Executive functions

We got into an elevator the other day in a 2 story building. I’m standing there and she is looking at the buttons. She say “where is 3?” I say why do you want to go to 3? She says”we need to go to the button and leave”. I say “there is no 3”. She says “ I know, where is it?” I said “push the 1, it’s the bottom floor. She says “OH”

Absolutely a struggle and I fail at least once most days, but that means I’ve succeeded a lot. I try to give myself a break when fail, because I’m just a poor ole human doing her best.

My husband will often want to know what’s going on, even though he will forget shortly. Most often I fib. I don’t want to say anything that can cause stress or have him hyper focus. I’m careful making appts in front of him. An example is our insurance notified me that our homeowners insurance is increasing (a lot) and I need to make an appt to discuss. I cannot tell my husband about any of this. So I will make an appt at a time when I am running errands. It’s a balancing act and often stressful for me. I shoulder all worried alone and that’s not an easy task.

@trottingslong

It’s a lot for me to take care of two adults. The morning routine of getting my DH bathed, potty, dressed and fed is sometimes all I have the energy for. He can no longer shoulder any of the burdens of the house, car, family, himself - it pretty much all falls on me. Then there’s all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, yard work, you name it. No wonder I’m exhausted all the time. He can’t stand/walk, so I transfer him with a hoyer lift. That gets exhausting by the end of the day too. Weekends are the worst, especially the three day ones as his CNA only helps during the week. I’m blessed to have CNA help through the county, couldn’t manage without it.