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Not sure
hello everyone. I’m new here. I thought I would try this site before giving up. I joined another site a few years ago when my husband, the love of my life first showed signs of cognitive decline. There was so much negativity on what will happen and people were very harsh. I just wanted support. I got very depressed and…
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Just need to talk to my friends (203)
It has been a beautiful day, sunny and 75. Meant to check on the daffodils but forgot. The ones I can see from the kitchen window look okay! QVC has started their gardening shows so Spring is near. They had the perennial Gerbera daisies again today. So pretty. I bought them two years ago and had one bloom and they didn't…
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DH in NH pinched another resident km
DH has been in NH for 2 months. He has been wandering into other people's rooms. Last night got a call that he had pinched a woman and caused bruising. Needless to say the female resident was yelling and extremly upset. I feel terrible he did that to her and today he's having a psych evaluation in house. Anyone ever go…
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Waiting for the ER
DH had a complete mental breakdown at his rehab center today, where he was recovering from a fractured tibia. He has been declining for a week now, and I’ve been begging and pleading for help from them which was not forthcoming. They finally decided tonight to send him to the hospital with a diagnosis of “altered mental…
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Question about adult daycare
I went to my support group today. At least three people there sounded like their loved ones could benefit from adult daycare, but they all said that their people were still too early in the disease and too aware to be willing to go without a fight. How might they approach the subject to make their loved ones more amenable…
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Accepting
Hello, This is my first post. My DH just turned 67 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s less than a year ago. I am still trying to adjust to this new reality and how quickly he seems to be declining. I found the posts on hallucinations very helpful. In the past several weeks he has awoken in the early morning (usually around…
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From NPR: A piece on "Caregiver Identity Theory"
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Should we travel?
My DH has been diagnosed with MCI although I suspect that he is further along in the process. He has always been close to his sister who lives several states away; and her husband passed away recently after a difficult battle with ALS. His sister is hosting a "celebration of life" open house at her home in a few weeks in…
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New to this Group
I am caring for my DH who has had cognitive decline over the past 4 yrs. As I write this, I can't believe it's been that long. I am trying to abide by the rules, however find myself breaking the rules, especially when I am in the middle of something, (like doing taxes today). He has alcohol dependance with a dementia /…
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Moment of Being Overwhelmed with WHY?
Please no advice! Just a listening ear is what I need. I am sitting at a Panera alone with an iced tea. I fled our home—literally—-a bit ago because I could not take another moment of being in the presence of DH with mild cognitive impairment from ALZ. I feel utterly alone in this moment and overwhelmed. I have no one to…
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Medications?
My husband is starting to show signs of paranoia and hallucinations. He’s currently in a long term care facility. He’s in palliative care. I’d like to bring him home, but he has wandered in the past and sundowns. Does he need to see a neurologist for a diagnosis? How do I find out if he needs medication? I can talk with…
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Seroquel use in Alzheimer’s patients
DH is very agitated and having hallucinations. Doc prescribed Seroquel. Researching Mayo Clinic said it should not be used for Alzheimer’s patients. I am confused as it is often recommended. Thanks ! !
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Just when you think thing are doing prettygood
A slight change in a routine about locking the doors while I was at work.He became confused to why we need to.i have grand son I cant quit trust. He knows when I'm gone I I would the doors unlock.dh very upset when just thinks about him. Not quit sure what to do to make him less agitated.
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Wondering if I need a CELA?
Hoping you all can enlighten me, i need to redo my will and am trying to find an attorney that does estate planning, wills. What can a CELA offer that an estate planning attorney can not? My DH is at home with me, stage 6. Hoping to keep him at home but I’m also investigating MC homes just in case at some point I can not…
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Brussel Sprouts
I have been looking forward and craving brussel sprouts for a few days. It's hard for me to cook in the kitchen as my bf (45yo EOA) likes to be in there with me. I try to ask him to be out of the kitchen while I'm cooking as I don't want him to get hurt. Well, I cut up some baked chicken from Costco and was seasoning my…
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Change in voice
My DH is late stage 6, early 7 and under Hospice care. His vocabulary is mostly word salad but the last week or so his voice is different, sounds like when he has a bad cold, little deeper and a little raspy. Anyone else experienced difference in their voice??
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What to Look For at MC Facilities
While I'm hoping to not need it soon, I want to get "my ducks in a row." I'll be touring a number of MC facilities within the next couple of weeks. Other than the usual (patient to staff ratios, Med staff, etc.) What red flags should I be looking for? Any questions you wished you asked? Any help or guidance is greatly…
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Anxiety attacks
I have an appointment for my bf (45yo EOA) this Wednesday with his pcp to discuss hospice admittance. Hospice is the quick route to get him into MC. I am having anxiety and hate taking my meds. I know this is the best step for him but when I think of him being there and him feeling alone or remembering me and I'm not…
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Feeling So Sad 11
Please don’t laugh 🤣 I sat on my phone and cut off my sadness post. Maybe that was a good thing it was enough to break my melancholy. I feel better but it happens quite a bit. My DH often asks who am I? Where do I sleep? Do I have a brother? etc mostly I just happily move on but it got to me today and I felt so very sad.…
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Ten Years
it’s been 10 years since DW’s diagnosis. I used to be active on this site. At times it was a lifesaver. At times I received and gave good testimonies and advice. I may be shallow, but I stopped participating because I couldn’t tolerate those who dominated the discussion boards to proselytize and/or talk to their friends.…
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Seizure
My DW (EOAD) had a seizure this morning while we were having breakfast. I had never witnessed a seizure before and it was very scary. Luckily I was with my MIL and she was able to call 911. She had a large contusion and we had a CT which found no bleeding in the brain. She is home now. My question is does having a seizure…
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The struggle with acceptance and clarity about dementia's effects on our lives
What do you think it's about - what makes it feel hard even while in the early phases of dementia when your spouse/partner can still take care of their ADLs and still communicate somewhat? I need help finding words to describe or explain - what is this nebulous sense of enormous change in our lives? It feels seismic even…
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How Long
I'm sitting in the neuropsychologist office, having sat through the first set of questions to my DW for what I imagine will be her last evaluation to get a diagnosis. Like I need one -- she couldn't tell the Dr. what month or day it is, she can't drive or work her phone, and her speech is more halting and her ability to…
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What should we be hoping for?
Several years back, after months of testing and imaging, we got the EO ALZ diagnosis from the neurologist. Prior to the diagnosis, upon our first visit, I noticed all the rooms we used at neurology has many boxes of tissues. I thought that was odd, but we eventually found out why there were there. Going into this, I…
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A diagnosis that isn't a diagnosis
After all the tests, including a (failed) memory test, full cardiac workup, and MRI, my husband's diagnosis is "Mild Cognitive Impairment with Amnesia". No stage given, no real information about what that means, or any ideas on progression. I was told to keep an eye on things, encourage him to do brain teasers, and follow…
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Recent bedtime problem
We typically have gone to bed sometime between 10 and 11 every night. For a while now he falls asleep most days while we’re watching tv around 9:00-9:30. I try to keep him up a while longer or try to get him to go to bed and he refuses because it’s too early. Now when I wake him later to go to bed, we come to the bedroom…
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I just want to thank all my caring supportive friends
It's so odd that this online community of caring souls is brought together to give one another encouragement and support eventhough we are all going through hell. My friends and family try to understand but only you folks here truly get it. Some days we can be so strong and others we are barely hanging on. I lurked for…
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"Girlfriend" in Memory Care
DH has been in MC a little over 2 weeks, he just stopped packing up to go home every day, and seemed to be acclimating. Now, he is attached to a woman in MC! I know it happens often, and is supposedly innocent, but I have found them in his room. It is not so innocent. His wedding ring is missing, today, when I went to…
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Gentle, caring DH has become combative - now what?
My sweet DH, 77 yrs old, diagnosed with dementia 14 yrs ago moved to MC in July. Staff loves him due to his gentle demeanor and concern for others. However, he has become more combative when approached for showers, changing clothes and when redirected from doing something that could hurt him or others. Today he hit two…
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Altered taste, hearing and smell
DH is in the early stages and is constantly complaining about things smelling “different” or all his food tastes like crap. He is also complaining of not being able to hear very well. We have had a hearing exam with an audiologist, an ENT, and our primary. They don’t see anything. Is this part of the process? Have any of…