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Father driving me CRAZY

Mav2126
Mav2126 Member Posts: 9
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My father has early dementia with no short term memory. He is constantly asking me over and over to help him with the computer. He is driving me batshit crazy. It is so annoying and I can't take it anymore. He doesn't know what he is doing on the computer and every time I suggest a way to make it better he just keeps going back to his old ways which don't work! Arrrrggghhhh. Help!

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  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,523
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    so sorry you are going through this. His memory and reasoning ability is gone. No amount of telling him will stick. Maybe it’s time to “disappear” the computer” and create a fib. Tell him it’s broken and in the shop. You will have to repeat that over and over and over tho. He won’t remember that either. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husband’s diagnosis. Search for Tam Cummings videos online. Learn all you can about the disease so you can help him. Being a caregiver is tough. Come here often for info and support.

  • Mav2126
    Mav2126 Member Posts: 9
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    Thank you so much for your response. Every bit of support helps. Perhaps i should try and redirect him to get him off the computer and doing something else that doesnt drive me crazy.

  • SiberianIris
    SiberianIris Member Posts: 35
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    edited May 16

    Computers and smart phones become dangerous for people with dementia, especially if they have online access to their financial accounts. Poor decisions and/or scammers could wipe them out.

    If it were me, I would trade out the regular computer and smart phone (saying they broke) and substitute with the Grandpad. It's designed to be easy to use for seniors with dementia. You can control who they can connect with, what they can do on the internet, etc.

    I don't have personal experience with it or any financial interest in it, because my mom was already too old to ever be interested in computers or smart phones when they came out. If she had even the slightest experience with with them before dementia, I think she would've enjoyed the Grandpad.

    http://grandpad.net

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
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