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Does anyone forget how far there LO is

ronda b
ronda b Member Posts: 204
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Sometimes I forget what stage he is in. I think I do alot of scaffolding without realizing it. Today I went back and looked at his test results. Not good. He has both VD and Ad. It was just a reality check.

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  • Russinator
    Russinator Member Posts: 214
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    ((HUGS))

  • wose
    wose Member Posts: 193
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    Yes, and that’s one of MY problems. After all this time, I still get tripped up. I honestly revert back to normalcy and the Boom…not normal. It creates so much undue heartache. I cannot seem to accept no matter how hard I try💕💙

  • Marchbanks
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    Guilty of this for sure. Don’t think I’ll ever fully accept it even though I know it’s true. Even now I still Google diseases that could mimic dementia just in case.

  • Timmyd
    Timmyd Member Posts: 95
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    edited April 11

    While sleeping, I have always dreamed vividly and remember many of them. In my dreams there is no dementia, no care giving, no constant shadowing. My dreams are a form of respite. When I wake up from a vivid dream it takes a moment to reorient and fill my mind with my awake reality.

    A couple times in the past year dementia has crept into my dreams.

    I am curious if there are others who for whom dementia has become part of their dreams at night.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,523
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    yes. It’s a defense mechanism. I was in denial. People on this forum kept telling me to do things and I put them off. Sometimes it’s too much for our brains to accept. Then something happens to slap us into reality. 💜

  • blacksparky
    blacksparky Member Posts: 82
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    I think because I am with my LO every single day I don’t realize how much my LO is progressing through this disease. It takes a family member or friend to tell me how much she has changed from their last visit.

  • BPS
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    My wife is in MC and sometimes I still try to have a meaningful conversation with her. It never works and only causes me to get a little depressed. I know she can't do it, but I sometimes hope that maybe today even if it is just for one day. It is odd how I can know and except what is, most of the time then fall back into hoping for what can never be once in a while. She was diagnosed 9 years ago. I am slow to learn.

  • t210
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    Ronda b,

    My heart breaks for you and is in agreement with you at the same time. My logic and emotions seem to be in battles on a regular basis. My DH is in MS after dealing with signs of dementia for 3.5 yrs. PS…..This forum is WONDERFUL! TODAY Is my FIRST DAY with you dear ones! What a genius platform for caregivers to “gather” when we are so busy caring for our LO and ALL duties of running a household and both of our health/medical/MENTAL/EMOTIONAL needs. Thank you!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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