We're in the final days/hours

kyronae

Guys...I'm so tired. So very, very tired. Just a heads up that this post is very much me grieving. If you're feeling fragile today, please skip it. We're all juggling enough right now.

My mom is peaceful. She is resting well and breathing deeply (if very slowly). She had a fever, but we brought it down. 

We're doing everything we can and she'll be able to rest soon, but every day....every hour...is a new kind of terrible. We changed her this morning and the number of new sores that had appeared.........It was all I could do not to break down right then.

Her DH isn't doing well. That's not a judgement--I'm not doing well either. I'm just concerned. He's on oxygen and he's sleeping a lot and just...yeah. His heart is breaking open fresh every day. 

I'm trying to monitor everything and handle logistics, but things are starting to crumble around the edges.

We are so blessed that we could be here to help ease her journey, but it hurts so, so much.  My poor mama. My beautiful mama. She won't get to see me get married. She won't be there to help with my babies. She won't get to grow old with a partner who loves her more than anything.

She deserved so much better than this.

Quilting brings calm

I’m sorry for your loss.   The physical and emotional tiredness is a very real thing.  The broken heart syndrome her DH is experiencing is also a real thing.  You will probably be numb for a while after and it’s such a bad time of year to deal with this,  holidays and winter.  We are here for you.  Rest soon yourself.

Emily 123

I'm so sorry.

ninalu

I'm so sorry. The love you give by accompanying, witnessing, and caring right now is precious. It makes sense that you are exhausted. I hope that you are able to find some rest in these times.

Hope street

I am at the same place in my journey with my mom. She hasn’t eaten or drunk anything since Saturday.  She has been bedridden since the October hospital stay and is nearing the end.  Thankfully I see no pain and not much distress. Like you I have been grieving anew daily and dread the moment she leaves this house forever.  My mom is 95 and has had a wonderful long life but it doesn’t seem to make letting her go any easier.

It seems to be like a very very long goodbye and I have never dealt well with goodbyes.  I will pray for you.  Know you are not alone. 

Jo C.

Dear Kyronae and Hope Street, I am deeply and heartfelt sorry for the grief of the losses that are so near.  Tears in my eyes in understanding and a prayer has been sent up for you both; I understand as I too was with my beloved mother as she passed from this earth.

May you both find some solace in knowing how much you meant to your mothers in your caring and that you go the distance with them, at their sides as they leave.  Kyronae; you have another parent needing your caring, that is a lot for you; I so hope he too finds comfort.   May peace and solace come to the both of you at journeys end. 

My deepest and warmest thoughts are being sent your way from one daughter to two others,

J.

elisny

My thoughts are with you.  I suspect my mother is not far behind.  Years of anticipatory grief, and I know the loss, the change, will be hard and take time to process.  

My their memories be blessings, and may we remember their souls are being set free.