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    JUST NEED SOME PRAYERS UPDATE 12/5/23

    SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,382
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    My heart is breaking. I had to drop my DH off at a Memory Care facility today. We fibbed that we were taking him to lunch. I had to leave without saying goodbye. I have been his caregiver since he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's-Posterior Cortical Atrophy 2 years ago. Recently I was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive cancer called Angiosarcoma ironically due to radiation I had for breast cancer in 2017. I start chemo tomorrow, then radiation, then radical mastectomy. I could no longer care for him and undergo aggressive treatment. Alzheimer's sucks!! Breast cancer sucks!! I don't know how I can find the strength to do this. We will be married 38 years Dec 28. I feel like I let him down. I know that's not rational. Please pray for me, my doctors and my DH. Thank you all. I may offline for awhile.

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    • JeriLynn66
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      We’ll be here praying for you and your DH❤️

    • easy23
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      Prayers for all of you! You can do this!

    • ImMaggieMae
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      Lots of prayers and positive thoughts headed your way. You’ll get through this. One day at a time.

    • Mint
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      🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • mrahope
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      Sending up prayers for both of you.

    • Beachfan
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      Praying for you and your DH. Try to relax and gear up for what's ahead for you. DH will be just fine, I promise. 🙏 One day at a time.

    • June45
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      My heart breaks for all you are going through. Prayers going up...

    • ghphotog
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      I can't even imagine, I'm so very sorry.

    • Howaboutnow
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      Dear Diane,

      I can only imagine how difficult it was to take him to MC. I believe it is, without doubt, best for you both. Please focus on you, as best you can. Healing and recovery needs all your energy.

      Prayers for you 🙏

    • Denise1847
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      Diane, I am so sorry for all of the pain and suffering from your own health and your DH's disease. Please recognize that you have to take care of yourself and are not letting him down. You have done all you can and you must look forward and be strong. You certainly did the right thing. May God walk with you as you go through your journey of surgery, treatment and recovery.

    • Chammer
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      I am praying for you and your DH and your daughter. Prayers for healing and peace.

    • Joydean
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      Prayers for you and your dh and family! May God hold your hands during this time!

    • Kat63
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      Saying prayers for you and your DH. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • NUMber2
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      You are both in my thoughts. May you find peace so that you can heal! ❤️

    • housefinch
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      edited December 2023

      Sending you huge hugs, comfort, and strength. You haven’t let him down—you are making sure he is safe and cared for. And when he was healthy, I’m sure he would have wanted you to prioritize your care and health while making sure he was okay. You have done a wonderful job. I hope you can feel some peace at some point. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

    • Dio
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      The MCF will take good care of your DH. Please no worries there. Just focus on getting yourself well... hugs.

    • Jgirl57
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      Hugs, hugs, and more hugs…

    • LJCHR
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      My heart is breaking for you and your DH. Prayers for your fast recovery. Agree that MCF will take care of your DH and you just need to focus on getting well. Hugs

    • M5M
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      Diane it is so good to hear from you this week. You have accomplished so much since your earlier post w the angiosarcoma report. I have wondered about you often. Prayers you are calm as your treatments begin. Please check in often.

    • White Crane
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      Praying for you 🙏🏻💕

    • Quilting brings calm
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      Although my situation is much more temporary, I understand the conflict. Walking out of my mom’s hospital room Monday to get prepared for my Tuesday knee replacement made me feel guilty and conflicted. I thought about cancelling my surgery/ but I’d already delayed it by two years. Mom ended up with hospital induced dementia, went home to the AL Wednesday. Hopefully all will be well there, she has a lot of people looking after her.

      You and I have to trust those people and concentrate on ourselves - because the people looking after us are volunteers. We have to follow the doctor’s mandates so that our outcomes can be as best as possible - so that I can walk without a limp and you can be there later to advocate for your spouse

    • tigersmom
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      Diane, I am so sorry for everything you are going through. Hang in there. He will get good care, and you are strong. You can do this! Sending prayers your way.

    • Kibbee
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      Diane - you’ve always been one of the great resource people on this forum. Your knowledge has been a help to me many times, and I wish I had half your energy and efficiency. I am hoping things go well for you in your health journey.

    • Iris L.
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      I am praying for your successful treatment and for DH.

      Iris

    • harshedbuzz
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      @SDianeL

      Sending warm thoughts your way.

      HB

    • M1
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      Same here. Scary, scary stuff, i hope you get reassuring reports from the MC, i know how that will help. Keep us posted when you can....

    • Dogsaremylife
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      JUST NEED SOME PRAYERS UPDATE 12/5/23

      SDianeL

      I think at this point all of us here share one heart. The mystery of Life, at least for me, is sometimes too much to bear, but then the next day comes and we start again. Many prayers to you to ease your grief, to hold you in this common heart we share. Blessings.

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