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DH has a hernia should he have an operation

BJACKSON
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My DH has been seen by urologist. He does not have any pain in the hernia but it is large. . The doctor has said that it is not urgent for my DH to have the operation. My husband has stage 3 dementia. He was in agreement that day but has forgotten about the examination and now said he doesn't want the operation. What should I do? Make the decision for him.

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  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,814
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    If the doctor says it wasn’t urgent, and your DH says he doesn’t want to, then just don’t schedule it. You can always revisit that decision later.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,611
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    I would make the decision for him if you have a medical POA. I would not approve any procedures that are not 100% necessary. Anesthesia is very hard on someone with dementia.

  • ARIL
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    My LO is in the same situation. The doctors and I concluded a couple of years ago that we would do nothing, since there was no pain and it was not essential; we wanted to avoid anesthesia as well. The choice was right for us.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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