Falling Apart Caring for my Mom

Yes… I was just simply drinking wine.. not too long ago my Dr asked if I had increased drinking… That's an obvious tip…I was an am goin down the rabbit hole. The thing is.. My step father always said to 'commit" him if this happened. his Mother, Father and Brother succumbed to this. He knew it was coming. Somehow We thought this was enough. "When" it "happened" we would be ready and planned… as you know, it doesn't work that way.) We Pray for you and everyone else dealing with this but I am going to say something that will likely be controversial. It may appear I do not care. But We do. Take care of your parents and loved ones.. but remember.. If you wish to do so.. I'm certain that statement that we have all heard, is an indication that they loved you and would NEVER wish you to suffer for them. Even if they can't "speak" it now.

I would never wish my wife to go through this. Not simply losing me.. but having to "endure" watching me go away. I fear that much more that the alternative. And no "advise" can help you. Only you can decide if you wish to make that person happy by continuing on. And.. You likely will. You can't help it.

Just simply…do not lose YOURSELF

Because, in the end… believe me.. that's all they were worried about

THIS is what is does to the "caretakers". We get exhausted, and desperate for help. So SOME of us get so desperate that we post when we are our lowest points. as I have