When you just have to say NO

mandajean · May 26

My mom is stage 5/6 she has hallucinations (even medicated) her big one is a dog. She is constantly looking for this Shepard (she has never had a Shepard) we do have a beagle and she enjoys him but is obsessed with this shepherd. I’ve played along for a long time, distracting her changing the subject but she has become more and more assertive about this dog trying to get outside to get to this dog. Today she was very aggressive about what did I do with the dog. I finally said Mom there is no dog…..Milo this is the only dog we have. She blew up….you killed my dog, but she stopped trying to get out of the house to search for the dog. This has been going on for months and months and nothing really works for more than a few minutes. But she’s mad at me know because I got rid of the dog….ill take that over her trying to get out. I know you are suppose to redirect etc, but there are times it just doesn’t work

terei · May 28

You could try telling her you are sorry, but the dog ran away + you can’t find it, but will continue trying to locate it…whatever wors

LibraryAnn · May 28

This sounds very much like my dad — except in his case someone is stealing his shirts or, worse, his beer! There's really no way to talk through it, no matter how well you might redirect, it's always on his mind.

We're currently working with his doctor to change his medications and trying to get in touch with a social worker on strategies for the day-to-day conversations. I hope that you are able to find some help from your doctors. It's so tough and it starts to drive you crazy answering the same questions over and over.

mandajean · May 28

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/244246#Comment_244246

we did try that at first. But she is so insistent that she has to go find this dog that we stopped

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