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Welcome! New Forum for Caregivers
This is a new discussion forum for caregivers supporting a parent living with Alzheimer's or other dementia.
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Forgetting how to get in bed
Anyone dealt with a fairly functiontioning PWD but whom can’t seem to remember how to get herself in bed? My mom is still in AL despite some decline recently. She’s still able to use toilet and bathe herself, feed herself so not quite ready for MC (she doesn’t wander either). Previously she’d get herself in bed like a…
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Trazadone for sleep
Hi all, Has anyone had experience with Trazadone for sleep with the PWD. My LO stays up till 4 or 5am and then sleeps till almost 2pm if we don’t get him up and going. The Dr prescribed 50mg of Trazadone for sleep. I’m reluctant because of all the side effects. I have previously trying to wake him earlier and get him on a…
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Aggression and violence-early onset
Hi I have a dear friend that is dealing with her husbands combative, violent aggression. He is an early onset patient and 70 years young. He was placed in MC and they had to transport him to ER because he was harming the staff. The ER sent him to a geriatric psych facility 2 hours away. After 10 days there the psych…
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To all caregivers Merry Christmas....
Oh how the holidays have changed. Blessed are the caregivers like me.
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Mom with dementia moved to AL and misses her house. Can she go back and say bye to it?
Hello All. I recently had to put my mother into AL due to her dementia and she never had a chance to day goodbye to her house. We sold the house and I am wondering if I could take her back to it to say "goodbye?" Since she left she was crying daily about missing it and I am scared if I take her back, she will relapse into…
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Mom's ALZ has dropped a level
Hi All, Over the past few weeks we are seeing a drop in her abilities. Mom lives in Assisted Living which is great. We have watched her cognitive ability drop from time to time and most recently about a month ago she started having hallucinations (thinks she is being held somewhere then realizes she is in her bathroom).…
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How to support emotionally who got diagnosed?
My parent got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She understood the diagnosis because the dr said that the MRI definitively showed it. My parent accepted this as the truth. For her the diagnosis came out of nowhere as she is unaware of her symptoms of cognitive decline. She was sad and expressed not wanting to be a burden to…
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Memory Care “Incidents”
My mom has been in memory care for two months and has been in three “incidents” so far where other residents grab her (physically) when she’s entering or leaving her room because, in their state, they think my mom’s room is their room or they think she has something of hers, which she doesn’t. After each incident, she…
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New Here - Very Overwhelmed
Taking a deep breath here because I am not exactly sure where to even begin. My father is 75 and we do not yet have a full diagnosis but there is definite memory loss. My father has a lot going on, in addition to trying to figure this out, he also has cancer and is diabetic. He's experienced a lot of loss, as many people…
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In person support group for mom
Hello! Mom has been struggling with "age-related dementia" (malarkey) for a few years. Been working on diagnosis for almost a year. Finally have PET scan diagnosis- Moderate AD. My mil passed w AD so I know what's coming. But I didn't expect it to happen so abruptly. Mom lives with me most of the time. Goes to stay with…
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Help with not eating
My mother has virtually stopped eating. She has lost nearly 50 pounds in the last 4-5 months. Her eating has dropped to maybe a half cup of food maybe twice a day. She a is still active and very independent including cooking for herself and my father. I need help. I have tried everything I can think of. Where can I turn?
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Should I replace my Mom’s Computer?
My mom is now in her third month in AL after a fall presented the opportunity for a change she had been resisting. She’s not as happy as before, but she’s managing and at least she really likes the food. Recently her ancient Chromebook died. She does post on FB occasionally and checks her email maybe once a week. She also…
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Tipping staff
hey quick question - do you holiday tip staff at your AL/MC facility? If so, who (and how much it you’re comfortable sharing)…
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Unplugging Cord for Fear of Fire
My mother is in memory care and has been diagnosed with moderate dementia. Lately, and especially when she is staying with one of us children, we find her unplugging everything in her room at the assisted living before she leaves and in her bedroom at our houses when she goes to bed because she’s afraid she’s going to…
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Parent in denial
Hello, I am new to this forum and am seeking some assistance in how to best navigate getting someone to be seen for concerns of dementia/alzheimers? My mother has been exhibiting symptoms for a few years and her memory and ability to convey her thoughts clearly are greatly diminishing. She refuses to acknowledge this…
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Cameras indoor
Hi, does anyone have a suggestion on indoor cameras? My mother is living alone for now and I put a camera in kitchen & one by her favorite chair & on patio. These cameras follow movement and also have a red light and she notices them and unplugs them. I’m not sure if they make a camera without the red light coming on or…
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New to the group: Mom won’t stop shopping online
Hi there, My mother has been suffering from memory decline for a few years and was just officially diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, in the early enough stages we’re talking about Lecanemab and I’m sure I’ll be back asking questions about that! One thing we’re dealing with that I feel like others have also struggled with is that…
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New to the group: Dad diagnosed with MCI, what now?
First time posting here, glad to have found this group! My dad is a widower and lives alone. In the past few months, his memory and cognitive skills have noticeably declined. Primary care doctor referred us to a neurologist and my dad scored 20 on the MOCA. My dad was very agitated by the appointment, said he didn’t trust…
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How to convince a loved one to move into an assisted living facility
hello. I am a caregiver for my father. He currently lives alone. I live very close to him. His Alzheimer’s has progressed and I’m concerned about him living alone. I’ve had some things in place the last few years that have allowed him to remain home but his behaviors, especially late in the day, are concerning me. The…
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Holiday
My mom moved into memory care AL in September. I am wondering how people have navigated the holidays with outings to the home setting? We are fearful it would be triggering to her but I am also unsure she remembers this house since she was only there June-September. I just want her to be comfortable and happy
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Thanksgiving MC
I don’t know what to do about thanksgiving. My mom is in MC. Has been since August. She keeps bringing up Thanksgiving and my sister who usually hosts. My sister and I were hoping that bringing our families together at the MC’s Thanksgiving holiday buffet celebration would help but it hasn’t. She’s fixated on Thanksgiving…
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New Here - 33 looking for support for mother diagnosed with AD
I am not normally one to reach out for support in this format but I feel very isolated in my mother’s recent Alzheimer’s diagnosis. We have seen her condition worsen over the last few years and last year there was a huge red flag for us when she couldn’t remember opening gifts at Christmas. I was 2 weeks postpartum and…
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Dad with early stage, worsening
Hi, My sweet dad, 84, is declining and he knows it. It’s utterly heartbreaking. He has begun saying he lives in another house that is exactly like his. Most days, he falls asleep in his chair in the afternoon. I also have to make sure he eats because he won’t think to or he gets overwhelmed thinking about it. Until one day…
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Awareness and denial in those with A/D
My situation is that my mother-in-law has some level of dementia, whether it's early or later stage I have no idea. My wife and I live 3 hours away from my MIL and we visit regularly to try to help support her and the family members that live very nearby, and deal with her every day. Because we are so far away, we don't…
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I'm new to all of this!
I'm the daughter Of A newly diagnosed Vascular dementia patient , my 86 yr old dad. Our situation is pretty unique. He's living alone For the 1st time in his entire life. The love of his life And my mom died in 2012 After 5 year battle With cancer in which my dad took care of her at home. He moved in with my brother After…
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Memory Care and/or Assisted Living facilities in Seattle?
Hi, I am currently in the weeds of looking at memory care facilities in the Seattle area for my father (has had Alzheimers for approx 10 years, mid stage, but moving more towards later stage). Additionally his wife (current caregiver) was also recently diagnosed with early dementia. Ideally I would love to find a place for…
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Probiotiques
Bonjour, quels sont les Probiotiques qui sont adaptés à une personne atteinte d'alzheimer ? Merci d'avance pour vos aides Cordialement
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New to group. Married father moved in with us. Undiagnosed
In August we brought my very confused father to live with us, released in family care. Wife is from the Philippines and works 24/7. In the 3 months he has been here he's had 21.4 hours of facetime with her. My father is getting hyper focused on things that last 1-2 weeks. I have tried to involve her in his care but she…
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Starting a new business at 80
Hello all, I’m new as well to the group. With all that cognitive changes I have noticed with my dad, the biggest concern is talks of starting a business with no prior business experience as well as assuming his sister will co-sign on a loan. There are a lot of financial risks that I believe his brain is not logically…
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Wife memory disappearing and won't see a doctor
My wife of 53 years has been in memory decline for over a year and it is getting worse. She will ask the same question dozens of time a day. She doesn't want to see a doctor because her mother told her most doctors do nothing useful. For a while I was confronting her with the memory loss information but she always denies…