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Helping Dad
So I’m just getting home from driving 45 minutes each way to diffuse an argument between my parents. Mom has dementia and dad is doing his best, but loses patience and gets upset with her when she gets confused. This leads to fighting, but then she can’t convey why they’re arguing she just knows she’s upset. I’m unable to…
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Finding a Memory Care Facility
Greetings, I'm new here, I just signed up. I'm my husband's caregiver. He was 1st diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment in 2/2019 and transitioned to Alzheimer's Dementia in 11/2021. Unassisted, I've been looking at MCFs and they refer me to sources Independent placement persons (generic parties I'm not familiar with.)…
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Fear in stage 7
My husband is the last stages of AD. In the last week he seems to have developed fear of I guess falling, but can’t be sure. If I push his wheelchair through a doorway he grabs both door jambs and won’t let go. Same if I move him from one place to another- he will grab on and not let go. It took two care personnel to get…
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My 61 year old dad has been diagnosed with early onset dementia and I'm only 19
Growing up, I was such a daddy's girl; I absolutely adored my dad and looked up to him so much. He introduced me to my love of sports and I got most of my humor and definitely my competitiveness from him. I had such an amazing relationship and I always think of him as my hero. About 5 years ago, I started to notice a…
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Mum with Alzheimer, dad fine cognitively moved in for help in Jan
Mum is declining pretty fast yet the problem is my dad who won’t accept it and is pushing her to be her old self, he thinks he can stop this. They are 90 and 89 respectfully. She is at the stage of not being able to dress herself or shower herself yet he insists they go out and live a normal life. Dad says she is just…
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Mom early/quickly progressing dementia
Hello everyone. I hope I can concisely explain what’s going on and get some practical advice. My mom does not have a diagnosis. My mom and dad are 89 and 86, respectively, and I have spent the last 3.5 years trying to get them moved to a small house already on my property 3 hours from where they have been living. The move…
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So stressed
Hi everyone, I’m brand new here. I joined today because I feel like I’m approaching a crossroads and I need guidance. My father is 85 and last year, after a neuropsych evaluation, we were told he has Alzheimer’s. He was told at that time that he needed to get his affairs in order and seek AL. He has allowed me to take over…
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Caring for my mother on at home hospice
Hello. I’m new to the group but need an outlet to hopefully connect to someone whom better understands than those I know that are trying around me. My mother has been battling Lewy Body Dementia for about 7 years. She has rapidly declined in the past months, has been in the hospital and rehab. She last was admitted for…
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AL/Memory Care or In Home Care
As I posted previously, my sister's adult day care is closing. She can go to another one of their locations and we are going to try that. If that doesn't work, we'll need to try something else and I'm torn: In Home Care or just move into a facility? My sister is only 57 years old and has enough money to pay for about two…
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My Dad
My dad of 90 has dementia and is getting worse very quickly, he’s aggressive and short temperedTwo days ago he went into hospital for edema and now his care home won’t take him back so he has to stay in hospital until we find him a place. how do you all cope with the verbal abuse and threatening to punch your face when all…
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This time is different
Hello everyone this is my first time on any type of support forum. My dad passed in November due to Amyloidosis in his heart. I hated seeing my dad deteriorate with his mind intact until he closed his eyes. And now my mom. She is physically capable, but her mind is going quickly. She knows her condition because she cared…
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How to manage putting a pet down
Over the past several months our beloved cat’s nasal tumor has grown larger and her quality of life and weight have deteriorated. DW is middle-stage dementia and can’t seem to remember our discussions of when to let the cat go. Last week we agreed that it was time and scheduled it with the vet for tomorrow. We’ve talked…
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Hallucinations? Late stage
Hello all, My mom has stage six if not stage seven, but she has been having hallucinations for quite some time, almost a few years now. She believes she has sons (I am her only child), and that there are people coming over or are already here. She used to buy food for them when we still let her do the shopping. Now they…
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Resources for nursing home patient
My mother has Altheimer's and was admitted to a Nursing Home facility just few weeks ago. I have researched in my area and couldn't find a place with bilingual staff and/or bilingual patients. I wonder if there is a local resource that provides visitation for patients like my mom who don't speak English. My mom's native…
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Daughters caregiver rights Hawaii ,Pay has been cut off .
I am the youngest daughter careing for my 83 yr old mom with middle stage dementia ( not formally diagnosed).She has been living in my cottage for 1 year now with her 15 year old dog ,the love of her life.After a Small bowel obstuction surgery and 10 days in the hospital ,my mom had quite a big decline in her memory and…
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Guardianship
I am the middle child, and the only girl. My mom has appointed me POA for both health and financial. Of course there has to one sibling that will not play by the rules, my oldest brother. He has recently purchased a vehicle in my mothers name. She didn't know what the heck was going on when I asked her about it and neither…
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Stubbornness has double down!
My 75 year old father has vascular dementia. He lives on a farm with my elderly mother and has taken care of things around the house his whole life. His stubbornness has gotten worse as his dementia has progressed. He refuses to give up the keys to his tractor or to stop using chainsaws and other dangerous tools. I've…
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Neglect
I'm not a caregiver, I'm a friend. My dear, suffering friend is neglected by her husband. He leaves her alone all day. He helps out with pills, etc., when she asks him, but she's too passive to ask for what she really needs. He's helpful, but minimally. He isn't capable of nurturing. N. needs care and attention, maybe…