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Welcome! New Forum for Caregivers
This is a new discussion forum for caregivers supporting a parent living with Alzheimer's or other dementia.
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Anyone sold a car with durable POA in CA?
I'm so frustrated. Twice I'm failing to sell my parents car in CA with power of attorney. I'm coming from out of state to sell the car so I'm so frustrated and not to mention in both cases I called in advance to make sure the transaction could take place. I'm off the charts irritated. I have struck out with carmax and the…
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Coping with Increasing Sleepiness?
My father is at stage 6 according to the DBAT charts and has been in MC more than a year. He started napping in the afternoons several months ago, and he has been sleeping more and more. He is often resistant to getting up. When he is up he reports being “exhausted.” I know this is a common part of disease progression. I…
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Losing the better half
I lost my wife to this dreaded disease on Oct 12, and I cannot to the tears. I loved her so much and I took care of her by buying whatever was needed to make her comfortable. I made sure she was clean all of the time and when she was calling out for a drink, I was there. I bought her a hospital bed, a Pure Wick, A floating…
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dental care for bedridden mother w/Alzheimer's
I've been caring for my 89 yr old mother with Alzheimer's for several years. She fell & broke her hip this past February, & has been bedridden since. She has decay in her bottom teeth, & one tooth is nearly completely rotted away. As she can't walk, I can't get her to a dentist; & even if I could, she would likely not…
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I Feel Lost, Depressed and So Very Sad
Hello. I am new to ALZ Connect. I am looking to connect with others who have or are experiencing what I am going through as an adult child with a parent with ALZ and another parent who is losing it as the care giver. I am hoping to connect with others who feel similar to what I feel so maybe I won't feel so alone in this…
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Please help 😭
Hello everyone. My name is Susan. Just to give you an idea of who I am and what is going on 💔. I have two sisters and one brother. And both of my parents. My Mom is losing her memory and she is starting to get really mean. This is not my Mom when she is mean. My Mama is a fun loving, carefree, kind and caring woman. But…
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Dad calling police in nursing home
Putting my dad in a nursing and getting multiple calls a day was bad enough. Now my dad is calling the police every day from the nursing home. I don't know what to do and I am getting very stressed about it.
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New here, need some help to keep going
Hi there, I have been caring for my mother who is almost 82 to now for about 3 year Directly and indirectly. It's starting to feel over whelming again and seems the disease is taking another progressive step forward. I'm feeling kinda lost, I'm 42 and have been taking care of my mother in one way or another since my father…
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Seroquel for non violent delusions
My parent is having non violent delusions for the past 6 weeks. She lives in memory care and is mid stage. Her mood overall is good and these delusions do not cause significant agitation but they can be upsetting to her in a normal way. Ie if she thinks someone passed away she will be sad they have passed. Examples of…
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Kisunla infusions- treatment side effects
Hello, My dad is about to start his Kisunla infusions. I am hoping to hear from people whose loved ones or they themselves have experienced some of the infusions what the possible side effects have been. I am familiar with the listed side effects, but would like to hear from individuals who have experienced the infusions…
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Christmas in MC
My mom has been in MC for three months. She has never stopped telling us she wants to leave, it’s been a constant during every discussion and visit. She is approx at the end stage 5. She can still hold conversations (with added delusions and confabulations). She was obsessed with “moving” out by Thanksgiving and is now…
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Antibiotics for (presumed) UTI
I noticed on mom's last pharmacy bill that she'd been prescribed an antibiotic in mid November. I had heard nothing about this so I contacted the NP who provides care at mom's MC. She replied that the med was prescribed "at request of staff due to some behaviors." I also heard nothing from MC last month about unusual…
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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Mother wanting to leave AL - arranging movers
I just moved my mom into AL the day before Thanksgiving - not even two weeks ago. That day she said she’d “sleep on the couch” (I haven’t sold her condo yet). I said she was moving that day, and she had to stay there. She’s been in the decision-making process of where to go. I tried to pick the best possible place, and…
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What Should I Say?
I am visiting with my parents for a few days and my Mom is very confused. She has Alzheimer’s . She often does not recognize my Dad and thinks he’s an imposter. She is scared of him. He will tell her it’s him. My brother lives with her and he says “that’s Dad.” My Mom is very confused. She says the only two people she…
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Need suggestions on responses, please...
I am new here, and I have been reading through some posts and it is really comforting knowing that I am not alone and this is reasonably "normal". However, I could really use some advice: My mom is now in a memory care unit, she believes it to be a hotel. She will keep asking me if she needs to go to the front desk to pay…
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Christmas Decorations
Mom is in a nursing home. There is not much room. I brought a few decorations (a couple of Christmas wall hangings she made) and a three foot Santa to set in the hall by her door. She has always wanted Christmas decorations taken down as soon as Christmas is over, because she gets depressed after Christmas. After…
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Electrical work
Hi. This is my first post. I have a relative who is in the middle stages of cognitive decline and is waiting for an appointment to receive a more official diagnosis. Their spouse insists that he live at home. Over the years he's done most of his home repairs. He believes he is still capable of doing such repairs and helps…
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Feeling a bit sad - one more step in the progression
Let me start by saying, I know how lucky we are. I am, really am, counting my blessings. But my LO is quite elderly and their condition is declining. They have been on hospice since the summer. The hospice has been great. But this week both the social worker and the RN independently asked if we would consider a hospital…
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New here. Need help understanding.
I’m at the beginning stages of learning about dementia and how to help my mom navigate dementia. She recently became aggressive toward me and accused me of stealing some dolls from her. She told me I was the devil and she was going to shoot me with a gun. Although I wasn’t in any real danger, it was still scary and it…
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Mom diagnosed with eo which caused drivers license recall
Hello, I am new to this forum and very much respect all the insight and answers that I have read on the various discussion boards. My mom was recently diagnosed with eo. It was becoming apparent to me with her repeating her questions numerous times, not remembering where items were and minor memory events. She is still…
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Medicare Question
Hi everyone, My mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's (mild) state. She currently has Medicare under an Advantage Plan - United Healthcare. Because of her new diagnosis, we are considering moving her back to Original Medicare in order to have more options for care. Does anyone have advice about this (i.e. having Original…
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Benfotiamine
Hello. My 86 yr old Mother has Dementia. Has anyone here had any luck with the OTC supplement, Benfotiamine (Vitamin B1)?
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Trying to adjust
Wife 78 years old has dementia first noticed problems 4 years ago last year she was afraid to be alone and I quit job to care for her. Now she is at the stage where she can’t speak coherently and gets upset when I can’t understand what she is saying, Entered a memory care facility 2weeks ago after making sure for years…
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Emotional Support
I am living for 2 years now with my 78 year old mother who currently has dementia. She is now prone to falling cause she often gets confused while walking in our apartment. She had fallen last month cause she bent down to pick her glasses up off the floor. She then fell earlier tonight cause she didn't understand when I…
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Decline when placed in Memory Care
Regret regret!!! My LO was placed in a Memory Care facility just three weeks ago. They were living alone and after three weeks needs wheelchair, has fallen four times, wears diapers, can hardly feed self and mumbles. He walked with walker into the facility on the day he was admitted.... what happened! Is it the change that…
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Barely Surviving Everday…
Hi, I am new here. By a grace of God, I was given this website, believe it or not from a woman that was a customer service representative at the Treasury Department. My mom has Alzheimer’s, and I suspected it four years ago and sent the alarm to the family. Nobody believed me, and thought it was natural aging, and…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/19/25
TODAY’S INSPIRATION THE LORD IS WITH YOU AND ME Psalm 3:5 New Living Translation I lay down and slept, yet I woke up in safety, for the Lord was watching over me. me: Our lives might be a struggle, but you and I are never alone without help. In Psalm 3, David writes the Lord is our shield and our glory; He hears us and…
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Neuro Pyscological Testing
Well, mom's new pcp is on top of her game and I am so pleased. After mom failed her SLUMS test, the doctor finally was able to get my mom a neuro consult. She has an HMO, so annoying referrals are required.😢 Anyhow, referral obtained, appt made. Mom saw the neurologist today for them to review her MRI from July and consult…