Feeling Conflicted and Guilty about moving on…

toolbeltexpert · January 2024

Shark Guy your dating your wife was something I did as well.

Dw would ask me if I had a girlfriend and I would ask her if she would be my girlfriend. What a smile it always brought to her face. Precious.

I saw my wife everyday and I had only taken a couple of weeks to visit family after she was in mc. Otherwise she was my life.

Your dw is beautiful lady and you are a wonderful caregiver. Your plan is yours to live!

Stewart

Mimi50 · January 2024

My DH was diagnosed year ago. With VD and is in the early stages. We have one young adult son who will be 26 tomorrow. Also 2 year old granddaughter. With my husband and I can’t see someone while he is still alive. But I am going to give you some wise words. My mom has always said Angela. You have to do. What you know in your heart. Is right for you. As long as you do that. Your heart will never steer you wrong. So that is what I think you should do.

Mimi50 · January 2024

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/192553#Comment_192553

Exactly right.

shark_guy · April 3

1.5 Year FollowUp:

Thanks again for everyone who took the time to discuss my “Moving On” conundrum. I did eventually connect with a lady whom I met via a dating app (a real minefield by the way!) and we have become close. I cannot now imagine my life without her and her kindness, empathy and love have helped me through this difficult process. My wife is now in what I believe to be the End Stages of Alzheimer’s and I don’t expect her to survive to her next birthday in February 2026. Having someone to spend “normal” times with has saved me from a life of loneliness, sadness and grief although that too is still part of my life. I have also engaged a Grief Counselor and that too has had a huge impact on my mental health.

All the best to each of you, may you find a peaceful path through this horrific disease…