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My husband is dead

Buggytoo
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This morning my husband died from Alzheimer's disease. I am incredibly grateful his wretched journey with this disease is over. I did my best as a caregiver though I fell short as you would expect a human to do. I will greatly miss who my husband used to be, but I will never miss what he became as the disease took hold of him. I will pray for a cure for this untenable disease. I will work for a shift in government policies that will make it possible for more patients with Alzheimer's to get spectacular care that doesn't destroy their family's financial solvency. I am grateful for the support from this forum - your knowledge and kindness has been a port in this Storm.

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  • Pat6177
    Pat6177 Member Posts: 474
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    My sincere condolences on your loss. Be gentle with yourself as you go thru this transition.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,661
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    so sorry for your loss. Praying for your comfort and strength. May he rest in peace. 🙏💜

  • Vitruvius
    Vitruvius Member Posts: 371
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    I am very sorry for your loss. I have followed your story for awhile now. I’m sure you did as much as anyone could possibly do, and then some. Peace and strength in the days ahead.

  • charley0419
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    RIP

  • Marla13
    Marla13 Member Posts: 27
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    So sorry for your loss. May you find peace. Sending hugs.

  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 1,119
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Peace be with you in the days ahead.

  • bjt84
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    May God bless you on the rest of your journey.

  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 3,087
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    I am sorry for your loss of DH. Wishing you comfort and peace during this difficult time.

  • Gator1976
    Gator1976 Member Posts: 38
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    My sincere condolences on your loss. I am just starting this horror of a journey. While I am not familiar with yours, the fact that your here says you cared as much as a human could. Go easy on yourself and feel relieved your husband is in a better place.

  • mrahope
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    Wishing you peace and healing. My condolences.

  • BethL
    BethL Member Posts: 1,030
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    My deepest sympathy. You were a kind and loving caregiver.

  • marier
    marier Member Posts: 94
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    My sincerest condolences on the death of your husband. Thank you for all your shared with others on this journey of caregiving.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,826
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    You did a masterful job caring for him. Your love showed through even after he wasn’t ’him’ anymore. Please rest and recover. It’s ok to keep busy… it’s ok to sit and rest all day too if that is what the day calls for.

  • cdgbdr
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    I am sorry for your loss

  • White Crane
    White Crane Member Posts: 1,011
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. Sending love and hugs as well as prayers for your peace and comfort in the coming days.

    Brenda

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 634
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    You lost the man you loved quite a long time ago and you were not able to grieve that loss then. You went through more than most could endure. I’m glad that part of your life’s journey is over and I sincerely wish for you to find joy, freedom and lots of laughter in the future. You certainly deserve it.

  • Caro_Lynne
    Caro_Lynne Member Posts: 398
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    May your DH rest in eternal peace xo

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 515
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • easy23
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    I'm sorry for your loss. I wish you peace in the days to come.

  • David1941
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    Wishing you peace, memories that inspire of days you were both well, and love in your life.

  • Maru
    Maru Member Posts: 124
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    I am so sorry for your loss, for all the losses along the way. I hope that you will find peace in the knowledge that you gave all that you could give. Remember who he was before.

  • CindyBum
    CindyBum Member Posts: 433
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    My his memory be a blessing! I wish you strength and peace.

  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 298
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    Sorry for your loss but find comfort in the peace he feels now. Hugs to you!

  • suvi
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    I’m very sorry for your loss and all you’ve been through.

  • jfkoc
    jfkoc Member Posts: 4,383
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    Thank you for taking the time to let us know.

    It is a hard time…my heart is with you as I send my love to you.

    Please know we are here for you…

  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,191
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    ((((Dear Buggytoo)))))

    May your DH rest in peace. Please have no regrets, at times we all do, I know I did as well. You gave your DH a lot of loving care. Now its time for you to get some rest and take care of yourself. Your in my prayers 🙏 Hugs Zetta

  • Lorita
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    BuggyBoo, as caregivers we do all we can but always feel we could have done more. Don't second guess yourself. Your husband is again the man you loved and married and is free of this terrible disease. It will take time for you to recover from care giving but you will. You did your best as all caregivers do. Take care of yourself and rest.

  • RetiredTeacher
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    I am sorry for the loss and pain you are going through mourning the man you married and loved through the years. I totally understand about missing the man he used to be and not the one that dementia took from you. I wish you peace and kindness through the next steps of your journey and in time, I hope the beautiful memories of earlier times dwell in your heart and the dementia/caregiving memories fade to the background. You have a life to live the fullest now. 🙏 and 🫂

  • CampCarol
    CampCarol Member Posts: 209
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    My sincere condolences on the loss of your DH. You have been there for him every step of the way, and based on your posts, did your absolute best to ensure he was loved, safe and warm. Sending thoughts and prayers your way as you transition to Stage 8. Be kind to yourself!

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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