Saddened by signs of progression and feelings of inadequacy

You will learn all of these things, as needed, as you go along. You’ll hire someone to do the things you cannot do.

"But I am not sure I could handle the look on my husband's face as it is driven away by the new owner."

I sold my husband’s truck a couple years ago because it hadn’t been driven in years. It was about 12 years old and in pristine condition because he always took great care of his vehicles. There was never a scratch or smudge on them. He loved cars and trucks. He was able to sign the title and I explained that we were selling it, but he didn’t understand at all and showed no remorse. I was the one who went in the other room and cried after they left because I knew how much he loved that truck before all of this. I cried because I want to protect him and make him better and all I can do is try to make his day to day life as good as I can.

You are doing a marvellous job, hang in there remember how great you are and don't give up. Other people, friends, relatives etc don't have to find the compassion, tolerance, love and face the challenges that this group does. We are all doing what we can to keep things in order. It's so very distressing and tiring learning all this stuff, cars and car maintenance, swimming pools and the cleaning process, hot water systems, garden maintenance, fencing, buying a new car and trading one in, yikes it goes on and on, dealing with contractors, changing lightbulbs. I bought a new TV online which took a bit of courage, only to have it delivered with a broken screen, not seen until the delivery chaps left, then had to deal with the delivery company and prove I didn't cause it, the outcome was good but oh so very exhausting. Hearing of everyone coping with the same rotten stuff for the same rotten reason helps enormously and I take strength from the way everyone copes. Chin up!

Ah, the flat tire. I’ve had two recently. We do have a compressor. I figured out how to put the attachment on and fill my flat tire and drive it to the shop. I purchased a small hand held jumper for my car battery that I always have with me, size of a cell phone. I recently had to call a tow truck to take our truck to the shop. Couldn’t keep it running, I bought a contraption that reads the computer to tell me what’s wrong with the vehicle. I’ve learned to change windshield wipers and fix a garage door opener, start a generator when our power is out. It happens where I live. I can hook a battery charger to a vehicle and charge it on my own. I didn’t used to do any of this. YouTube videos are my friend. Even bought myself a small chainsaw because my husbands is too big for me. We have had pretty bad storms and I have had to go cut more than a few 20 foot redwood tree branches. One step at a time. It can be overwhelming doing everything, but it can also be empowering.