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Can someone repair this site?
I have been logging into discussions for "those who have lost someone" for weeks now. Yesterday, I found that other conversations were also coming up on that section. Today, the same. Can one of the moderators fix this so we don't have to wade through a long list of conversations to find the topic we are looking for?…
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Need prayers.
I learned today my cancer has returned. 😢. I was diagnosed in Dec 2023 and had to place my husband in memory care so I could get treatment. had chemo and then surgery in April 2024. I’ve been cancer free for 20 months. My husband passed in August 2024. I will now have more chemo and more surgery. I’m thankful my DH never…
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Toughen Up Buttercup!
I offer this mostly in jest but with a bit of personal truth also. Over the years raising three daughters with my dear wife, she was always the one with superhuman intuition. She knew what our daughters were thinking or plotting before they did and would often be able to intercept their actions. If she did not stop them,…
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Need to say no
I asked this in another discussion but came here due to the recent loss of my husband just a month ago. I am frozen right now with grief and am not ready to socialize. A cousin asked me to lunch tomorrow (we are not that close), as he is passing thru my area, and I said yes, but now I really don't want to go. And my…
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Where Do You Find Peace
I am six months in after losing my dear wife and after a brief period of foolishly thinking I was moving ahead, the overwhelming grief came back with a vengeance. Try as I might, finding any traction forward seems impossible. With so much time to think, I came to realize that beyond the grief, the sadness, the tears, the…
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Still With the Guilt
My DW passed away two nights ago. I had said goodbye to so many parts of our relationship already, but her actually being gone is the worst feeling I've ever had. I have been crying about never seeing her again, but find myself struggling with the devastation I feel at knowing I'll never look in those beautiful, twinkling…
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As long as I live, you will be loved. In memory of my DH Lonny.
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GriefShare
Looking in my area for support resources and little if any available but I did see where GriefShare holds an introductory one day session for those who have lost a spouse. I attended yesterday and it was interesting in hearing several stories from others about their loss. However, their 13 week workshop seems to be open to…
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To honor you...
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Grief...
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Recent passing of my mother
My mother, diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s in 2020, passed away on December 20th at 64 after a long battle. COVID worsened her condition in March 2020, leading to paranoia and violence. Due to state restrictions, we moved her to Florida to an assisted living home. Months later, she contracted COVID and lost her…
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Counting the days
A recent comment by @Jo124c on another thread prompted me to share this poem I recently wrote. The commenter wrote about counting the number of days since their husband died and posting it on a whiteboard as a way of maintaining connection. ********** Sunday, December 21, 2025 Eleven months today (Will I ever stop marking…
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Grief Differences Among Family
I wanted to reach out to others here for feedback. I struggle trying to help family understand why their grief for the loss of their mother or grandmother looks so much different than the overwhelming grief they see in me. I know each and every one misses her terribly, so it is definitely not because they cared less or…
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Today would have been our 40th Anniversary
today 40 years ago we were married. It’s been a sad day. I miss him so much it hurts but I wouldn’t want him back to suffer. Hugs to all in Stage 8. 💜
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Input requested for oxygen use on very late stage dementia
I’m sorry if this question is inappropriate for this forum but it asks a question about very end stage dementia and I thought those her might be more knowledgeable and willing to provide some insight. I has also posted this question on the spousal caregiver forum. My DW has been in Stage 7f for about a year. She is…
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Can't remember my DW pre-dementia
I am in stage 8. My DW was diagnosed in 2016 and died in August of this year. Her symptoms started in 2012. I cannot remember what my DW was like pre-dementia. It makes me so sad. I hope those memories will eventually come back…
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Just Sharing
I stumbled upon this poem because the slide image of a dragonfly caught my eye. My dear wife, now gone for four months dearly loved dragonflies. I found them pretty and interesting but never quite understood her fascination. When we were at our condo in Florida sitting on the balcony, dragonflies would show up in numbers,…
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His Birthday is Today
My husband just passed on June 19, and today is his birthday. While there is never a good time to go, this is just too close for me. I am struggling in every way. How does one get through these important dates? I know the first year will be the worst, but this is beyond awful. People are calling & texting, and I'm hiding…
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Im 40 and he was 46.
My loved one of 6 years, 3 months, 26 days passed on November 29th. Today was my first day back to work. I was supposed to go in yesterday but anxiety struck me. I work in a pharmacy located in a doctor office. I only broke once today. However now I can't stop crying. I miss my Luis so much. I feel like i have been in…
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The Stage 8 Club
I first learned the term, stage 8, on this forum just a few days ago. Never new what i would call my life after she passed. It has been a little over three weeks since my dear wife left me and the family. It was a long eight year journey but thankfully she did not suffer physically or by some other health condition and she…
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Talking To One Who Knows
My dear wife left us in August, 2025. That was when the floodgates of grief were finally opened fully and all that I had been managing for years was allowed to be unleashed. As so many have described, it is overwhelming and far more difficult than handling the care of my dear wife for years. It is such a raw,…
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Am I The Only One
I am trusting this group to be as tolerant, supportive and open as I have continued to promote to others as I share some thoughts that have only recently started to become clear to me. I am an older male born just after WWII and I know that I am perhaps out of touch with popular thinking about the role of the male in a…
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Beautiful video… they are always with us..
My step daughter sent me this today. She lost her Dad (my husband) August 2024 and is fighting breast cancer. Please pray for her. 🙏🩷💜https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1H4g5iJ38G/?mibextid=wwXIfr
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My Mom passed away October 5th 2025
Hello, I dreaded the day I would be on this side of the discussion title. It's been two months and I am in unbelievable physical pain, I resigned from a easy job, am in debt, no insurance, searching for a new religion, I have fear, terrible anxiety, had a few panic attacks, am confused, hated people and do not trust…
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Mom passed away 10/5/25 at 12:09 pm
She is in Heaven now. And a sleep not suffering anymore. Thank you God for mercy. Jesus preached the good news. He said if we believe in him we will be with him in heaven. And when Jesus returns he will raise the dead and death will be no more in a new Kingdom under him. My Mother was a minister with her Church and…
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I wont let dementia steal any more…
I saw this today in a divorce Facebook group and it hit home. A daughter told her Mom who didn’t want to decorate for the holidays to not allow divorce to steal your joy. Dementia took so much. Our future and my soulmate. I am going to work very hard to not allow it to steal my joy and the rest of my life. My husband…
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Caregiver, What It Means
I was very lucky to find several people to assist me as caregivers to care for my dear wife over the last 8-10 months of her life. Caregivers for loved ones with this horrible disease that brings us all here are quite special in my opinion. To be a successful caregiver for one with this disease requires more of the…
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So instead of carrying grief…carrying my love?
I saw this on another site. it spoke to me. I have been trying desperately to leave the grief behind. Maybe this will help. I’m leaving you here. For one night I want to forget. And maybe smile. Grief: You can’t leave me behind. I’m tired. You are heavy. Sometimes you are just too much to bear. Grief: I am a part of you…
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Alone, A New Realization
It came to me overnight when, as is often the case, I found myself awake way too early. Thanksgiving came and went with dinner at one of the daughters home with most all our family and my brother's family attending. I made it through but, as i suspected, the world fell apart afterwards. I felt lost among all my close…
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The losses just keeps coming
I couldn’t decide where to post this: here or on the front porch(where I’ve never posted). I know not very many people visit here- but it’s a place to get my thoughts out. As you know, my spouse and I lost our son( April 2023). Then I lost my step-dad Feb. 2024. He wasn’t a nice person, but I had known him for 59 years. I…