Caring for a Parent

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This is a new discussion forum for caregivers supporting a parent living with Alzheimer's or other dementia.

I am new to the site. I take care of my mom who had a stroke 4 years ago, work full time, have paid daily help, but struggle with sisters who live near us but don’t help even after I have asked. They do whatever they want and never include me. One told me “We all make our choices” last time I broke down begging and hasn’t…

Mom is in the wheelchair most days I come now. She did go to an activity last week with me and her best friend- making a pottery- so I know she still has some engagement which is great. But most days, she is quiet. She rarely speaks during visits. Her speech is mostly sounds - although her intonation is quite clear…

Hello. I am new here! My mother-in-law has been in an assisted living facility for a month. We as a family are trying to find support and help with upcoming decisions. She has been finding reasons for us to bring her back to her house to "visit her dogs", "gather more clothes", "pick up more decorations or supplies" but…

My mother and father are divorced, and I'm managing each one's financial affairs in their cognitive decline phase. My father has a live-in aide + house expenses at about $15,000 per month and my mother is in assisted living at about $8,000 per month. Both of these cost them individually about $5,000 - $7,000 per beyond…

Hi me again. From my previous post you all can see I am new to this. My Mom lived in Florida and my sister who is Guardian of the Person moved Mom up here. Here is Southern Ohio. Mom has only Florida clothing. Fall has commenced here in Southern Ohio and soon to be winter. Mom is living in Assisted Living. I tried buying…

Hi I am new. My Mom has memory loss. I am not the Guardian of the Person so I am not informed to what extent her memory loss is. My sister who is Guardian of the Person does not share that information with me. Communication between my sister and I is only through an attorney. I am my Mom's DPOA. My mom was placed into a…

My mom is the full time caregiver for my dad with Alzheimers. He been diagnosed with it for over a year. I have been trying to give Mom support. She wasn't ready to accept it. Now she is coming to me for help. We did a caregivers support group last night. I was able to call the Alzheimers hot line to give her resources.…

Looking for advice and help understanding this disease.

My mother is 78 with ES and lives alone. Until recently, she has managed around the house- she's lived there 50 yrs and only recently been alone (my dad passed 2023, my younger live-in brother passed in 2025). While I am not working (online college fulltime, however), I have become my mom's assistant, scheduler, IT tech,…

I seriously don't know how to manage this. My stress levels are through the roof and I don't want to go on. My Mom had agreed to move into AL and then turned around yesterday (about a week before it was time to move) and says 100% no way. She isn't safe at home. I'm not safe to keep up this nonsense. I'm not cut out for…

My dad is in an assisted living facility and my siblings and I are doing our best to try to do what is best for him. I have been looking for a support group, but they are all during the day geared toward retired care gives. I would like to find or start a group for adult children in the evening or weekend. Is there any…

hi mom 87 on Rexulti for a yr for agitation towards caregivers, & she is always restless. She can’t sit still, always moving, sits in chair, next minute up & sitting in another chair or pacing laps around interior of house, then sitting back in same chair, then up doing laps and back in another chair. This doesn’t hurt…

I am so grateful for this space. My mother came to live me and my husband 4 years ago. She is in the moderate stage of Alzheimer's dementia. I moved her from her beloved home and her independence in South Carolina. This is a humble business, and we've learned so much and have so much to learn. We are entering a new stage…

My Dad was just recently diagnosed Sept 29th with moderate Alzheimer’s. This has really affected me not in a good way. If anyone has any advice I’d love to hear it please!

Hello everyone, I am relatively new to this forum and I'm hoping someone in this community might have advice or recommendations based on a similar experience. I do apologize if this is an inappropriate posting. I'm the primary caregiver for my elderly mother, who has Alzheimer's disease and leukemia. We live in Monmouth…

Good morning ALZ family! It is with heavy heart that we have finally put my Dad to rest after what seemed to be a short battle with VD. It became very evident to my sisters and I, in May of this year, that he was declining and could no longer be cared for by our mother so he was placed in a facility for "rehab". From there…

My dad has been diagnosed with Alzheimers over a year. Truthfully, I never knew how to deal with that sad news. Just recently he was diagnosed with bladder cancer. I was adopted and have abandonment issues from it. Now everyday slowly losing my dad. I feel these overwhelming emotions. I just want a good night sleep without…

Mom is calling siblings, extended family and friends a huge amount of times a day asking for assistance in moving her back to her home from care center. An example...my sister received 30 calls on Tuesday and by early afternoon yesterday had 15. My brother received 15 calls yesterday and his wife as well. Care staff…

My Mom went to a neurologist a year ago. I live out of state so my brother went… no help to me. She ended up with a Rx for Donepozil (sp?) but I never saw any paperwork of a diagnosis. She was given a self administered computer test which she utterly failed because she was confused. She then took the one month Rx meds…

My mom has recently become wheelchair bound and keeps attempting to stand or walk and falls. Does anyone have suggestions on how to help keep her in the wheelchair?

Does anyone’s loved one keep their eyes closed a lot? My mom has entered a phase where she will “talk” to me with her eyes closed. I usually have to repeatedly ask her to try to open them. I’m not sure if this is common or just unique to her. Thanks in advance

So my mother's house closed about 3 weeks ago (we moved her 2.5 hours away in April to be close to me in AL). We very vaguely kept her informed as it was happening, because she's still fairly aware and in touch with old friends and it's bound to come up. We kept her out of the process, though, using our POA to sign the…

My mother has Alzheimer's, likely Stage 4 at this time but with several concerning events recently making me think we are approaching a need for assisted living (a few bathroom-related accidents when in public places, and increasing difficulty managing tasks like laundry). To date, she lives with my family, including young…

Hello everyone!! I am currently in the process of finding assisted living care for my mother who has Alzheimer’s Disease (most likely full on dementia at this point). She is starting to have bathroom issues, and I am reaching my limit. It is now a risk to her physical health and my mental health from my burn out. I mean…

Hello everyone, I am new. Last year, my mother was diagnosed with early Alzheimer's dementia; then a PET scan was clear, and they said it was a mild cognitive disorder with a tendency to grow into dementia. A year later, the situation is worse, and it is clear that this is dementia. But my mother refuses to go to the…

Truth is, I never left. I was here for support helping care for my dh, who died in May. Now I see my dad's provider has documented Alzheimer's in his record (not a surprise at this point). Over the past several months I've taken over his checking account, although he still goes and withdraws cash which is ok. He has a…

Today was the first time my mom denied that I was her daughter — she instead was quite convinced that I was her cousin (we have the same first name) and that I used to spend college summers living and working with her at the shore. I know we are not supposed to correct their reality, but I couldn't help it. At one point…

There is now a nearly daily battle between my mom & me in regards to her dirty clothes. She changes her clothes and puts them in her dirty clothes basket at the end of the day. Invariably, in the morning, after she has had an unknown length of time, while I slept, to free roam and rummage through her clothes, her dirty…

Hi friends, I am continuing to teach this year with a lighter load (which means a "lighter" paycheck too). The amount of not okay that I had reached was no longer sustainable. So I go in for 2 periods this year. Honestly, I thought it would help more than it has. I am still exhausted and overwhelmed and honestly worried…

New here. My mother is 94. My sister and I are trying to care for mom at her home ( we have a couple of caregivers who help out) I live 1 hour away from her but come and stay 2 days 1 night each week. Mom has always thought she was right about everything.. now when she asks a question ( like who owns that house next door……