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Never know when something will trigger profound grief...
I went to get a band-aid for my finger and found this. As my husband's dementia progressed, he couldn't remember the word for Band-Aids. So he took them out of the box and put them in this zip-lock bag and wrote BAND-AIDs on it…. I found myself with tears coming down my cheeks. Such a small thing but such a sadness… I know…
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Need to say no
I asked this in another discussion but came here due to the recent loss of my husband just a month ago. I am frozen right now with grief and am not ready to socialize. A cousin asked me to lunch tomorrow (we are not that close), as he is passing thru my area, and I said yes, but now I really don't want to go. And my…
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Can't remember my DW pre-dementia
I am in stage 8. My DW was diagnosed in 2016 and died in August of this year. Her symptoms started in 2012. I cannot remember what my DW was like pre-dementia. It makes me so sad. I hope those memories will eventually come back…
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Mom passed away 10/5/25 at 12:09 pm
She is in Heaven now. And a sleep not suffering anymore. Thank you God for mercy. Jesus preached the good news. He said if we believe in him we will be with him in heaven. And when Jesus returns he will raise the dead and death will be no more in a new Kingdom under him. My Mother was a minister with her Church and…
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Saw 4 hawks today…
I’m driving to attend a reunion with Marines my husband served with in Vietnam. 3 wives who have lost their husbands since I last attended with my husband 6 years ago will be there. My husband and I traveled in an RV and always counted hawks. He believed in Native American philosophy and hawks are good luck. On my trip…
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Guilt and Grief
My wife of 47 years died from Alzheimer’s in July 2025 on her 75th birthday. I was her only caregiver for the past 10 years. During the last 12 months or more of her life I prayed and asked others to pray for me to have more patience and understanding of her affliction. I knew at times I was being impatient and knew it was…
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Hospice at home?
mom has Alzheimer’s, stage four or five. Her husband of 71 years is now going into hospice. We are debating on whether to bring him home so she can spend time with him or placing him in a hospice facility. My fear is that my mom will not remember what is going on and having him here will be harder on her than if we had to…
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The Stage 8 Club
I first learned the term, stage 8, on this forum just a few days ago. Never new what i would call my life after she passed. It has been a little over three weeks since my dear wife left me and the family. It was a long eight year journey but thankfully she did not suffer physically or by some other health condition and she…
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Alzheimer/Dementia and Emergency Care
I just wanted to offer up a watchout regarding taking a loved one with AD to the emergency room. I have now experienced this personally and heard similar reports from others. The medical community does wonderful things to treat health issues. However, there is a huge gap in what they can do for persons with AD and the…
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Take Them With You…
I saw this today and really needed it. I went somewhere today by myself and carried Lonny with me in my heart. 💜
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Processing The Grief
My dear wife left us three weeks ago after her eight year battle with this evil disease. I have been her primary caregiver throughout, supported most recently by a couple of caregivers for several hours each day. The family and friends were there for us at the end and for the week or so after the funeral. They all must go…
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Looking for someone to help me launch Support Grouo.
I am the Pastor/Chaplain for Holbrook Acworth. I am looking for someone to help me facilitate a monthly support group at our location.
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Guilt and Regret
My wife passed away 8 months ago, and I was taking care of her 24/7. It was getting difficult, sometimes I lost patience and was abusive to her - other than the grief that I'm still going through for someone who I loved so much, how do I handle the guilt and regret that I feel at times? It was getting really tough at the…
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My Heart Will Go On..
I lost my husband and soulmate to Alzheimer’s one year ago today. It’s been a rough day. I miss him so much it hurts. I'm thankful for the beautiful memories we made. Love you LonHo! 🙏💜 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3QAqZQYLIQ Every night in my dreams I see you, I feel you That is how I know you go on Far across the…
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Dream last night….
I haven’t dreamt since 2023 when I was diagnosed with aggressive cancer and had no choice but to place my husband Lonny in Memory Care so I could get treatment. He passed last August 12. Last night I dreamt that I was on a trip and was desperately trying to get back to him. I couldn’t find my luggage or find my way back to…
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Lost My Sister June 25, 2025
My sister finally went home to the Lord on June 25, 2025 after a valiant battle with this insidious disease for at least five years, likely more. She would have been 60 on July 17. We had thought about having her memorial on her 60th birthday, but couldn't quite get it together. So the memorial is July 30, just a few days…
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His Birthday is Today
My husband just passed on June 19, and today is his birthday. While there is never a good time to go, this is just too close for me. I am struggling in every way. How does one get through these important dates? I know the first year will be the worst, but this is beyond awful. People are calling & texting, and I'm hiding…
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I am just so sad
My DH passed from Alzheimer's on June 17th. We were together for 36 years, most of it very good. I just can't stand the grief. How can someone who was so vibrant simply cease to be? How can I live the rest of my life without him? My mind knows that time will help, but right now it is so hard. This forum has been so helpful…
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Next?
Mom has a brain hemorrhage and is in critical condition at a local hospital. She is going to die before my dad. He has step 7 vascular dementia and he will accept the fact that Mom died? Geeze, both parents with life threatening conditions. I'm medical POA and need to make the ultimate decision. This is so hard.
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Dad with dementia survives mom
Mom had a massive brain hemorrhage and as medical POA, I had the difficult decision to take her off life support after 3 days in a coma. She passed 2 days later. Funeral was on the 19th. Now I'm focusing on taking care of Dad as he has late stage vascular dementia. We were supposed to plan for Dad to pass first but then…
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Loss of spouse/significant other bereavement group
Unfortunately, there was no interest in the group so it no longer exists.
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Four months
It has been four months since Mom died. I find myself feeling I should call her, I should be going to the AL to see her. By that I mean that I feel guilty that I’m not doing those things any more. It’s not exactly that I miss doing them- it wasn’t as if mom was capable ( for several years) of being someone to carry on a…
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Struggling in Stage 8
my DH Lonny passed last August. I miss him so much it hurts. While I expected the mental pain I didn’t expect the physical reaction every time I think of him. I’ve been doing things to honor his memory. I moved in with my daughter and son-in-law but I feel alone. I don’t have any friends nearby and family is so busy. My…
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One year to the day
Well, here we are. It's hard to believe that it's been exactly one year since my sister passed away due to "complications of clinically diagnosed Alzheimer's disease", as is stated on her death certificate. In some ways it still doesn't feel real, even though it very much is. I've been reflective today. The other two core…
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Grief after loss of mom with Alzheimer’s
Hi there, new to the support forum and hoping I can find any whom are dealing with the grief of losing a mom to Alzheimer’s. I was her sole caregiver for nearly 7-10 years. I’m hoping there’s some other Alzheimer’s daughters out there. How do you handle the combined grief, trauma from caregiving and near debilitating fear…
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Medical Marijuana: Anyone w/ experience?
I've been on the regular caregiver's board, but likely should have been here. I'm a 69-year-old man.. My Mom was 91. I was her primary caregiver for two years. She passed two days ago. My heart literally hurts. It's the dull hurt one has during extreme sadness, located just a little left of the center of the chest. She was…
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ho perso mia moglie a causa della sindrome Alzheimer/Corpi di Lewy.
Salve sono stato il marito di Margherita, la mia bellissima moglie, giovane intraprendente e amatissima compagna. Dopo alcuni anni di questa malattia incredibile lei se ne è andata lasciandomi solo con due figlie, Alice e Valentina, già grandi. Ma la sua assenza è incolmabile, per me e per loro anche se stanno reagendo…
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Day 10
Day 10. Doing laundry. I tried to sort the clothes and came to the black sweater I wore to the visitation and funeral. I can still smell the scents of the people who hugged me and showed me such love. I held it close and cried like a baby. Then I carefully folded it and put it away unwashed. It seems that now that the…
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processing/ grief support, not lots of people to relate to
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