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I'm sorry for the download. I thought I was typing in another place... sorry. If I don't belong here

ShaunC
ShaunC Member Posts: 8
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Shaun 16:46:51
first time here
But I need help
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Shaun 16:48:27
My step-father has dementia, Alzheimer's.
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Shaun 16:49:58
we have him in a memory care unit nearby but its REALLY complicated.
Not him being there. It's the urge to get him out
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Shaun 16:52:29
ok going to stop with trying to make this "proper' writing... ie.. not going to try to type like I know what i'm doing.. I am 61.. I never learned to type.. but... I"m in IT.. Thank God I do not have to type
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Shaun 16:53:33
I dont understand is anyone here
ok.. I'm an idiot.. I just saw the screen section
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Shaun 16:55:45
But my Lord i need help
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Shaun 16:57:43
between he and my mother...our world is falling apart. and I KNOW it could be worse... but if anyone in the world would listen.. to eberythin... iy could be n=better
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Shaun 16:58:49
even with none here. at least its been good to say it
So I own it
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Shaun 17:05:50
I wasn't a t kid.. In fact, I was awful. Never in "trouble" really, but my grandmother was always worried. She got custody on me nd in a few years I went to military School. YEARS she tried so hard on a bank-teller's salary in the 60's -70's . She did her best and Thank God. But now I feel like I cannot navigate. She is gone. My Birth-mother has always been in my life as well as my father.
I'm rambling.. I suppose thats why therapists get paid
But It's good to :say" it
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Shaun 17:09:31
My wife and I are completely unprepared or mentally able to handle this... WE CAN but (without going into details) however we are also facing back-to-back disasters ourselves. We are DROWNING
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Shaun 17:11:13
ok gloves off. no worry about "grammar"
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Shaun 17:13:15
i have to look at the keyboard typing,,,, and the go back and look to see if I misoelled anything,,, i dont care now. Being "proper" isnt the point. i simply do not know how to navigate this
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Shaun 17:16:34
or keep my marriage intact while i do... my wife and i are a team. its more "us" than "me" she is MY strength. but it's wearing us down. My mother didnt raise me. My grandparents did. (long story.. lets say s** dr** and R&R)
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Shaun 17:18:08
so i ended up with my grandparents. Thank the Lord. But now we have "mended fences" (My mother and I) for years. I don't know how to deal with this. I was never ready
Never knew I'd have to be. Never considered
Now I'm drinking much more. (self-medicating I guess as it's called... hiding is what it is
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Shaun 17:20:57
so i find myself at 61, in this little room... speaking to "everybody"
Well at least nobody is here
So it helps anyway

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  • ShaunC
    ShaunC Member Posts: 8
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    I feel like a weak idiot
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    ShaunC Member Posts: 8
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  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,748
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    You belong here. Just remember that this is a forum, not a chat room. So you type in your entire post and hit enter, post discussion, whatever the button says. We will respond when we check our app. We don’t expect you to be a perfect typist, to spell perfectly, to use perfect grammar. We are here to support each other. To vent, to ask to advice, to give advice.

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,392
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    Hi Shaun - welcome - QBC is correct. This is a great forum for those dealing with a LO with dementia. When someone logs in, they will see your post, and hope we can help and support you.

    I'm sorry you are dealing with this awful disease with a LO. It seems you have a lot going on... If there is something that is really overwhelming, you can call the alz support line, too. 1-800-272-3900 and ask for caregiver support.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,004
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    @ShaunC

    Hi and welcome. I am sorry for your reason to be here but pleased you found this place.

    When one person in a family has dementia, everyone in that family "has" dementia. Dementia sucks, but it's a special kind of suckitude when your who needs you was not the parent you needed them to be for you. It can be especially tricky when the boundaries you've created to protect your own mental health are being challenged by the situation.

    Therapy helps.
    HB

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
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