Adult daycare

JC5 · May 16

I need to get DH out among people and looking into adult daycare . Very few in my area but some 20-30 min away . Thinking of taking him with me is this a good idea or should I check them out in my own first?

Timmyd · May 16

I had thought I would visit alone the first time but the facility recommended I bring DW with me. I guess that makes sense. They will need to see her and she will need to see the place in order to determine if there is a fit. There is not much point in delaying that with extra visits.

jfkoc · May 16

We went to visit a Senior Center together under the guise of my wanting to find something interesting for me to do. It did not go well but if it had my plan was to go together until my husband liked being there.

Chris20cm · May 16

I have been playing gospel and classic country music for local assisted living facilities for a couple years now. DW is my "roadie" and helps with the equipment and setup, and she is getting familiar and hopefully more comfortable with such facilities as time goes on. I think anything that can be done to keep surprises out of it will reap some benefits in the future to make the transition into daycare or memory care easier.

Bunny whisperer · May 18

My DH is in a daycare that is an hour away from us...not any near us. We also had to take him each time they asked us to visit...first visit was a tour, second visit was to find out what he liked doing and sign him up and third visit was meeting the onsight nurse. I love the time he is there and so does he. It was hard at first for him because he didnt understand he wasnt living there, but now I cant wait for Wednesdays because it gives us both what we need.

SDianeL · May 19

so glad it’s working out for both of you. Too bad it’s not closer. Thanks for the update.

HollyBerry · May 19

We are incredibly lucky. The adult day program is about 10 minutes from home and on my way to work (sorry, not meaning to gloat). She has been going 3 days/week since February and it has reduced my stress level in ways I couldn't imagine. I almost dread the weekends now when we're home together for 2 days in a row; she's angry and argues with everything and complains constantly. At her adult day program, they love her and she puts on a good show most of the time, I'm told.

I visited this program last summer, and checked it out with her providers who gave it a thumbs up. When we had appointments around the first of the year, I seeded the conversation a little and they framed it for her really well - I'll never forget the one who said, "people need PEOPLE! You need to be around other people, not just your partner. It's going to be hard at first, but I want you to try this 3 days/week for at least a month. I think you'll really like it if you give it a chance." I could have hugged her on the spot for that speech.

The program did an "interview" with her before she started, which was supposed to feel like a job interview or an interview for a volunteer position. It worked - she still doesn't think of it as a day care situation, but a senior social program. The first day I was prepared to stay for a little while but they sort of shooed me out the door and, much like kids day care, she is far better off without me!

I hope you have a good experience with yours.

iowagirl1961 · May 20

I started my DH and I as volunteers together at our Adult Day program. They enrolled him as a client but treated him as a volunteer, there to just visit and participate. It took only 5 or 6 times of doing that for a couple of hours before he was comfortable enough to stay while I left. I’ve only left him 3 times now, but am feeling good about using the service to give myself a little time off!

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