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Grief Differences Among Family
I wanted to reach out to others here for feedback. I struggle trying to help family understand why their grief for the loss of their mother or grandmother looks so much different than the overwhelming grief they see in me. I know each and every one misses her terribly, so it is definitely not because they cared less or…
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So instead of carrying grief…carrying my love?
I saw this on another site. it spoke to me. I have been trying desperately to leave the grief behind. Maybe this will help. I’m leaving you here. For one night I want to forget. And maybe smile. Grief: You can’t leave me behind. I’m tired. You are heavy. Sometimes you are just too much to bear. Grief: I am a part of you…
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Alone, A New Realization
It came to me overnight when, as is often the case, I found myself awake way too early. Thanksgiving came and went with dinner at one of the daughters home with most all our family and my brother's family attending. I made it through but, as i suspected, the world fell apart afterwards. I felt lost among all my close…
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Need to say no
I asked this in another discussion but came here due to the recent loss of my husband just a month ago. I am frozen right now with grief and am not ready to socialize. A cousin asked me to lunch tomorrow (we are not that close), as he is passing thru my area, and I said yes, but now I really don't want to go. And my…
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The losses just keeps coming
I couldn’t decide where to post this: here or on the front porch(where I’ve never posted). I know not very many people visit here- but it’s a place to get my thoughts out. As you know, my spouse and I lost our son( April 2023). Then I lost my step-dad Feb. 2024. He wasn’t a nice person, but I had known him for 59 years. I…
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How To Find Purpose Again?
I knew where the path ended, the outcome never in doubt, but after so many years with my purpose being to care for my dear wife how do I find any purpose in going on? After 60 years together, with the last 10 or so caring for her as she suffered AD, my singular goal was to provide her care to keep her at home as she…
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Grief Counseling: Yay or Nay?
My beautiful Mom transitioned this past August. I miss her every single day. It's painful, actually, and I know only a couple of months have passed, but time is not healing. Every day without her is painful. As her only child and primary beneficiary, I have access to grief counseling that her health insurance policy offers…
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Heading into the Holidays Alone
The coming holidays will be my first without my mother or Roger. It seems like there is a lot out there about navigating the holidays around family and friends, but no real advice for those of us who have neither. The usual advice about finding a community dinner to attend or volunteer at just doesn't ring true for me. And…
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All the "firsts" at once
My DH passed September 27th 2025 and in November was his birthday. Our girls and I went to the cemetary and had cupcakes in his honor. Now there is 2 weeks till Thanksgiving, and 8 days after Thanksgiving we would have celebrated our 38th anniversary. 20 days after our anniversary will be Christmas. Ive been very…
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Guilt lingers where love was poured without measure...
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Where I Find Peace
My dear wife left us in August, 2025 after her 8+ year struggle with this nightmare. The going remains very hard at this point at home or trying to get out. After her burial, I waited until the cemetery notified me that her name had been installed on our grave site to visit. Unfortunately the cemetery is not close by,…
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Input requested for oxygen use on very late stage dementia
I’m sorry if this question is inappropriate for this forum but it asks a question about very end stage dementia and I thought those her might be more knowledgeable and willing to provide some insight. I has also posted this question on the spousal caregiver forum. My DW has been in Stage 7f for about a year. She is…
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Can't remember my DW pre-dementia
I am in stage 8. My DW was diagnosed in 2016 and died in August of this year. Her symptoms started in 2012. I cannot remember what my DW was like pre-dementia. It makes me so sad. I hope those memories will eventually come back…
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Feeling lost, dad has passed and am struggling to handle his estate
My dad passed a week ago. My mom preceded him in death. I have a copy of their will and I was his activated POA. The attorney that created the will is no longer living. What do I do next? Do I need to hire an attorney to instruct us how to process the will, file his taxes, etc.? Is there a checklist of all the things I…
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If missing them didn't have to hurt...
I've been hurting mentally & physically since my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The hurting became worse after he passed in August 2024. I recently saw an article about "Thought Stopping" to cope with grief. You can search for the Thought Stopping techniques online. It is helping but it takes practice. The…
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Never know when something will trigger profound grief...
I went to get a band-aid for my finger and found this. As my husband's dementia progressed, he couldn't remember the word for Band-Aids. So he took them out of the box and put them in this zip-lock bag and wrote BAND-AIDs on it…. I found myself with tears coming down my cheeks. Such a small thing but such a sadness… I know…
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Mom passed away 10/5/25 at 12:09 pm
She is in Heaven now. And a sleep not suffering anymore. Thank you God for mercy. Jesus preached the good news. He said if we believe in him we will be with him in heaven. And when Jesus returns he will raise the dead and death will be no more in a new Kingdom under him. My Mother was a minister with her Church and…
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Saw 4 hawks today…
I’m driving to attend a reunion with Marines my husband served with in Vietnam. 3 wives who have lost their husbands since I last attended with my husband 6 years ago will be there. My husband and I traveled in an RV and always counted hawks. He believed in Native American philosophy and hawks are good luck. On my trip…
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Guilt and Grief
My wife of 47 years died from Alzheimer’s in July 2025 on her 75th birthday. I was her only caregiver for the past 10 years. During the last 12 months or more of her life I prayed and asked others to pray for me to have more patience and understanding of her affliction. I knew at times I was being impatient and knew it was…
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Hospice at home?
mom has Alzheimer’s, stage four or five. Her husband of 71 years is now going into hospice. We are debating on whether to bring him home so she can spend time with him or placing him in a hospice facility. My fear is that my mom will not remember what is going on and having him here will be harder on her than if we had to…
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The Stage 8 Club
I first learned the term, stage 8, on this forum just a few days ago. Never new what i would call my life after she passed. It has been a little over three weeks since my dear wife left me and the family. It was a long eight year journey but thankfully she did not suffer physically or by some other health condition and she…
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Alzheimer/Dementia and Emergency Care
I just wanted to offer up a watchout regarding taking a loved one with AD to the emergency room. I have now experienced this personally and heard similar reports from others. The medical community does wonderful things to treat health issues. However, there is a huge gap in what they can do for persons with AD and the…
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Take Them With You…
I saw this today and really needed it. I went somewhere today by myself and carried Lonny with me in my heart. 💜
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Processing The Grief
My dear wife left us three weeks ago after her eight year battle with this evil disease. I have been her primary caregiver throughout, supported most recently by a couple of caregivers for several hours each day. The family and friends were there for us at the end and for the week or so after the funeral. They all must go…
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Looking for someone to help me launch Support Grouo.
I am the Pastor/Chaplain for Holbrook Acworth. I am looking for someone to help me facilitate a monthly support group at our location.
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Guilt and Regret
My wife passed away 8 months ago, and I was taking care of her 24/7. It was getting difficult, sometimes I lost patience and was abusive to her - other than the grief that I'm still going through for someone who I loved so much, how do I handle the guilt and regret that I feel at times? It was getting really tough at the…
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My Heart Will Go On..
I lost my husband and soulmate to Alzheimer’s one year ago today. It’s been a rough day. I miss him so much it hurts. I'm thankful for the beautiful memories we made. Love you LonHo! 🙏💜 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3QAqZQYLIQ Every night in my dreams I see you, I feel you That is how I know you go on Far across the…
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Dream last night….
I haven’t dreamt since 2023 when I was diagnosed with aggressive cancer and had no choice but to place my husband Lonny in Memory Care so I could get treatment. He passed last August 12. Last night I dreamt that I was on a trip and was desperately trying to get back to him. I couldn’t find my luggage or find my way back to…
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Lost My Sister June 25, 2025
My sister finally went home to the Lord on June 25, 2025 after a valiant battle with this insidious disease for at least five years, likely more. She would have been 60 on July 17. We had thought about having her memorial on her 60th birthday, but couldn't quite get it together. So the memorial is July 30, just a few days…
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His Birthday is Today
My husband just passed on June 19, and today is his birthday. While there is never a good time to go, this is just too close for me. I am struggling in every way. How does one get through these important dates? I know the first year will be the worst, but this is beyond awful. People are calling & texting, and I'm hiding…