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wose
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Today my DH said he had a dream last night about Montreal. He said “ don’t you remember when we were there” … it was him and his ex wife. Does it mean he’s mixing us up now?

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  • Chris20cm
    Chris20cm Member Posts: 21
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    DW remembers things that never happened, and doesn't remember things that did. Happens all the time, on everything from our 61 year history together, to existing and non-existing grandchildren.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,482
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    it could be. But it could come and go. My DH thought my daughter was me. I would always introduce myself to him when I visited him in memory care. I would go in first and my daughter would go second. She would also introduce herself.

  • Arrowhead
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    Their memory is like a jigsaw puzzle with missing pieces, with more being lost as time goes by. The newer the memory, the quicker it gets lost.

  • jehjeh
    jehjeh Member Posts: 85
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    DH often asks if I remember things from his childhood. Seems like he's remembering events his mother or sister would recall. Sometimes, I don't think he thinks I'm either of them, just remembers a female was present and it must have been me. Other times, he does call me by sister's name. I won't take offense or be hurt if he uses ex wife's name one day. I know there's no rhyme or reason, it's just like wires getting crossed.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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