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Good morning porch friends. Haven't posted in a bit but always try to keep up with porch happenings. Hope to post more later. Wasn't sure you guys saw David's post in the Living with………. board. Here's what he posted:

David1946 Member Posts: 993

 MemberJuly 1

Thank you but my incontinence is permanent. I was in the hospital in Feb and march and June it was the flu in Feb and March and viral pneumonia in June like I said I'm still not back. When I go out I wear diapers but at least I can still go out. My problem is I cannot go visit my wife my wheel chair will not go through the door but my wife visits me when she can.

I posted a reply that we miss him on the porch. I think of him often, as well as all of you here. Judith I pray you are doing better.

xo Caro

Good morning everyone.

Yes, David is back from his hospitalizations. He had a nice visit to a military museum. I hope he can get back on this thread.

Zetta, my friend loses her balance and falls. In fact she is now at a rehab facility for PT to help her balance. I have read that Tai Chi is good for balance. Have you ever tried that? Do you use a cane or walker to ambulate?

Iris

JeriLynn66 I love the photos. There’s something very cheerful about the flowers. Makes me regret not spending more time in the garden these days. My plants are looking pretty pitiful this year.

You also brought back wonderful memories of my mom’s blackberry cobbler. My brother and I would pick as many as we could carry and couldn’t wait for dinner to be over because the warm cobbler was waiting. We lived in a rural setting so blackberries were plentiful. I now live in the city where berries are mostly available in the store or the local farmers markets. There are some bushes alongside a nearby road but I worry about chemicals the city may be spraying so I don’t want to risk it. But I do think a cobbler is in my future.

I can almost smell it baking now :)

Lorita - I'm relieved you got that text from Judith. Hopefully she'll be able to post soon.

Is Walking With Dinosaurs on netflix? How do you watch it? I think Spinosaurus is the new hotness. It's a very cool dinosaur, probably made cooler thanks to the Jurassic Park movies (which I just can't bear to watch due to so much inaccurate info).

JeriLynn - I love your dawn photos - the one from today was gorgeous. It's a time I never see - unless I'm seeing it from the back end.

Oddly, or maybe not so oddly, my favorite dawn and sunset experiences happen when I'm driving over the mountain pass by Mt. Shasta. The way the light plays off of the snow on Mt. Shasta …… it's just magical.

HB - I'll be cremated as well. I want my sarcophagus!

About our moms — you're probably right, a big part of that behavior is Silent Generation stuff.

That train trip with your mom sounds like a day from hell. I'm glad it all worked out though in the end. And yeah, your train mate's family probably had an even worse day. As someone who used to regularly take BART and MUNI in the SF Bay Area - trains are great - until something happens. Then it's a nightmare.

Carl and Lorita - If I can get away with not driving in cities, I do it. I will always take the train over driving - and I love driving. But man, many people are horrible drivers, don't pay attention to signs, do random things … I'd rather just avoid it.

Hi Beth! Limeade - one of my favorite things to drink in the summer. Is a walking taco the same thing as a street taco?

Caro_Lynne - Thank you for sharing David's post, even if it is beyond heartbreaking.

Zetta - If you took the underground to the San Francisco airport, you were on BART. I used to make that trip all the time. Sometimes the stars would align and I'd have a perfect trip. Usually there was no alignment. 🙂

You are so right about us always being comfortable with the old guy. I know I am!

I'm so glad you're loving yoga.

I'm sorry about the loss of your bestie. I know I'd be lost without mine.

I can tell that today is the day before a holiday - my phone has been quiet and so has my email, well except for the robocalls and the spam.

Hope all of you have a wonderful 4th, however you celebrate it.

Good night.

Iris

Happy Independence Day! Day plans are just mowing the lawn and hanging out. Tonight we'll watch fireworks.

GG, walking tacos are a small bag of Doritos cut open with the taco meat, cheese, salsa - all the taco fixings - in the bag. You use a fork and can walk around eating it. It might be a Midwestern thing, not sure.

Have a good day and stay safe everyone. 🇺🇲

Good morning

Hope each of you enjoy a relaxing peaceful day.

Jehjeh didnt they smell wonderful when you got quite a few black raspberries in your bucket? Yws and then you knew you would have a good supper.

Good morning

Blackberry cobbler, goodness oh so good. I love the smell of it cooking. I know what I'm hungry for now.

I'm glad you explained what walking taco's were. I'd never heard of them before. Walking taco's with blackberry cobbler for dessert - I could get into that.

Zetta you need to be careful. Slow down when walking around corners maybe.

HB, what a day you had with your mom. Your a good, no, your a very good daughter. You've got a lot of balls you juggle very well.

I've had a migraine for two days. My med's aren't touching it, which is odd. I'm on a daily med to keep them at bay which has worked wonderfully. An occasional breakthrough migraine, but not many. Until this one, ugh. None of my normal tricks are helping. DH just walked by and said "will this is new" and kept walking. I have my sunglasses on inside - that helps a tiny bit.

Screen time isn't good, hopefully back later. Let's be safe everyone.

Morning,

Iris, I only wish to be Superwoman. I fail often.

We did not leave our place yesterday. First set of grands here around 10am to pick up their boat, of course there was an issue with something but DH to the rescue, lol.

DH's younger brother stopped by for a short visit.

We started early morning, and DH had all the meat done except for the burgers and dogs. My kids got here at 12 (only an hour late) and by the time DH had burgers done, DD and I had all the food out and ready. The whole island and the side counter were full. DD made a berry trifle with a cream cheese and cool whip filling adorned with strawberries and blueberries. Sent everyone home with leftovers and we still have enough that we will not cook before we leave tomorrow and will meet BIL in Scottsboro to take food to him!

We spent the afternoon at the pool until we just got too hot out there. Everybody went home around 6pm full, tired and happy.

If there were fireworks last night (I'm sure there were) I missed them as DH woke me from my couch sleep at 8pm to go to bed. I was whipped.

The sky is just turning pink so I'll get up from here and go feed the chickens. We have identified the egg eater. It's Frick. As soon as she lays an egg, she turns around and devours it. She'll have to have some crate time when I get back from the camping trip.

Have a good day and I'll BBL.

Good Morning all.

Eaglemom— I do hope the migraine has subsided. They're such a miserable experience.

Carl— I hope you and your son enjoyed the fireworks. That story about the supermarket is so sad. I'm not a fan of fireworks in the hands of non-professionals especially when there's alcohol or children involved. I did give DS the warning to avoid them at the party he was attending. You know the old mom peptalk— Don't subtract from the population, don't add to the population, don't do anything that lands you in the back of a police car, a hospital or the newspaper. Have fun!

His one friend is really into them; said friend was rather subdued this week after a train crash in which he was engineer. There was no fault on his end; a couple of teens who'd been drinking plowed into some tanker cars at a grade crossing and were badly injured.

Lorita— I suspect living in a rural area, stores wouldn't bring in raspberries routinely as they're very expensive and ridiculously fragile. Especially if blackberries are readily available. Speaking of expensive produce, I bought a Pink Moonglow pineapple on the markdown table the other day. These usually sell for $10 but it was only $2.50 so I picked one up. It was sort of disappointing. It's not as intensely flavored and the pink color is kind of dingy.

Iris— Were you and your friend out early in the day? I drove to mom's and then niece's house and had clear sailing both ways starting at around 2:30. I made it home in just under an hour including the drop-off at mom's place.

Jerilynn— That sounds like a nice day. What does one do with an "egg-eater" like Frick? Can she be rehabilitated?

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The party went well. DH bailed as I suspected he might; his BP was running low, so he stayed home. Mom had a blast. She was a little goofy and unfiltered. I suspect this is kind of a generational thing more than anything. Like she marvels at fathers competently engaged with their kids or men preparing food as if it's some miracle. The Millennials and Gen Xers tend to give her the side-eye. I heard all about tattoos on the drive home. She's not a fan and nephew-in-law has a couple of seriously inked sibs and friends. I will say that the one sister kind of looked as if she'd been wallpapered in Schumacher from the 1980s.

Nephew-in-law made as much food as Jerilynn—pulled pork, burgers, a massive salmon filet and something called "smoked fatties" which were a filling wrapped in ham and then bacon in loaf form and cooked in the smoker. I tried the French toast version— best thing to ever hit my lips. Seriously. There was a pepper version as well but those came late in the game and I was out of room. All of the friends brought things; there were 5 fruit salads in rotation. The most interesting contribution was from her friend's husband who hired a water slide-bouncy castle which turned up at 8am just as he texted her to expect it. Aside from dropping the water pressure from the well, it was brilliant. The kids were happily distracted and living their best lives. One of the neighbor's goldens even swam for a bit.

My idiot BIL has Covid and didn't come which suits me fine. He's always trying to ingratiate himself with mom. The niece with whom I don't have a relationship wasn't there, but her daughter was there with the mom who adopted her. It's an open adoption and her mom and I used to interact a lot; I'm the one who supported my niece through that pregnancy and early postpartum. It was pretty clear niece wasn't going to keep custody of the baby because of mental health and substance issues. As a family member I was offered the chance to foster/foster-to-adopt the child and I really was tempted but I DH and I were 58/68 and really it wouldn't be fair to her. Her family is local, and she was lucky to have a doting older sister as well. I haven't seen the daughter since she was about 7 so it was a treat to chat with her. The great irony is that the kid looks like me but more like my mom's frenemy sister. I was able to show her a picture of mom's sister which her mom found hilarious. Auntie looks damned good for 89.

Bestie's daughter is still pregnant. They're speaking again; bestie is holding her tongue for a change which is for the best.

Dinner with friends tonight. I think they picked a fancy place rather than the usual small family joints we typically frequent. I'm looking forward.

Have a nice day.
HB