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New Member, First Post - Power of Attorney
I have three siblings and one lives fifteen minutes away from my mom. I live in another state but manage all her finances and anything else I can to take the load off our sibling who lives locally. When I agreed to be my mom's power of attorney, I naively thought it would only come into play for her finances. However, this…
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Guardianship
I am the middle child, and the only girl. My mom has appointed me POA for both health and financial. Of course there has to one sibling that will not play by the rules, my oldest brother. He has recently purchased a vehicle in my mothers name. She didn't know what the heck was going on when I asked her about it and neither…
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I’m burned out and don’t know what to do
my DH has undiagnosed dementia and steadfastly refuses to see his doctor. This has been going on for more than three years. DH is 75 years old and is healthy except for his memory problems. My son comes over three nights a week to support me but he works full time so I’m pretty much on my own. I can’t hire a caregiver…
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Nevermind
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DW Seizure
My DW who has been living with ALZ for 7 years (64 yr) had a seizure last week ( first one) about 9:30 AM in the morning. The seizure lasted about a min and to see your wife in convulsions was really shocking for me to and called 911. The EMT checked her out and although she was out of it all her vitals were ok and did not…
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I don’t know what to do!!
My mother will be 70 years old and my sister and I started seeing changes happening with my mom. We thought it was because my our brother passed away at age 38 and threw my mom in a depression. But it’s been four years and my mother‘s behavior is scaring us. She started hearing things seeing things tasting things smelling…
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How to motivate your AD spouse to do things that will help her.
My AD spouse isn’t self-motivated. I have made dot papers for her to complete with her name, address, phone number… I am continually helping her navigate her phone and texting… I am helping everyday to work the tv remote… she was a music director so I have enlarged music for her to sing with(words only)… I write our day’s…
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Is there any other way to relieve agitation besides medication?
My dear grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year, and just in the previous few months, she has gotten worse. She has been yelling, berating, and crying lately, more like a manic patient. Sometimes she yells at my grandpa, mom, and aunts over a small thing. We are all heartbroken. And she refuses to take her…
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Dementia and cancer
I need major advice. My mom has dementia and was just diagnosed with stage 1 lung cancer. Very treatable, if not curable. All she has to do is go through some radiation. She is probably in stage 5 or 6 with dementia... very very paranoid about everything and anything medical all but traumatizes her. She is also a recent…
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Father Diagnosed, What Now?
Hello everyone! My father was just yesterday diagnosed with EOAD after his father was hit with Alzheimer's, and his brother is exhibiting the same symptoms. In January my father will be tested to see if there's a genetic link, but my understanding is that it will be almost certain that I will have the same condition this…
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Senile Dementia
My wife has been diagnosed with senile dementia with behavioral issues along with schizophrenia, paranoia, and hallucinations, she was discharged from the hospital this week as the hospital says this is her new baseline and there is nothing else they can or will do. What do I do now
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Dads journey
my dad is 89 got diagnosed in 2018 with Alzheimer’s my wife and I moved in with him so he could stay in his home he hasn’t gotten to a violent or non verbal stage yet but his incontinence has become more prevalent because of the Alzheimer’s no it’s 4or 5 accidents he’s a veteran was in the Air Force for 20 years working on…
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Parent getting meaner, no joy left
I am new to this forum and new to learning about Alzheimer's. My dad has had a steady memory decline but it finally was diagnosed as Alzheimer's. Recently I've noticed things have gotten way worse. Nearly every time we visit, the tension builds and he has an angry outburst directed at my boyfriend. This time he took a…
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NHTD waiver for my Mom living with me Stage 6 Alzheimer’s
hi everyone, I’m pretty new on this forum especially posting a discussion so I’m not really sure if I’m doing this correctly. I live in upstate New York and I am my mom’s soul care provider. I moved my mother into my home eight months ago and I’m still trying to tap into NHTD waiver services in our area. Is there anyone…
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Recomendacion para un Geriatrico doctor que hable español en los angeles county?
Hola, mi mama (75) ayer fue diagnosticada con alzheimer's. Esta en las primeras etapas y el hipocampo apenas se esta agrandando. Tengo muchas preguntas pero no se ni donde empezar. Vivimos en los angeles, yo vivo con mi esposo y mi hermana mayor. Mi mama vive sola a 5min de nuestro apartamento y la visitamos diario. No…
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MIL with dementia
My first time posting. My husband and I are the primary caregivers for his parents who live in their own house next door. Mom is 83 with vascular dementia and Dad is 86 with Alzheimer’s. Mom is getting more and more agitated. They still love playing game and cards but if mom doesn’t get her way she becomes very mean to me.…
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Sexual Behavior in Husbands
Super sexed DH II feel like I am the only 75+ caregivers whose husband is constantly wanting to make love or touch, lay with, hug or kiss me. Do others deal with this and shadowing? Does anyone have help or suggestions? I'm over loved😗
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Mobility concern
Hello everyone. My mother is 75 years old and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia officially in 2020. Lately, my mom has been needing more help with walking around the house. Last week, she fell in the bathroom; she was looking in the mirror and just fell backwards. I’ve also noticed that she leans to her…
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Links to helpful videos
Hello all! I was looking through posts recently and found one that was from a woman who has a PhD in Dementia care. It was very informative and helpful for the stages of Alzheimers. But I cant remember where I saw it. If you know what I am talking about, please post the link here. Also, I would love any and all videos that…
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Removing pictures
has anyone else experienced their LO slowly wanting to remove all family pictures from their room? I don’t know if they upset her, if she doesn’t recognize the faces or what it is but we remove as she asks.
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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The anger issue
My DW’s dementia is progressing to the point where she will need to move out of our home to a MC facility. She gets increasingly angry with everything, and I can’t imagine how she will handle the move. Will the anger subside as her dementia continues progresses? Can medication help?
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When do you decide to place your spouse in a Facility
My husband is only 61. The confusion started 3 years ago. In the last 7 weeks he has decided fast - no longer uses the restroom, does not eat, have to force him. Can stay up for 2 to 3 days with our much sleep (cat naps - 15 to 30 minutes), constantly pacing, has left the house in the middle of the night with no shoes,…
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Adjustable bed suggestions (attached control)
Hi, I'm trying to find an adjustable bed for my mom, who lives with Alzheimer's. They all seem to have remote controls, and she really needs something that has only a few buttons and is hardwired (attached) to the bed. Otherwise, the remote will quickly go missing. Has anyone found a bed that's working well for them?
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dont know what to do
my DH is 60 years old and has been diagnostic for alzheimer, we have been in surch of a reason of his behavior,depression,etc ,for 3 years ….in november 2024 we had the answer. I dont know what to do, how this is going to turn out, i feel overwhelmed. Its very dificult to loose your spouse , becouse he dosn´t feel anymore😪
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How to respond when DH does this
We have been married 33 years. DH has anger attacks. There has been never any talk about leaving. We have been through even his helicopter accident. Saying this there has been some recent anger episodes where it is late at night or early morning, he comes in yelling “If you are so unhappy then leave. Just go! Do you want…
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Need Your Input Please
My name is Denise. I am posting this because I really need input for what I am experiencing. My husband is doing what I understand is vocal verbalizing. It has become increasingly loud and more frequent. We often go out with friends as he enjoys that. Unfortunately, it has become almost unbearable for my friends to deal…
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Anger
My mom, 73, is diabetic, in congestive heart failure, and dementia. She started having memory issues a few years back following diabetic keto acidosis followed by Covid. Her memory has continued to deteriorate and her regular practitioner has diagnosed dementia, she refuses to see a specialist. She has extreme mood swings…