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youngestdaughter77

My mom has vascular dementia and is 80 years old. We are in our second year of our journey with her. She lives with my stepdad and he does most of the caregiving since my brother and I still have full time jobs. I have been trying to help out from the 6pm-9pm during the week but her agitation and anger is getting worse everyday. She recently was told she can no longer be the church organist by the council. They have let her play this long because it is the only thing that keeps her going honestly. One minute she understands and can handle that she will be retiring and then at night she calls me and is yelling at me and accusing me of all sort of things. How do I get her to understand she will no longer be playing after Easter Sunday?