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Unsure of facility
What do you do when you're not sure of the facility your loved one is in? It gets decent online reviews, but she is entering late stage dementia and is constantly being sent off to the hospital? For various reasons. Touched another resident, non-med compliant, tripped....every other day it's something. She has moments of…
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Mom thinks we live in an identical home across town
Mom (MIL) was diagnosed with dementia, most likely Alzheimer's, last November. My husband and I moved in with her about 2 months ago. Dad passed away last June. A number of months ago Mom would tell us about Dad working on a house across town that was identical in every way, inside and out, to her house. She marveled at it…
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How do I handle the passing of my ADLO's sister from the same disease?
My wife's sister, Jennie, lives 2 hours away and has been in a memory care unit for three years. Her husband visited her every day. She has just been put in palliative/hospice care and will pass away soon. My wife Linda has ES, still fully physically functional, can play mahjong and solitaire, but can't remember what took…
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Mom Was Served
Good evening/morning/afternoon everyone! Yesterday was kind of a shock and I'm looking for some guidance. My mother got served court papers for a dental procedure she had never paid for. Long story short about 5 years ago she was told prior to the procedure that it would be covered by insurance, however once the procedure…
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Replacing hearing aids
My mother is in skilled nursing facility with mid-stage dementia. She has hearing aids and has lost one of them. It is normal for her to have them come out during the day and need to be put back in. We had them on a cord attached to her shirt but she still managed to lose one. My quandary is- to I replace the missing aid?…
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Sister Refusing to Get Ready This Morning
This morning, my sister was having difficulty with the buttons on her pj top. She has gained some weight so the top buttons pop open. We need to buy her some different PJs without buttons. She & I are the only ones in the house so it rarely bothers her that she goes to the bathroom with some buttons undone. In the…
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Trouble helping my mother
My mom has been diagnosed with dementia for quite some time. She can't communicate with us properly, she can't do anything by herself yet we can't help her with everything since she isn't communicating back to us when we ask her. It's even the basic things like food, she can't give me or any of us an answer that we can…
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Incontinent tips?
Hi family---any methods to help with avoiding toilet accidents? We have been taking Mom at least every hour to the bathroom. she asks "where is the bathroom" as she doesn't remember where it is. We have a lighted toilet bowl that draws attention. I say have a seat, nice n clean. We "standby" for assistance. We have some…
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How to Start Part Time Help
Hello, My mother has (undiagnosed) Alzheimers and lives at home with my father. I live about 4 hours away and visit once a month, but my father has been dealing with the day today and it's beginning to be too much for one person. We think it's time to hire a part time companion/health aid. The problem is how to present…
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I Need Help - Early Dementia/Paranoia
Hello to all! I am currently the grandson of my nana who I am led to believe that she is getting the early or moderate stages of dementia. She lives alone at a senior living apartment complex. However, for the past year or so - she keeps claiming multiple things. From someone drilling into her apartment, People are after…
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Can't find previous discussion.
I'd posted about when to know to move somebody from one home to another....my LO is constantly being sent out to the hospital, and they don't want me to visit her or take her out for a while....says it agitates her when I leave. Is this reasonable? She was so sad the last time I saw her (in the hospital), how can I not…
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Struggling with my stress
Hi. I’m new to this group. My father passed away a few years ago. He had Alzheimer’s. We had full time live in care for him. Last year my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia. She is getting worse rapidly. She has a flat that is part of an independent living community. However she is now struggling to live…
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Caregiver Burden and Lack of Support with Loved One with Dementia (Behavioral)
Hi All, My grandma was diagnosed with bipolar in her 40s, and since her 70s has further been diagnosed with dementia. She is an Italian immigrant with little education, but has lived in the US since the 1960s. Her spouse passed years ago, so her support system includes my mom, and only a few of her siblings (my mom is my…
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Mom hiding diagnosis
Hello everyone. I'm new and I have a tricky situation. My grandma had Alzheimer's, so I know the signs. My Mom is 74 and has been having symptoms for 2 yrs. Repeating questions, forgetting things, not remembering places we've been, pets, etc. She gets super angry out of nowhere and she sleeps all day long. She has always…
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Refusing care
My mom lives with me, I’m 62 and she’s 84, I think she has dementia but I can’t get her to leave the house. She refuses to see a doctor stating there’s nothing wrong, says she’s dying and there’s nothing to be done. She’s been refusing solid food for many months only drinking ensure for sustenance and smoking. She really…
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Dementia + Diabetes = ??
Seeking advice, experiences caring for someone w/insulin dependent diabetes + Alzheimer's. DH, diagnosed last year, refuses help on insulin dosage & administration. Despite warnings, instructions of Endo & Neuro MDs. I've given up, resigned he'll end up in ICU. (Insulin pump is not an option, too dangerous, per Endo.)…
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Delusions
I am struggling with my mom. She has had mental health issues since her 20’s- diagnosed with schizophrenia in the 60’s. Who knows if that’s accurate, she refused to get any updated diagnosing since. Now she has AD mild stage diagnosed in 2019. She is taking Seroquel for the paranoid delusions and I thought they were…
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NEW PERSON: need help/advice/don't know what to do
My mom and I do not know what to do about my dad. He has been acting irrational and loses his temper a lot. I have heard him tell my mom he wants a divorce and that she is no longer his wife and I am no longer his daughter. He has repeatedly say to my mom that he wants a divorce then a few hours later he claims he never…
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need advice/help
My mom and I do not know what to do about my dad. He has been acting irrational and loses his temper a lot. I have heard him tell my mom he wants a divorce and that she is no longer his wife and I am no longer his daughter. He has repeatedly say to my mom that he wants a divorce then a few hours later he claims he never…
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NEW PERSON HERE: I need help/advice
My mom and I do not know what to do about my dad. He has been acting irrational and loses his temper a lot. I have heard him tell my mom he wants a divorce and that she is no longer his wife and I am no longer his daughter. He has disconnected from us and watches tv all day long. On Father's Day this year, he wanted to…
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My first time to reach out for support
Sometimes I feel like I’m a wits end. My mother just dies from Alzheimer’s after 3 years of not recognizing us & my husband has memory loss that is progressively getting worse by the day. I just needed to reach out to someone who may know what’s happening to me
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Parent always wants to go home…
Hello, I’m new here and my family needs assistance. My Mom constantly talks about going home and feels like her home of almost 50 years is not her home. We constantly reassure her that she’s safe but she’s getting really agitated to the point where she’s stating that she wants to be hospitalized or put in a home. Her…
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tamper-proofing machinery
My Dad has Alzheimer's and frequently checks the oil on his car, lawn mower, etc even when it doesn't need it. He often forgets to put the filler cap back and has ruined some equipment this way. Does anyone have suggestions on how to tamper-proof machinery so he can't damage it? We don't let him drive the car, but he likes…
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I need help
I dearly want to travel and visit my new grandbaby in California. I had given up traveling with my husband, who is probably stage six with Alzheimer’s, because it was so very disruptive to him. But he’s in a different stage now. He no longer shadows me everywhere I go, and he no longer has the intense anxiety/delusions…
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87 father is caretaker for 81 mom with severe Alzheimer's
Hi all, Have a situation where our mother is losing her ability to speak, extremely confused, has difficulty walking, is not showering or brushing her teeth and is incontinent at times. Our father is being difficult in that we had an aide for the summer who had to go back to her school job and now he is refusing another…
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Repetitive Sound
My 95-year-old father was diagnosed in 2018 with moderate-sever Alzheimer’s (at that time primarily in the medial/temporal lobes) and lives with my 96-year-old mother in an independent living facility. He is on Memantin (5mg) an Donepezil (10mg). Over the last year or my father began to rub his tongue along his cheek and…
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Guardianship Reports (NYC Based)
Good Afternoon, I hope everyone is doing well. I know we are located all over the world, but I was wondering if those near the NYC/NYS vicinity had any recommendations on who could help me prepare my annual guardianship report- due this past May, so very late. I've asked 100 people and no one can help. I think I just need…
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My mom hates her RCF and wants her cat back.
:'( about five months ago. We had to move my mom from an AFH to and RCF. She hates it. There are six other residents with varying degrees of disabilities and some with dementia. My mom has vascular dementia, and Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed at 69 years old and will be 71 this year. since moving to the RCF, I have noticed…
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Pull-up with more coverage in back?
My husband does not have dementia but I have not been able to find help on this issues anywhere else. I’m hoping someone can help me. He has started having occasional bowel leakage and “accidents”. I purchased him some Real Fit Depends for the flair ups and he loves how they look (refuses to wear regular depends because of…