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Moved husband to memory care and he just wants me
I brought my husband, who is in stage 6, to a memory care facility yesterday and today the director called me. I wasn't really surprised because my main concern was how dependent he is on me and how much he loves being home. Today, there was a woman who looked like me visiting another resident and he thought she was me and…
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Just need to talk to my friends (208)
HB, thanks for telling me about auto comprehensive paying for rodent damage. I doubt this will be over $1000 which is my deductible. JeriLynn, I would be interested in the device you mentioned that makes a noise to scare rodents. I have those scent packets but don't know how to keep them from falling out but maybe the…
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Lonliness when caring for a spouse with ALZ/dementia
My DH is not quite in the middle stage of ALZ, and most days he is "normal", but he isn't really. His critical thinking has diminished in most everything except math. We used to have spirited discussions about matters of faith, politics and so on. Now, half the time he can't hold a discussion about a movie that we watching…
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New to the group
I have just joined the group and Im not quite sure how it works. My husband (age 65) has early onset alzheimers. We have been struggling with issues for years, had numerous tests, no doctor has been willing to give an official diagnosis. He recently took the PTAU217 test and his numbers were completely off the chart. A…
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Tests and medications
Here is a philosophical question for everyone to ponder. As healthy human beings, we all do what we can to insure as long of a life that we can have. We eat right, we exercise, we take supplements. We do all the tests that is required by our age group like mammograms, colonoscopies, and so forth. We get flu vaccinations,…
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We Don't Talk Anymore
My wife has ALZ Stage 4, entering Stage 5 this year. There have been many noticeable changes, most obvious is that we don't talk anymore. She is very quiet, sometimes sitting and staring for long periods. Occasionally she tries to speak but can't think of the words and then just drops it. This is creating an atmosphere of…
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Dementia
Lately, my wife doesn't wash herself or use deodorant and she wears the same clothes for days. Her memory is getting worse, but she maintains a good appetite. I would ask her about her hygiene but she feels as though I'm treating as a child.
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I Had A Week Respite
Hey all. Most know I was able to take a week’s respite in early June. It’s been a bit over 5 years for me. I was burnt the heck out and had just decided to retire early this December. I needed it and for those able to somehow cobble something together, I am an even more staunch believer it getting whatever respite you can.…
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Podcast on Caregiver Stress
I found the following podcast by Mel Robbins very helpful… https://youtu.be/892M1vCEuUg?si=GAoYuLuvynSx_RqY
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Drowning
Hi everyone I am a carer for my partners mum. My own mum has had to go into a home and I feel desperately guilty I've now left my work and am looking after someone else and I couldn't mum. I am in a different space now but I'm drowning in guilt.
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Laundry day
Ugh! DH mostly made it to the toilet but there is a lot of BM in his underwear, I rinsed that out in the toilet later. So I'm wondering ….do you wash the underwear in the washer by itself maybe with rags or something, or with other regular laundry?
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DH won’t let me change him
My DH is in memory care and won’t let the aides or me change his wet Depends. He gets very agitated if I ask him and has punched me. He does the same with the aides. It doesn’t matter what time of day I try. It is always a battle. The Dr put him on depakote to try to help with these behaviors but it hasn’t made a…
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Just need to talk to my friends (207)
Judith, I didn't get on the stepstool, stood on the floor and used a mirror. Hopefully, Beth will be able to post on 207 now.
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Ready to place hubby in memory care
after 4 years I’m ready to put hubby in memory care I have been in touch with the place for 3 years so familiar with director. talking to hubby about it but he doesn’t want to go. I’m facing what I never wanted to do and that is leave him there. Has anyone gone through this. My hubby is 82 and memory is terrible. Won’t…
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Is this considered wandering?
DH is in Stage 6 and I’m having an awful time with keeping him busy. One thing we’ve been doing is walking, even in the Florida heat (not ideal, but if he wants to, it occupies some time). However, he walks and walks as if it’s a one way trip - he wants to go a certain way and I have a terrible time getting him to walk…
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Constant questions
DW is in stage 6 of Alzheimer's. She is a question machine, and not just with me, with anyone and everyone. It gets frustrating, especially because of the repetition, her asking the same question over and over, unaware that she has already asked numerous times. Her short term memory is totally gone. I do believe her…
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Anyone able to keep alzheimer spouse home until death
I have been trying to find anyone with experience keeping spouse at home with help of hospice until the end. My husband is finishing up stage 6 right now. And so far I have been sole caregiver with no outside help. He is 71 can still walk. Can eat on his own like a 2 year old. I have to shower and dress him. He just had…
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Travel and confusion
My DW of 48 years seems to get more agitated and confused when we are away from home. She is mid to late stages of Alzheimer's. We are supposed to go to the coast with our adult children and their families, but I am beginning to have second thoughts. Between the new location and chaotic nature of a large family gathering…
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Girlfriend reprise
You may recall last winter my dh had a girlfriend in his MCF. He was moved to the next higher level of care, and because that higher level of care has two separate wings I thought we had solved that problem. Today I find that girlfriend has been moved over as well and is now two doors down from him. I don't know why they…
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How to remain positive
Many of you on here seem to deal with things really well I have arthritis which makes life more difficult doing everything & sometimes I feel overwhelmed with everything & miss my old life Any advice please
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Respite to hospital
DH is on hospice due to heart condition including Alzheimer’s. My son got him to go to the nursing home by inviting him to go to his favorite place, McDonald’s. I had been sick for 3 weeks with what I thought was a recurring bout of diverticulitis. So I headed to the hospital where The CT scan showed a mass on my pancreas.…
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Warning
My BF passed away last night unexpectedly. Her Dh has alz. Stage 6 .She took care of him by herself. Her kids have have no idea of what to do with their dad. They know nothing about his meds.,his sleep habits,how to get him changed or anything. She didnt keep them informed on anything. There is no poa or will or guardians…
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Paying for MC
we are in the earlier stages but I see so many of you talking about placing your LO in MC. How are you affording it? I am 55 and I can’t see spending all of our investments (which are not huge amounts) on MC because I will need that money to live on for the rest of my life. That sounds cold but I have potentially many…
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Urine smell in pants
Hi yall my bf (46 EOA) Has been fully incontinent for some time. He gets the bed nightly, is there a soap that gets rid of the light urine smell? It's not super bad but I notice it when getting his clothes out of the dryer. Thanks in advance. We are all in this together 💜
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Boyfriend with early stage
Does anyone have a boyfriend with dementia, repeating questions and forgets conversations? I could use some support if anyone out there can relate. He is very easygoing and loving, but wonder what this will do to our relationship in the future.
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Premonition of Memory Care Move
Last year for about 4 months before he went to memory care, my DH talked about being separated from me. He talked about how he didn't want to leave, that he wanted us to be together. He also would take all of his clothes out of his drawers every night and pile them on his bed like he was packing for a trip. There was no…
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Angry
I’m not sure why, but all of a sudden I find myself angry at my husband. I snap at him when he asks me the same thing over and over. When he was diagnosed with ALZ I was able to stay calm and compassionate. Now I feel like I’m falling apart. Has anyone else experienced this. He’s in the early stages so he’s not even bad…
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Avoid all types of confrontation?
Hello, My husband is newly diagnosed, and I have so many questions. I'll start with just one today. For background: My husband is 56, and he has had memory issues for about three years, probably longer. He went through many doctor's appointments and tests and received the final diagnosis last month. I attended an…
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First experience with wandering
Woke up at 1:45 this morning with DH missing. First time he’s ever done anything like this. Sheriff’s office had helicopter going, canine units, added bloodhounds, silver alert, the works. So scary! They found him at around 9 about 4 miles away. He used to always carry his wallet which I had an AirTag in, but stopped…
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When to go to memory care
I sense that I will need to consider this for my DW later this year. When that happens, will she have periods of remembering?