Anyone have a solution to avoid loosing wallet or money?

debzara · April 13

This is the third time this week hubby has misplaced money but this time he lost his wallet. He is still capable of going to store himself and I don't want to take that away from him yet. Any ideas on how to avoid this?

Gator1976 · April 13

I would say, I’m sorry but he’s not “fully” capable if he keeps loosing wallets and money. Next comes the keys to the car.

RetaMeta55 · April 13

I had put an AirTag in my husband’s wallet but, he ended up taking it out. I don’t remember how many debit he lost. My DH ended to going to Walmart 2-3 times a day and at one point racked up $500 in one month. I ended up taking away his debit card and not long after that I had the doctor take away his driving privileges. They are not safe driving. If he keeps loosing his wallet, he may get lost while driving. Others are not safe with his driving. He might confuse the brake pedal with the gas pedal. I’m sorry to say this he needs his license revoked.

sandwichone123 · April 13

This stage was pretty brief for us, but I gave my dh cash and removed everything of value, especially credit cards, from his wallet.

midge333 · April 13

I removed my DW's credit card and debit card from her wallet. I kept about $100 in her purse until she went to memory care. If your DH is still driving, you may want to have him evaluated.

Carl46 · April 13

Driving is the most complex thing most people do. If he is losing things at this rate, I don't think he is competent to drive safely.

My wife carries a purse, but it contains no ID, credit cards, or money. She misplaces the purse frequently. Her non-driver's permit, insurance cards, etc. are in my wallet.

Timmyd · April 14

I was very fortunate. As the ALZ progressed and took hold, my DW was loathed to admit there was a problem, but she would always behave as if she knew there was a problem. When it came time to give up driving she was completely agreeable. As I took over possession of her id, insurance cards etc, she never complained. In public she will never stray from my side. I am grateful to have had it so much easier than most.

terei · April 14

I actually gave my mom fake money and copies of everything else. If they are losing these things I don’t believe they should have them. JMO. I spent way too much time trying to locate the stuff she would hide in the most bizarre places.

upstateAnn · April 14

I have stripped my husband’s wallet of everything but money and his license for ID. He no longer drives. All his other material like Sc card, medical cards etc. are I. My desk hidden in an encpvelope.

Marchbanks · April 14

I use an AirTag. It’s saved the day several times. I also keep a list of everything thing in his wallet so I won’t have to try to remember if it does get lost.

Anna2022 · April 14

I've removed DH's credit cards and debit card from his wallet and replaced them with old cards that are cancelled. He has about $100 in cash that he likes to have in his wallet as usual, and he checks to see if he has cash there when we got out. This seems to work - he hasn't tried to use those cards in about a year.

harshedbuzz · April 14

@debzara

Hi and welcome. I am sorry for your reason to be here, but pleased you found this place.

You aren't the one robbing your husband of his independence— the disease it.

I can appreciate that it is easier to let him do as he pleases in terms of going to the store whether on foot or by car, but it sounds like that may no longer be as safe as it was before.

He might be squirreling his wallet and other things he's deems valuable— it's a common dementia behavior. Once dad started doing this, we removed anything important and put it in mom's wallet or safely away. I made copies of the cards and laminated his license and gave him a wad one $1 bills. He wasn't driving by this point as his neurologist deemed him too impaired.

HB

Old Iowan · April 15

It might not be fashionable but you might consider what are called "Bikers" or "Truckers" wallet - They are large and come with a chain that clips on to a belt loop - Here in the rolling hills of southern Iowa they are common place.

SDianeL · April 15

if your DH is losing his wallet he should not be driving and going to a store by himself. If he has an accident after being diagnosed with cognitive issues, you could be sued and lose everything. Time to take away all debit and credit cards and lock down all accounts. Many here shared stories about their loved one falling victim to scams, trading stocks and losing their life savings. His reasoner is broken. I left IDs in my DH wallet but removed debit and credit cards, social security and insurance cards. I left a few dollars in cash. If he asks where the cards are, fib and tell them new cards are on the way. Time to get control of the incoming mail also. We know how difficult it is but time to take control.

nopost · April 15

"He is still capable of going to store himself and I don't want to take that away from him yet." You aren't, the disease did, you will be acting for safety of all to stop his driving and uncontrolled access to money.

Be proactive.

PattiRN2 · April 16

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/72787/anyone-have-a-solution-to-avoid-loosing-wallet-or-money

My DH forgets to bring his wallet, phone and glasses with him when we go out. Plus he can never find them. It’s been a problem. We ended up getting a beautiful leather backpack (small man purse) he throws over his shoulder and I put an AirTag in it. It solved a lot of issues and I can easily track him when he goes outside.

Anyone have a solution to avoid loosing wallet or money?

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