate with someone. Like @BPS penned “how long” I lost my first hubby to leukemia in 1999. I never wanted to move on but…
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Traveling is a problem
It has become increasingly difficult to travel with my husband. He gets so confused. I put everything on his calendar on his phone since he looks at that all the time (not that he remembers after he reads it…) This past weekend, we were to go watch our grandson play football. We were only going for the day. We had to leave…
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mild to moderate MCI
My DH was diagnosed last year with MCI. For a few months now I noticed changes. He has memory loss, blames anything or anyone for anything . His temper is off, discussions or conversations are impossible at times, becomes argumentative. I am so sad and fearful that I can not handle this. I cry at night .
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Advice on how to reply with DH lack of recognition
I am asking for advice on how to appropriately respond to my DH of 45 years. In the past few weeks, he repeatedly does not recognize me and is fearful of the "lady: who is taking care of him. He calls his sister and our daughter expressing concern about who I am, that I won't give him any money/stealing his investment…
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Just need to talk to my friends (214)
Happy 2026 to all our front porch friends. Hopefully this new year will be a better year for each of us and for our Country. Everyone is probably sound asleep right now and I will be in a few minutes, too. Stormy needed to go outside for a minute and I just thought I would get 214 started. See you later.
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Finding a therapist
Does anyone have suggestions re finding a therapist with experience in Alzheimer's caregivers? I've gone to several websites, selected Alz. and have been given a list. But when I click on an individual therapist and see their specialty not one of them lists Alz. I might be going about this the wrong way. Any advice? P.S. I…
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I want quiet, he wants to talk
My DH, probably into early stage 5 of Alz. He is still able to care for himself and do small chores around the house. He is aware he has Alz, but rarely talks about it. Often tells me he just wants to be "normal". Although he did acknowledge this week that he couldn't handle the AM Express payment online any more and that…
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Dementia needs
My DH was diagnosed 9 yrs ago with early onset dementia and just recently with Parkinson. I've made the following purchases which have made both our lives better. A small,lightweight wheelchair from Amazon, adult bibs, washable mattress pads, a bedrail, satin sheets and silk pajamas to help him slide in and out of bed. I…
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talking to people who aren't there
My wife has for a long time had delusions and some hallucinations (about 3 years) but she has recently started to talk to people that are not there. She is I think early stage 7, but in the DBAT it has that in the section of the final weeks. I know every case is different but for those that have experienced this what has…
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Not Showering
My wife is in midstage Alzheimer’s, living at home with me as her only caregiver. She manages all her ADLs except showering. I remind her in the morning to shower, and most days she skips it. I know because either I don’t hear the shower running, or if she does turn it on I know she doesn’t get in because her towels are…
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Trying to keep him at home
My DH is late stage 6 and is on hospice. I have a wonderful caregiver who comes to our home during the weekdays. Lately though he’s unsteady on his feet. Very difficult for me to get him out of bed and walk him to the bathroom for me to change him, give him his bath. We had a hospital bed delivered this week. My caregiver…
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Suggestions please
My DH was diagnosed a few months ago with younger onset and we're both struggling with how to process it and move forward. Even though we've been pushing for the diagnosis for several years it's still turned our world upside down. We're in our 40's with kids and I'm just not sure how to navigate or handle everything or…
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Aromatherapy(1)
Has any one tried aromatherapy for dementia in their LO? If so, which oils help? I hear music and aromatherapy help. May be it will help him stay awake. DH sleeps at least 3 hours in the afternoon, though he goes for a one mile daily morning walk by himself. We take one mile evening walk together. I told him he should keep…
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Lonely but longing to be alone…
Hello- New to posting, though I have looked in on others for several years. My DH (age 70) has Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia, heading into moderate stage although not yet problems with ADLs. We have known this was coming (through testing) for around 10 years. Slow progression, so I feel fortunate for that. SO many of…
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Entering fast stage 7
I don't know if it's harder on me or my wife. She still knows who I'm but doesn't know what day of the week it is. Watching stage 7 with (VD) is very hard on me to have to watch her going thru losing control of her bodily functions. One day see is her old self and the next day something else. I see her every day for an…